scares the **** out of me.
I'm 18.Hugging is fine,kissing is OK,but...
I wanna be like the other girls.A friend suggested therapy.What kind of therapy?What can a therapist do for me?
2006-11-26 01:13:18 · 29 answers · asked by Shauna O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What bothers you about it?
I have met women that had no idea what to expect from sex, but never a full and complete revulsion for it, more of a panicky fear.
The therapist will help you get to the bottom of these fear and allow you to deal with them
2006-11-26 01:16:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you do need to address this problem. It will impact your whole life. You do need to find out what grosses you out about an act that everyone else loves. It truly is one of the most wonderful things in life. So for you to find it disgusting is not normal.
What about it grosses you out? Do you know what sexual intercourse is and how it works?
Why would being intimate with another person make you feel this way. Either you have a completely warped view of what it is or something has happened to you that makes you feel like this.
Girls your age love sex almost as much as the guys if it is the right guy. If you are able to hug and kiss....have no problem with that.....what is it about taking your clothes off and making love that is so horrible for you. Is it the thought of him seeing you? Is it the thought of seeing him?
One thing you should know. If you have seen porn and that is what turns you off you need to know that once you are in the picture it is not that way. All the difference in the world from watching someone else do it and doing it yourself.
The only good thing about this is you won't get pregnant until you work this out. If you think intercourse is gross you will really hate having a baby.
Talk to someone about this. You really do need a professional sex therapist. Yes they do exist. Your doctor could refer you.
Please don't get me wrong I am not saying you are abnormal. Not at all. You just have this problem to work out and you will be fine.
2006-11-26 01:32:13 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, good for you for not buying all the hype of this culture. I don't think sex would gross you out if you met the right guy and you had a relationship. I think sex grosses you (and me) out when it's cheap and disposable and every where you look people who barely know each other are doing it and then wondering "if he likes me" after the fact. It's a screwed up world, maybe you are just little old fashioned and there is nothing wrong with that.
2006-11-26 01:19:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand where you're coming from, I used to feel the same way you do. Before I met my boyfriend sex seemed really gross and scary. I always thought I could never do it, there was no way I was going to let some guy touch what's rightfully mine. But, since I met my boyfriend, my views have changed, I really love him and sharing those things with someone you love becomes...not so scary. I think you just need to meet the right person, it worked for me. Best of luck!
2006-11-26 02:10:51 · answer #4 · answered by IndiHippi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although i don't feel the same. I see where you are coming from... but it's okay. When you think about it-- sex is an invasion of privacy and something that should NOT be taken lightly. When you find the one you TRULY love.... sex will not gross you out.... it's having to wait that makes you think you need therapy...
2006-11-26 01:17:49 · answer #5 · answered by curry_lover4ever 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it can be really gross, with the wrong person. When you are with the right person, it's great. You're very young yet, I wouldn't worry about it too much I think it's nature's way to keep you from doing something you might regret right now. I was a virgin till my late 20's.
2006-11-26 01:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by freedove06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes sex can be seen as sordid, or as something bad....but it is the most natural thing that two people can engage in.....i think you probably need to speak to some one about the way you feel....something is blocking your thoughts about sex, either that or you are comparing it to something gross......i hope you get the required help you need. Good luck.
2006-11-26 01:22:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lil Mama you are still young so I would think that is a good thing, just wait until you find the right person and then you will feel more comfortable with it. Trust me I know.
2006-11-26 01:19:14 · answer #8 · answered by 2sexy 2cute 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do think therapy is good for you. (and I would, if I were you)
Who knows? If there is anything deeper problem, and the thought of sex grossing out is a part of what is appeared.
Good luck.
Or... it could be possible, that you just found out yourself of being homosexual. Many people think they are straight, until they oneday discover themselves.
2006-11-26 01:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by davegesprek 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you dont even need a therapist! You just need to realize the fun and enjoyment of sex. Have you ever even had sex before? Maybe you should try it before judging it.
2006-11-26 01:17:03 · answer #10 · answered by boy_skowting 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋