I forgive... but.............?

Question

what would you
a) think ... and
b) do.....
if your future mother in law went around telling the lie that "people told her that you are a meth freak or that you do meth" and those things she said were in documents that are going to go before the courts in your futrure wifes upcoming custody / divorce hearings, and then you found out that that mother in law was going to move out of state before the hearings ever happen??

Answer 1

Take that ***** to court!

Answer 2

If what she says is not true-face it in court and ask for proof when it comes up.
If what she says is true-stand up and face it like a man-take the consequences.
Sounds to me like you have some serious issues. Somewhere you need to clean up. You are about to marry a woman who is going through a custody battle-you do have problems. You have probably caused all of your problems, and maybe a few for others as well. You need to take a serious inventory of your life. If you want help-I will be glad to try. you can email me and start a dialog.
One thing for sure-if you are facing court with your future wife in a custody battle-you "do not" want to make your future Mom in law mad. If she has the "goods" on you, you can already lose. But, It can be worse. Don't do anything stupid. Try to come clean with mom in law. You need her on your side-not against you in court.

Answer 3

Wow that's horrible, I had something similar happen to me a few years back I was a live-in babysitter for my cousin and suddenly one day she kicks me out of her house (I had no car/license at the time and nowhere to go I live 30 miles away from where she is) and locks the door behind me I had to walk atleast 3 blocks carrying a trashbag full of my belongings and a little fold-up cart, and to top it all of it was starting to storm, to the nearest payphone she owed me almost $300 for babysitting so after trying to deal with her civil like I took her to a mediator and she was trying to say I abused her children and leaving poopy diapers lay open on the floor for the children to play with and let them drink spoiled formula and stuff like that......but anyways in your case I would sue for slander before your mother-in-law leaves the state if you start the court preceedings and she is served before she moves I think by law she has to stay in-state (not positive but she will have to come back for court anyways) I would think you could take her to small claims court for slander I would sue her for the maxium allowed in your state for damages it usually only costs about 40-50 dollars to file in small claims court and if you have documented proof she said these things thats even better, taking her to court will atleast teach her a lesson that you just can't do that to people....goodluck with the custody case

Answer 4

Volunteer to take a drug test. That should prove to the courts you are clean. Also, I would pass along the message that the future mother-in-law is not to be around me or she will go to jail due to the restraining order I obtained.

Answer 5

I would: A) Talk to future MIL and ask her just who told her that and ask her if she had seen the documents herself. Don't accuse her of lying, be nice as can be. Just let her know you really want to get to the bottom of these rumors before they can hurt her daughter.

B) Never, ever talk trash about MIL even if your future wife does. Even if she agrees with what you are saying no one wants to hear their spouse talk badly about their family.

C) REJOICE when she moves!!!

May you be blessed with a long, happy marriage.

Answer 6

Forgive, yes. Forget - no. We're not asked in scripture to forget or to be a doormat. I would definitely reconsider a relationship with this girl! A relationship with a person is a relationship with the family - make no mistake and don't tease yourself into thinking otherwise! If you are not willing to forego the girl - get into premarital therapy (Christian counseling would be ideal if you can find a good therapist) - fast!!

Answer 7

I suppose what you say is just hearsay if there not proof. If, this information is used in court and there no proof, you may be able to bring slander charges against her. May be other things too, I not sure. I guess you should forgive, but, that not mean you can not prosecute.

Answer 8

ok im a little confused, your future-mother-in-law sounds like your engaged to marry, yet you cant be engaged to someone who is still married, anyway, if i was not a meth freak, i dont think i could either forgive or forget what she did

Answer 9

To forgive does not mean to continue to allow bad behavior. It means to get your emotions detached so you can act rationally concerning this event.
To become a true leader of men. What would a true leader do?

Answer 10

i wouldn't worry about them if there not true . go to wall-mart and pick up a drug test and take it in front of them people as soon as possible to show them the truth BUT people make their mind up the first go around cus if they change there minds what will their friends think of them and the people that they talk to about this trying to convince that you are a drug addict so in a sence that no matter what you say to some people they will never leason . and get a good lawer.

Answer 11

we have an unnerving ability to destroy others with our tongues and no more so when we seek revenge,so I would advice you to let this go before you become eaten up with anger and revenge.
you know the truth in this matter and the truth always finds a way to reveal itself.