2006-11-26 01:34:03 · 14 answers · asked by Ella M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yes parents don't get given a manual when they have a baby unlike a car, so yes i think they do
2006-11-26 02:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe my parents did the best they could with what they had. Raising eight kids isn't exactly easy. Especially when most of them are boys. I'm the youngest in my family, sure it wasn't always easy, i always got beat up on by the other.
But in turn my parents where ALWAYS fair with what they gave out, i had a hard time growing up with my mother who was never really around, and because i was only allowed to see my father on weekends, it was tough to get to know either of them.
Life is hard sometimes, but they tried, and pushed to make us all happy. No matter how much i thought i hated them at times, when i thought they weren't being fair, they where. And are still just looking out for me.
You may think your parents don't love you, you may even think they don't care, but they do. Their lives revolve around you, literately, its just a shame some people don't see this until its to late.
Everyone should love respect and answer to their parents, no matter how old you are, they wont always be there, and no one will ever be able to love you as much as they do.
2006-11-26 09:46:06 · answer #2 · answered by joka145 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! There is nothing I would change about my life. Parents are just like everyone else. They have to learn to be parents. It's not like they can get a book and read up on the subject. Life is just a learning experience, for both parents and kids. I'm very proud of the way that my parents raised me and the values they instilled in me. And trust me, they truly had their hands full when I came into this world.
2006-11-26 10:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think they did the best job they could based on what they believed and what they knew. However, I would never raise my children with legalistic beliefs of my parents. I don't resent my childhood; my parents loved me and did what they thought was in my best interest. I felt very loved as a child.
However, as an adult, I am very disappointed in my parents (my mother in particular). She seems to have no boundaries at all regarding where her life stops and my life begins.
Mothers in particular need to realize that when a child grows up it is not a personal possession of theirs.
2006-11-26 10:52:01 · answer #4 · answered by dixiemade 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both my parents were raised in dysfunctional families. My mother was an immigrant, whos mom had a lot of men come in and out of her life... and gave her five younger brothers to help raise. My father was raised in an alcoholic family where physical abuse, verbal abuse, sexual abuse and wife swapping was the norm.
I think with will each generation tries to make it better to not repeat the same mistakes their parents made. But both my parents tried to bury their emotional pain through alcohol addiction and repeated some, but not all of the mistakes their parents made. I was also raised in an alcoholic family. My coping skill became to isolate myself so I wouldn't get hurt, and I carried this into my marriage and relationships with my kids.
So we try our best, with what we're given, and we change our ways as we learn from our mistakes. I think God see's the whole picture and doesn't judge us the way people do who don't see the whole picture. God forgives us much easier than our own familys do. We are only human.
2006-11-26 15:07:13 · answer #5 · answered by :-) literary cappy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was in them to be a caring, loving parents, then they did the best they could with what they had. Not all people are programmed to be 'parents'! All our life we heard that our natural instincts would kick in once our baby was put in our arms." This is not true! Some never share that bond of closeness with their own blood. Its genetic. Some parents are just good at organizing and taking care of responsibilities, and this can appear to be signs of a 'good parent'! Which is just good business. There are far few people with this special gift.
2006-11-26 10:47:45 · answer #6 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents certainly did try their best under their prevailing circumstances.
On our part, we do have to understand that their parenting skills have been "caught" from their parents. Their challenge has been to use what ever they knew to raise us in a fast changing world. To put it simply, they were using our grandparents' ways to raise us up - kind of scary, if we think about it; but they did try their best.
2006-11-26 09:53:50 · answer #7 · answered by Xavier 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heck yes.
who would want to fail and have their 30 year old still living at home and relying and them for everything .... If you are lucky after 40 years your parents will say they did something wrong but they did not know better at the time.
I was mad at my parents for awhile and when I told them what I saw as an unjustice as a child and they explained their actions and I got over it
2006-11-26 09:39:07 · answer #8 · answered by G L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure that's all they could do was try I mean we didn't come with a manual ya know if we did they wouldn't read it anyway because it would be thicker than the one your TV or microwave came with....Learn from experience is the name of the game
2006-11-26 09:36:51 · answer #9 · answered by *CiTsJuStMe* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They were too young to know how to raise children and too proud to give us to someone who knew.
2006-11-26 10:25:53 · answer #10 · answered by Muslimah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋