I just don't understand how an attraction could be this strong (and it's mutual), and yet there's always some reason we don't get together. I don't understand this. I know it's "unhealthy" and "wrong" of me, but it's just not getting any better. It makes me question life and what it's all about.
2006-11-26 01:01:20 · 11 answers · asked by charleston chew 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i totally understand what you're going through, i have experienced that and my only advice is to do your best to forget about him. I know it is hard but the truth when you really want something or someone so badly, the person knows and uses it against you. Sometimes, it is to boost their self esteem. Ask yourself why you guys cannot get together. Is it because he is always finding excuses not to get together? If so, it maybe a game that he's playing. I have learned the hard way but time will tell you if you really want this guy. Sometimes we tend to want somebody because we cant have them but as soon as we do, we realize that we were just chasing a fantasy. The attraction is strong because you cannot have him and he knows it and maybe loving the attention. Ego has a lot to do with it too, but the best thing is to let go. If it is meant to be, it will happen naturally.
2006-11-26 01:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get off the infatuation and lust and just stop seein or being around the guy, the reason you DON'T get together should obviously be reason enough to AVOID being another lousy sorry a*s homewrecker that has nothing else to do but ruin relationships....and homeboy shouldn't even be in a relationship either if his sorry behind feels MUTUAL.....jeezus christ people just can't get the ballz to find someone for their own.....always gotta have everyone else's piece of the pie....ya'll are like freakin flies....annoyin as HELL....there's over 6 million people in america, at least 1.5 million dudes..and i know it' s a far off approximation, but still it's in the millions, that's still a big a*ss number, why da HELL do you want to get caught up with someone already taken? Damn there's all these single dudes that are just as good looking, and hell probably even BETTER than the dude you want....and yet..you're gonna take the guy that's taken....well if anything do the poor girl being eventually cheated on a favor and give him some, then telll her so she can dump his lousy a*ss for being an unfaithful bastard...she obviously deserves better.
2006-11-26 01:18:08 · answer #2 · answered by Dennis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not abnormal,this happens. So he feels the same way? What are the obstacles that keep you from each other? You married? He married? Just sit back and relax a little. If these are the cases, you have some soul searching to do. Don't do anything you will wish you had not done. Life is not alway fair, but if you two are meant to be together its gonna happen. Good luck
2006-11-26 01:14:28 · answer #3 · answered by missy j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we dont know if he is married or not. If he is married, cut off all relations, you should never be with a married person. If he is not married, then why don't you ask him this question yourself openly and see what he says... that is the best way. If he is really attracted to you that much then he will go for it.
2006-11-26 01:11:23 · answer #4 · answered by faith 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obsession's never a good thing to have in a relationship! it signals inequality in emotions! maybe you guys need to slow down and take a good look at this "strong" mutual attraction.
2006-11-26 01:08:26 · answer #5 · answered by johnavaro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your college could furnish counseling sessions which could be partly or totally funded by your college training and fees. attempt to talk to somebody for soem suggestion in this rely. they might have the potential that might assist you triumph over this.
2016-10-04 09:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lick a girl. Try it and you will be intoxicated by something for sweeter then a forbidden man!
2006-11-26 01:09:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy crap. Um, find someone else. I know its hard, but you HAVE to get over it. Start fresh. Maybe they'll come back when u got someone else. Then decide who you like more.
2006-11-26 01:05:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
exactly the same has happened to me..i was madly obsessed with a guy..ever since my childhood..i spent my adolescence,my teen..infact 10yrs brooding over him in vain..but he only avoided me..but now...i hav suddenly found a new person whom i like and he likes me too..and i hav made up my mind to accept this new guy to get over my frustation...and then blow up my old flame's life...i am determind to take away his happiness...do it lady!!..
2006-11-26 01:12:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to cut off ALL contact with this person ASAP.
2006-11-26 01:08:16 · answer #10 · answered by evilbarrister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋