How does it affect the parent & siblings?
2006-11-26 01:10:46 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It can effect young children growing up in two different ways. They can grow up and have issues from their parents not being emotionally and physically available and become drug abusers theirselves or they can learn from their parents example and see first hand how drugs destroy lives (which is rarely the case though) and decide not to use. Having parents who abuse drugs causes children to often feel unloved and unwanted because the parent is either too busy chasing the high trying to score or once they obtain the high too high to focus on the child's needs. Children of drug abuseres often grow up being teased and singled out as well in school because often times drug abusers will spend whatever they can on drugs and thus resulting in the kids having worn out old clothes in which the kids piick on them. Also if the parents are using drugs often times the kids don't get to develop healthy friendships with those they do get aquainted with because the parents don't want their children bringing their friends over because they may see something and tell someone. I am the child of an addict. I was cooking, cleaning, and raising my brother who was 6 years younger all by the time I was 8 because my mom would get stoned and pass out and I knew if things were not done my step father who was also a user would come home and beat her. I had no childhood, no friends over, and despite my dad making $14/hr. which was damn good money 20 years ago (he was what the refer to as a functioning addict whereas my mother wasn't) I wore old tattered clothes because there was no money for clothes left. I grew up feeling that drugs were always better than me, that they took priority to my mother before I did. As an adult I still struggle with those issues. Also having parents who abuse drugs means them having friends who are less than upstanding and when your parents are high they aren't exactly capable of being totally aware of what is going on around them with their children and leaving them vulnerable to their criminal buddies for all kinds of exposure that kids should be sheltered from with their parents. It also causes poor concentration in school to achieve high grades because the child when they do go to school is always worried if mom and dad are okay and safe at home. In some children it causes wild behavior because they do not have supervision, leading to juvenille law records and unplanned pregnancies. It's an all out bad situation that causes a lifetime of scars. And if the parents ever do get sober, it will ultimately cause them a lifetime of regret as well when they look back and see how detachted from their child as they really were. If you know someone who is abusing drugs, please encourage them to seek help and guidance from NA or other drug counseling clinics because it's just a whole nest of bad. It has such a ripple effect in more than the ways I just listed...I don't have enough charachters to allow for me to list them all. Unfortunately my mother never did get clean, and my chidlren still today suffer similiar disappointments with her that I had. Luckily they have me to shelter them and to explain the world to them, I did not have that advantage of comfort when I experienced all of this. If you know anyone who is abusing drugs I simply cannot stress enough to encourage them to get help and if they won't then you need to speak up to other agencies who can intervene and enforce the help through the courts.
2006-11-26 01:30:50 · answer #1 · answered by slinkster 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These are the traits for an adult child of alcoholics, but can relate to other drugs as well... I have ALL of them, being raised with both parents as alcoholics
. Guess at what normal is.
2. Have difficulty in following a project through from beginning to end.
3. Lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth.
4. Judge themselves without mercy.
5. Have difficulty having fun.
6. Take themselves very seriously.
7. Have difficulty with intimate relationships.
8. Overreact to changes over which they have no control.
9. Constantly seek approval and affirmation.
10. Feel that they are different from other people.
11. Are either super responsible or super irresponsible.
12. Are extremely loyal, even in the face of evidence that loyalty is undeserved
2006-11-26 07:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by :-) literary cappy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it has a huge affect on all the family, when you have a member of the family that are taking drugs they often start to steal from you aswell, this is hard for there parents as they dont want to fall out with them but at the same time they cant be trusted and everyone else in the family are angry at them for what they are doing. im talking from personal experiences and in the end you have to let them go and try to forget about them, i know it sound harsh but if they are beyond help and have aslo been given chances then its not fair on the other members of the family
2006-11-26 01:20:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just reading this makes tears come to my eyes. I'm 15. I havent seen my dad since I was 8. he's homeless and in and out of jail, so i've heard. I still see the rest of my (his) family and even my teachers know about it all. It was a terrible scene: he did drugs, drank, and smoke for those 8 years of my life, and then he threw himself on a glass table and went to the hospital for a few days. Our family ended then. It feels awful, especially when your teacher comments that you never want to be like those "losers" who hang around the Jack-In-The-Box, and you shudder because you know all 5 of them, including your father....
2006-11-29 17:01:20 · answer #4 · answered by Amber H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may tear aside and divide a kinfolk. The kinfolk's existence would be crammed with lies, denials, blames and a ton of finger pointing. the toughest area is to get somebody to realize and have self assurance that they easily have an alcohol or drug issue, as quickly as you are trying this, then you somewhat can start to get them help to sparkling up the subject. I went via this and it actually divided the kinfolk via persons' mendacity; and now he needs forgiveness...bull$hit!!
2016-10-17 13:47:08 · answer #5 · answered by quinteros 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the parent has to provide too much attention to the drug abuser and the other children start acting up to get attention,
the drug abuser starts to steal from everyone to get money to support their habit
2006-11-26 01:16:47 · answer #6 · answered by rich2481 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
not had anyone take drugs in my family so i would not know...but i assume that it could destroy a family who have drug abusers around them...
2006-11-26 05:40:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It destroys the family. As a mum it breaks your heart over and over again. I hate all dealer's scum of the earth.
2006-11-26 01:32:28 · answer #8 · answered by beverley 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
becuase when on drugs you do and say things you normally wouldnt. my brother recently commited suicide when he was on drugs and you can olny imagine the pain it has done to us
2006-11-26 01:52:34 · answer #9 · answered by Victoria 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It changes priorities.
2006-11-26 01:16:16 · answer #10 · answered by Paul E 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋