well my bf keepin contact with his ex gf even he know that i dont like that,he sayin he still have business with her and he wants to help her ,he had long term relationship with her,he dont want even to get rid of her pics and want keep them as memories, he told me before few days that he still miss her, i love my bf so much , i dont want lose him so what can i do?,should i accept that?,does he still love her?,please help me out!!!
2006-11-25 23:47:34 · 17 answers · asked by cathy j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too..If your not comfortable with his contact with his ex (and this is your prerogative, your not wrong to feel this way) then he should respect that..The pictures he should put away if he doesn't want to get rid of them..they should be put in a box and stored away..it sounds to me like he may still have deep feelings for her and has put your feelings on the back burner. Talk to him about how you are feeling and tell him this is one area where you will not accept it..Stand your ground..it may cause you to lose him feeling this way but you deserve to be put b4 an ex gf..
Good luck with this one. again you are not wrong to feel the way you do..i'd feel the same way especially if there are no kids involved
2006-11-25 23:58:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sit down with ur bf and tell him how u fell about the situation at hand if he loves u then he will understand that u feel he is not being fair to the way u feel and that u love him and he doesn't seem to be returning it as he should but instead seems to be trying to live in the past relationship that is now gone.
2006-11-26 07:53:23 · answer #2 · answered by Benjamin S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear so sad after reading ur message dont worrie god is great if he is still in love with her ex gf dnt worrie u make him feel that he is fit for nothing and when he feels that then ask him if in his place u have done the same job whether he could have tolerated.
dont worrie just neglect him for few days later he will back of u like a mad guy
2006-11-26 07:53:17 · answer #3 · answered by john h 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry Cathy ! Most guys try to move on from their past relationships when they have been kicked to the curb, but this sounds like you been used until his girlfriend came back around once she found out he could do better than her, This sucks I know, The next time you get into a relationship check their past history out before things do get heated up in your relationship together. this will prevent this from happening to you twice in a row, experience is the best learning tool to live by, and there's no book out there that will tell you what you've gone through to get your self in this mess, But I will tell you from the word of wisdom, your young enough you'll bounce back better than ever before and the next guy you meet will be 10 times better than him too. it just may take time to get over him before this time comes. and yes he still loves her, no Man hangs on to a women's picture this long and not love her. good luck Cathy And the best of luck finding Mr Right Or he may end up finding you too.
2006-11-26 08:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by puppylovetfp.com 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well they once had a close relationship maybe they still love each other but thats okay if he still cares about her its hard to just not care for someone you once loved although sometimes its further than that like it could jeperdise your relationship, would she ever get back with him? cause if not you have nothing to worry about you love him then maybe youll be able to tell whats going on between them. Maybe have a talk with him about it and see why he cares so much about her and ask if he would ever leave you if she came back for him. Hopefully everything works out for you babe!
2006-11-26 07:52:11 · answer #5 · answered by sarahhxoxo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
trying to hold onto him more or showing how much you care abt his attitude to his ex will only make it even more difficult for him to love you more. People never cherish anything that is completely theirs, show a little more attitude the next time he seems overly concerned abt his ex, be special this time, make urself seems unconcerned. He'll be surprised abt ur reaction and start worrying abt his value in your heart & behave better the next time. show him that u too is worth cherishing.
2006-11-26 07:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by alvineager 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont think you are guna keep this man if he dont drop her he will still want her ... and he will close his eyes and think of her when you two are at that moment that should be your moment .. uno when you two explode together the only reason any man should be in contact with an ex is cause of kids involved like my case if she is gone you "Cathy" should be his focus and his wallpaper or screensaver on his phone......hope this helps
2006-11-26 07:54:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
get rid of him his ex will always be no.1 you better let go before he does it wont be pretty if you let him do it besides you will feel better if you do it your dignity will stay in tact
handle your business girl there is someone out there that will love you and only you (besides god that is)
2006-11-26 07:59:06 · answer #8 · answered by PASSION 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO U SHOULD NOT U NEED TO FIND SOMEONE THATS ALL ABOUT YOU AN HE IS NOT YEA HE RIGHT HE STILL DOING HER THATS THE BUSINESS HE TAKEN UP WITH HER BUT SOON OF A LATER AFTER U LEFT HIM HE IS GOING TO RELIZE WHAT HE MISSED OUT ON HE'S GONNA COME BACK RUNNING THE SEX HAS TO BE GOOD ,IF HE IS NOT FORFILLING YOUR EVERY NEED ITS NO GOOD THE SEX IS GOING TO DIE OUT RIGHT ALONG WITH EVERYTHING ELESE
2006-11-26 07:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by sweetazzgurl901 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you shouldnt have to accept it but from what you told me i think he's still in love with her and apparently he doesnt love you......so if i was you i would just brake up with him before he brakes up with you......Good Luck & Happy Holidays
2006-11-26 07:59:14 · answer #10 · answered by krystal_loves_you88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋