I found out why she has been unresponsive to mine and my friends sistuation.
She has issues of her own.
My sixteen year old brother's journal "floated" around the house and landed in her lap. She read it and found out he was being molested by my dad. Nobody knew. I think it's been going on for years. I found out this morning as he was carted off to jail.
What would you do to help my brother?
2006-11-26 02:04:52 · 10 answers · asked by JASNJ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Not only should they seek counseling, the whole family including you should attend these sessions, keeping this in the family bonds & ties. Molested children should be shown that they are loved without being touched, cause that was there attackers approach. Some people sorta bounce back & continue with their lives, putting it on the back burner so to say. Other people have this situation haunt them for the rest of their lives.
In any given situation the rest of the family should stay strong & fight this together. I, myself believing in a strong family bond would want my closest family to communicate with.
Sorry about your family situation, I hope you all find healing!!
2006-11-26 03:09:29 · answer #1 · answered by yu247365 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I'm so sorry for what your family is going through! It's not going to be easy. My sister had the same thing happen with her husband. He even admitted it and begged to go to counceling! I'm sure he didn't want to go to jail! And he didn't! In my opinion, he should have, but anyway, the point is, they tried to work it out as a family and it just didn't happen. My nephew had so much anger inside! They finally divorced, and my nephew ended up drug addicted and lost his life! Now I hope this tells you, that helping your brother is most important! Don't worry about Dad, or even Mom, right now! Your brother may need you more than anybody! Don't ever doubt that! Even if all you can do is listen, then do that. I really wish you all the best, and please make sure he gets counceling!
2006-11-26 02:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by rebecca_sld 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know you are there for him, and pray. That is all you can do as a sibling. Your Mother is the parent and will take care of the "bigger" details such as getting him counseling, etc. Speaking of your Mother, let her know you are also there to help her in any way. I am sure this is devestating to her and she is feeling a huge amount of guilt and sadness. Help her around the house as much as possible so she can focus on your brother. I'm sorry this has happened to your family.
2006-11-26 02:26:56 · answer #3 · answered by julesl68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was your mom and found out my son was being molested?? I would apologize to him emensely for not knowing. I would love him and make sure he received proper councelling so he doesnt repeat the cycle to his kids (which sadly offen happens)
you need to stand by your brother too.. tell him you are also sorry you didnt know and let him cry on your shoulder if he needs too.. let him yell if he needs too... dont defend "dad" except to say "I wonder if he was molested as well..."
if you were or were not molested too.. you need to say so so people are not wondering
2006-11-26 03:40:10 · answer #4 · answered by CF_ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his journal floated around the house, I would say he wanted it to be read. he was asking for help. sorry, dad or not he needs to pay for what he has done. and the brother needs councaling so he can live a normal life.
2006-11-26 02:52:46 · answer #5 · answered by rhonda j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get him help seeing a physiatrist. Talk to him at his pace. Don't push him. Pushing him could make him retreat into a shell. Let him know your there and will be there to listen, But he might feel a bit better about talking about this with someone who does not know him so intamently as his family. Good luck
2006-11-26 02:09:42 · answer #6 · answered by mommyblues78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and talk to him but if he's unresponsive try and get him to go to a counselor because bottling up his feelings now could send him of the rails later e.g drug or alcohol abuse (tiring to blot out bad memories)it could also cause intimacy problems when he has relationships of his own. i wish you and your family all the best -if you stand by him he will overcome this it just takes time.
2006-11-26 02:13:49 · answer #7 · answered by suz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for you just being there, he will need counciling and just to know that someone is there helps and not to throw blame on your dad just to listen and no matter what if it hasnt happened to you you dont know how he feels,everybody handels things different!
2006-11-26 02:11:43 · answer #8 · answered by Janie Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get counciling fast, if this has happened to him all his life my goodness hes built a shell around him , my prayers are with your family , get him the help that he needs , dont wait
2006-11-26 02:23:40 · answer #9 · answered by sissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him help... like therapy/conseling.... he should get some help, so he can feel better in life
2006-11-26 02:07:47 · answer #10 · answered by Emma aka UMA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋