Why are teenagers mostly don't make good choices?

Question

Some teenagers are dealing with drugs gangs and ext... Why do teenagers mostly do bad things to them selves?

Answer 1

The number one reason is "peer pressure"...peer pressure plays on teens inexperience and is often hard to resist because they have a strong and natural need to belong and to be accepted by others...to "fit in"... many teens think everyone is involved in risky behaviors like sex, drinking, smoking, and drugs and that these are glamorous and will make you popular if you do them.

Answer 2

Sorry, it's the parents. I'm a parent, too, however, I also worked as a clinical therapist and often times people would say, "What's wrong with that kid?," and I'd answer, "His parents."

The reason: because most parents do not know how to parent -- we are not taught from an early age on about good parenting skills -- either we are lucky enough to fall upon them, or we don't -- and the kids pay the price.

By the time a kid is a teenager, it's too late most of the time. The lessons of learning how to make good choices starts as a toddler (an infant doesn't know yet). "Good" parents will be able to guide their child into making good choices, to teach them independence and living skills, and still set boundaries and limits with rewards and consequences.

It's a very simple rule that must be abided by, and the parents must ALSO follow that same rule because the children see this:
"Good choices give you a good life; bad choices give you a bad life."

Some teens are lucky and find "good" friends or mentors or activities that keep them out of trouble and lead them into something productive -- many don't. It is up to the adults in a child's life to guide them into a better future. Don't blame the teenagers, when it is the adults who raise them and set the examples. Teenagers are like wild stallions -- they need to have someone rein them in and show them the path, and they will respect you for that in spite of all their protests.

If you are a teen, make good choices because you will soon be an adult; if you are an adult with a child/teen, provide a good example and be honest, and consistent -- and show how making good choices will make good results.

Answer 3

From my experience, I felt I was grown and knew more than the adults around me. It was not a formulated thought, just one deep in the back of my mind. I can't say I turned to drugs or gangs but I did screw up a good career by having sex. I was supposed to enlist in the military but became pregnant because I thought I was ready to have sex. I was wrong and now my children are paying for that decision. I love them with all my heart but when I made that decision I tried to fix it with another poor decision, I got married. We were both too young and things then became violent. I was then a single mom trying to raise 3 boys on minimum wage. It was heart breaking to have to tell them I couldn't buy them something or go somewhere because I didn't have the money. As a matter of fact, we are still in that situation though it is getting better. Now as an adult I have been able to find someone who is going to make an amazing husband and a magnificent father figure for my children. Too bad it has taken 10 years for me to get to this point for my children.

Answer 4

There have been studies done showing that the area of your brain that helps you to make wise decisions is still developing until you are nearly 20. For this reason teenagers are at a mental disadvantage when it comes to decision making. Couple that with poor parenting, peer pressure, hormones and a sense of being invincible and you have you typical dumb *** teenager, God love em'. Luckily most of them (including those of us on the other side) some how survive, all depends on the support system around them and good old luck : )!

Answer 5

Not all teenagers make poor decisions. Some excel. But it is a smaller percentage. Decision making is something you learn. It comes with an acceptance of responsibility. It is hard to accomplish the growing up into a young adult stage without parental support. A lot of parents just panic when they are not dealing with a child anymore. Without that commuication then teenagers have to rely on another source for information. Usually wrong information. I tried to give my kids some freedom with decision making. I had better information and more accessible information than most of their friends. My kids can usually make a right decision.

Answer 6

They have only been able the dress them selves of less than 10 years and do not get me stater on wiping their own. So just what could a teen truly know about the world. TV and the movies all try and tell them their parents of dumb as rocks, So they can sell them stuff. It is the hardest time in any ones life. They think they know it all and they are the ones that found out all this new stuff.

Answer 7

well it's usually their upbringing, but more often than that it's because they are trying to fit in with the so called "cool kids" parents just have to try their best to keep up with them and teach them that drugs and gangs are hazardous to their health, that and teenagers aren't the smartest people I know they have to learn from their mistakes and your teachings.............Don't get me wrong though if the kid's gonna try something the outcome is not the parents fault they learn from experience, I wish there were more youth groups around then maybe kid's wouldn't get so bored and seek out things like drugs/gangs and then when they are adults they will look back and see all there friends lives ruined and be like hey I'm glad I turned them down when they offered me that joint or beer, I know from experience what it's like to feel like I'm on the outside looking in but looking back now I'm 100% sure (although I lost alot of friends through the years) that by not giving into peer pressure I made the right decision because people I thought were just so hot and cool in school look horrible and act horrible not many people would associate with many of them now because they are disgusting

Answer 8

Lack of experience in live. So it's very important to heed the advice of adults like your parents etc. There is that raging hormones also. Combine lack of experience and hormones gone wild, bad combination. Education plays an important role also in helping you make the right decision. All these sound like cliche but they have been around for a long time if not centuries, for a reason. Because they are true.

Answer 9

this is becaue society has set up good and bad, teenages are finding themselves and wat to see if they beleve what society has put down for them, they want to make their own dessisions based on their own findings. in the 60's they did sitins and protests, this is a modern way of expressing and experimenting

just ask yourself are all the choises adults make good?

like teaching your kids not to lie, wen u do it yourself etc?

its morals and other stuff, but when they grow up it will be them that are making the desions of the world, so better the find out wahts 'wrong' now rather than later.

some1 shud tell bush that

Answer 10

There are a lot of reasons.Some of them may be:punishments, taking away privileges, other acts of treating the kids as our properties and with lack of respect, not enough attention at home, not letting the children become responsible,etc.Using positive discipline while your child is growing up,helps him/her become a responsible,confident and happy person.That's why a lot of parents throw out old and inefficient methods,such as yelling,spanking, punishments,taking away your child's things,etc.