A man adores his girlfriend, says she's the love of his life, that he loves her so much, see's a future together but isn't ready for marriage. what does that mean?
2006-11-26 02:00:27 · 46 answers · asked by lou 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
he loves you but, he wants to wait a while to seriously commit. also he may want u unsuspecting any proposels. he may be getting a perfect scenario to ask you.
2006-11-26 02:02:04 · answer #1 · answered by question man 911 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are a couple of real possibilities and several others which are less likely. The two most likely are fear and regrets. Some guys know how serious marriage and family are and it scares them half to death. The other end of things follows. Some guys make up a list of goals. The list is of things they want to accomplish before a certain age or before marriage. Marriage will almost certainly doom completing the list. A guy doesn't want to try sky diving and risk leaving a widow. He'd rather risk his life before marriage. A less likely cause might be wanting to keep his options open. He might have fears that this is not right. He might want to be able to run away if things seem to be going wrong. In the end, when all else is eliminated it comes down to fear and regret. If all else has not been eliminated, then you should be concerned with fidelity and other issues.
2006-11-26 02:15:00 · answer #2 · answered by Jack 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to this 110%
I have been with my boyfriend for 7 and a half yrs, have a 5 yr old daughter together, and he is still afraid to sign that peice of paper.
However, He calls me his wife and I call him my Hubby.
What does it mean? Personally to me it's frusterating at times but
when you love someone you learn to stop being selfish and continue to love him and honor him. It will happen and you have to
believe that.
Now on the other hand.. I dont know all the specifics. My man is very loyal and I never have to second guess whether or not he is using me for sex.
Are there any doubts in your situation on this level? If so then you may want to seriously take a long look at your relationship and decide if your willing to stay in it for the long haul. I certainly wouldn't pressure him but you could bring it up casually say on
your first date anniversary. This is what I do. lol
Be open with him and express your feelings. And flat out ask him why he isnt ready. It all boils down to communication.
Good Luck!
2006-11-26 03:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by Rhonda L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its means that even though he loves you, at this moment it time he isn't ready to be the one woman guy. He likes the fact that he can still go out when he wants and with whom he likes without having to explain too much to her.
The only thing you can do is wait, are you ready to get married and are you ready to be a full time wife to him. If you are perhaps you need to explain this to him. The thing is although he loves you and he does see a future with you, he just isn't ready for the whole marriage and responsibility part just yet he wants to enjoy things as they are for a bit longer
2006-11-26 05:25:07 · answer #4 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that I would have no patience with that type of guy, wishy washy, unable to make decisions, leading you on. There is too much to do in life. Can you even picture the guy as a father to your children? I can bet you that you will be doing all the decisions and he would be only the sperm source who will be sprawled on the sofa watching the football game. And might be jobless !
Wake up and find a better man.
He might be waiting for a more secure financial position before he "commits". If you really like him, make more money. Ask for a raise in your job ?
2006-11-26 02:14:47 · answer #5 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who says marriage means commitment..... If he says you are the love of his life and he has never cheated on you why should a piece of paper make a difference..... LOVE is LOVE and COMMITMENT is COMMITMENT whether you are married or not..... But if it worries you that much ask if he would be willing to have a commitment cermony with you and when and if he is ever ready for marriage you can get married...... DON'T try and push him into anything he isn't ready for yet...
2006-11-26 02:05:29 · answer #6 · answered by angelindisguise 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
being not ready with the worl called "today" doesnt mean he will be in the future. Men usually procrastinate on this decision when they are not really sure about their feelings for the woman. yes, the love is there but it could be just "erotic love". Committment comes from a desire within that the game of life is over with him and he needs a garage to park his life in the next decade. when hes damn ready, even twister wont be able to stop him. Give him time.
2006-11-26 02:16:34 · answer #7 · answered by REBEL SAINT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means:
1) He doesn't adore his girlfriend.
2) She isn't the love of his life.
3) He doesn't love her so much.
And 4) he doesn't see a future together.
Apart from that, it all sounds good.
2006-11-27 07:13:35 · answer #8 · answered by Martin P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why mess up a good thing? You can't force him into it or he'll resent you.
As long as you plan on being together anyway, why does that little piece of paper matter? Time doesn't mean much if you plan on spending the rest of your lives together anyway. I'd only be worried if you think he's seeing other women, in which case, getting married isn't a good idea anyway. To be perfectly honest with you, I'd have much rather lived in sin than gotten married...
2006-11-26 02:03:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he might be frightened of commitment. A lot of men are. Doesn't mean he doesn't love you maybe just afraid of the change that marriage will bring. It creates a lot of hard work and resonsibility.Maybe he wants to do some travelling first.
2006-11-26 02:08:54 · answer #10 · answered by Birdman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he's not quite sure about anything and has a case of cold feet. He's human and may need more time to decide. But how long is too long and are you willing to stay by his side if he's not ready when you are? Oh and the daily head thing really does'nt work ... the more you give the more they want.
2006-11-26 02:06:00 · answer #11 · answered by seaangell304 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋