I was SAYING THAT I WAS GIVEING HIM HIS SPACE AN WHEN I GO TO HIM HOW DO I APPROACH HIM?

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WHEN I GO HIM WHAT DO I SAY FIRST CAUSE I DONT WANT TO GO WRONG I JUST WANT TO POUR MY HEART OUT AN LET ME TELL YAL THIS WHEN HE GETS MAD HE SHUTS DOWN HE STOPS TALKING THAT IIT . WHEN I FIRST STARTED TALKING TO HIM I THOUGT IT WAS GONE BE ALL ABOUT SEX BUT IT TURN INTO A RELATIONSHIP SO I FELL IN LOVE WIT HIM I USED TO TELL HIM AN HE SAY FOR REAL SO I ASKED HIM TO LET ME IN HIS HEART BECAUSE HE HAD BEEN HURT REALLY BAD AN HE DID IT WAS HARD BUT HE FINALLY LET ME END THATS WHY DEEP DOWN IN MY HEART I KNOW ITS NOT OVER SO .WHAT THE DEAL ON THAT LET ME KNOW

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Answer 1

You gave me the best answer regarding your boyfriend telling you to collect your stuff. You are really stressing over this guy arent you? How do you approach him? Just be honest with him. Be upfront and tell him what you are feeling. You are so lost at the moment and the only person who has the answers is him. There is no right or wrong way to approach him...you just have to. The important thing here is to understand where he is coming from. It is either over between the two of you, or he still wants you. No-one can tell you this. He is the only one who has the answers. It is terrible to be in limbo and that is where you are at the moment. Are you afraid that he is going to tell you that it is over...is that why you dont know how to approach him?

He is a human being, he is no better or worse than you. You are his equal and you have every right to know where you stand with him. Stop pussyfooting around him and just get to the point and ask him. Ring him up...tell him you really need to talk to him. Ask him to put aside some time so the two of you can get together to sort things out. You obviously love him...but that in itself may not be enough. First things first....you need to know how he feels....once you know that, then you will know what to do. At the moment you wouldnt have a clue. Only asking him will give you the answers. Dont let him manipulate you...dont let him have everything his own way. If you are confused and he holds the answers, then you have a right to know where you stand. You cannot move forward with your life if you are left hanging on a string. He said he needs his space....how much space does he need....is there a time limit, or does he expect you to just hang around until he decides to let you know whats going on.

I think its time you took matters into your own hands. Its time you took control of this situation. Just be honest and upfront because you will end up going crazy hanging around wondering. Just take deep breath and say to yourself that you are this guys equal, then phone him up, and in a confident voice, tell him you need some answers and you expect he will give them to you. Dont get into an arguement....state your case clearly and concisely. Do not let him put you off. Tell him you need to know in order to move on with your life if you have to. And if he still wants you in his life, ask him what it is that he wants from you. Tell him you are prepared to compromoise, but unless he talks to you, you cant do anything to make it better.

I wish I could be of more help because it is obvious you are very troubled by what is happening. Just get the courage to call him, and if need be, demand an answer. You have a life too and you cant wait forever until he decides what he wants. Your life and well-being is just as important as his is.