I was with a girl for 6 1/2yrs.& for some reason 1day she broke up with me.Her reasons have changed almost every time I ask her why.Its been almost a year now seinse then.She treats me really good from time to time acting like she wants me back but then tearts me really bad time to time.Then after like 7 or 8 months after she broke up with me she all of a sudden got with a guy 10yrs younger then her.She was with him for like 5 weeks & he went to prison.Seinse hes gone to prison she has had me stay with her for a week sometimes longer.When I do stay with here she akes like if we were still together.I help her when ever she needs & asks me for help no matter what it is.Then she will get an additude kind of with me so then I leave.She hasn't done the same for me (with help)at all.I want to have her back with me.then she'll acts like she love that guy & will talk about him alot when I am around her.I feel like she is useing me & she talk about him to get over me.She say she still loves ME.
2006-11-26 01:57:37 · 17 answers · asked by Robdog420 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I still lover her a lot and want it to work out between us because of our son& because while we were together we were the boom.I admit that when we were together our 1st year to year and a half I F_c_ed up once and cheated only because I felt like she was maybe pushing me away (but she also lost her mother durring this time)and wasn't giving me any attion like she had been &was before.Then after we were broken up I found out & also heard her tell some guys some thing she did that she kept telling me she wasn't doing.She had gotten a job in a titty bar(Which I wasn't rally cool with)but she promessed me& told me that she is &was a waitress & thats it.So I delt with it.I was told then I heard it from her(but she didnt know I heard or was lessing)tell some dudes that she had&was also giveing lap dances to.When she keep telling me over and over the shes just a waitress.Even though when I messed up & cheated when I got home I told her & she said she forgave me.I need help letting go of her!
2006-11-26 02:31:40 · update #1
It sounds like she is using you as the back up plan.
2006-11-26 02:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to here this, is sounds like she was try to see what the rest of the men where like and what she found out was that you were the one she wanted, but the thing is now, now she knows how to get you when ever she wants all she has to do is pull on your chain and you will come running because you still have very Strong feelings for her, this thing is natural especially when you both were going out for so long. I think now you should sit down with your love one and explain how you are feeling and let her know that you don't want to be second in her life you want to be there for eve.
I hope you two can work things out and she becomes your girl again.
Good luck and remember talk to her how you are feeling and what you want out of this.
2006-11-26 02:06:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 1/2 years is a long time. I think she is being honest when she says she still loves you, but maybe its more of a friendly thing. Its hard to break attachments like that, but she has clearly moved on, to browner pastures it sounds like. And I think she is pretty much jerking you around. She wants to have it all her way, and its not fair. In my opinion you should cut off all contact with her and tell her you cant be friends until youre ready. SHE broke it off, now she owes you the respect to let you get to a place where YOU can be friends. If she cant do that, I think you should consider if you want that kind of person in your life at all.
2006-11-26 02:03:05 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Nolie ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Letting go will not be easy. It will take effort. You need to start taking a different avenue and put your energy into something else. Start going out with friends and just enjoy yourself, dont make it your goal to find a replacement. You need to truly find yourself again, you have been way to wrapped up in her drama for too long. You dont deserve a roller coaster ride and neither does your son. He must be really confused with all of this too. I hope you can find the strength to live the life you deserve.
2006-11-26 03:03:47 · answer #4 · answered by jesswonderin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she is using you. Good old Robdog will always be around to pick up the pieces and help her through her problems. You need to stop being a doormat and find someone new. Have some self-respect. She only wants you when she needs help and then you come running. Stop this pattern. You deserve better.
2006-11-26 02:01:41 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's totally using you. I would dare to say she is testing her manipulating skills, she is checking how far you can go for her and how much you can take.
Her ego is a main character too, treating you like an object may make her feel powerful and strong.
Don't let her get away with it. Stop being so eager to help and be with her. Make her miss you and if she really loves you, she will come back.
2006-11-26 02:03:55 · answer #6 · answered by Curious_£iz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like shes using you because she knows she has control over you. i wuold cut or break some of the ties let her be on her own for a bit. If she really wants you she will come to you about it. but maybe you will realize you deserve so much better than the run around darlin
2006-11-26 02:01:18 · answer #7 · answered by mommyblues78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow 6 yrs that is a long time i know you must really love her. I think when you decide what you want you will have peace.
If you let her make the decision it will never happen cause she knows you'll be there when she needs you and wants to use you.
Good Luck.
PS i think you deserve to be with someone that will make you happy.
2006-11-26 02:01:04 · answer #8 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's using you and playing with your emotions. First she's cold, then she's hot..then she goes off with some other guy...but as soon as he's unavailable she brings you back into the picture. You're a permanently available booty-call/boyfriend when there's no one else around. She doesn't love you. What she's doing doesn't demonstrate love. You're better off cutting her adrift and finding someone who will treat you with respect.
2006-11-26 02:01:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 22:51:15 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does'nt really sound like she's still into you. She has no respect for you whatsoever and is more than likely still using you because she knows how you feel about her. It's time to find someone new honey.
2006-11-26 02:02:39 · answer #11 · answered by seaangell304 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋