Okay so im almost 18 and ive kept my virginity for this long and nowa days thats rare. I dont want to stay a virgin till im married but i just want advise on how big of a deal it is.
I mainly just feel if i loose my virginity im loosing a part of me like i wont be the unique me anymore because i kinda like being a virgin because i get more respect.
On the other side its just sex and i sorta feel like im missing out no im not gunna go ******* everything that walks but i think its experience and fun that i wont be able to get back like my teenage sex years lol.
Whats your opinion if you had a choise would you like to stil be a virgin and if your in a relationship with a girl does her being a virgin make you feel more serious about her...
Your opinion on this whole thing plzzzzz
Oh and girls when you lost your virginity was it really a big deal like should i choose wisely on the guy when the time does come??
2006-11-25 22:30:13 · 27 answers · asked by sarahhxoxo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
trust me, the only thing you'll regret is that you just throw it away for "fun" when you met the love of your freakin life, yea its fun but trust me you are not missing out on anything whatsoever, im not saying save it till marriage at all but that dont just do it because u think that there is a biological clock for it like if you dont do it now in your teens you'll regret forever...if you are not in love or really really like someone and had sex i think its a really big waste + regret and tahts something u'll remember for the rest of your life. so not really save it till marriage just give it to the right person. the big misconception is that you wont have as much fun and be a normal teen without sex...you tell me how stupid that sounds...
2006-11-25 22:36:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Some guys make a big deal out of girls being virgins, but ask yourself the question do you really want a guy who makes a big deal that a girl must be a virgin? what else might they make a big deal about. Are you staying a virgin for yourself or for other people?
anyway im sure a girl is more qualified to coment on this than a guy is...
2006-11-25 22:39:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's put it this way: if i was your DAD i would definately prefer that you stay a virgin. I think the issue of being a virgin or not is a bigger deal with GUYS. Unfortunately society will make it a double standard. For example: Most guys think a guy being a virgin a sissy or something wrong with him, and a STUD if he 's had many girls, thus girls look at a guy that way too. A girl who sleeps around may be consoidered a Slt or hwr by many.And a virgin girl is CONSIDERED innocent or pure to some. SO I say you are fine just the way you are.
2006-11-25 22:37:31 · answer #3 · answered by chaseki 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
BAD BAD IDEA!!!! Trust me, all he wants is sex from you. I don't care what he tells you otherwise. This will never work anyway. Please don't lose your virginity to this guy. You can only give it away once. You should be in a committed relationship with someone you love with all of your heart (that feels the same way about you) before doing that. If you do it now, you WILL regret it when you get older. I know you don't want to hear this, but I truly feel that minors should not be having sex, period. The emotional investment is too high. Please, just wait! Teenage boys are just looking for sex. Like I said before, this is true, regardless of what he says differently. I truly truly wish you the best with your situation.
2016-03-29 09:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an old guy, Sarah, but I respect the willpower and morals of young people who save their virginity for marriage. Sex before marriage opens you to a number of unpleasant possibilities, including disease, pregnancy, and just a really unpleasant relationship.
I know that young people today probably dont feel this way at all.
When I was young, my first sweetheart and I never had intercourse. We wanted to, were as hot as any of you have ever been, but somehow didnt.
We were quite young, and finally broke up due to family pressures, growing pains, etc.
After many years, we found each other again, and became engaged. She wanted to wait until we were marriage before we slept together, so we did. Soon we will celebrate 5 years anniversary of the best time of my life. I am glad we waited.
You do what feels right for you. There is no stigma about keeping your virginity. But there are a lot of sleazy people wanting you to lose it.
2006-11-25 22:45:02 · answer #5 · answered by hls 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Oh sweetheart, it's not "just sex". It's probably one of the biggest personal responsibilities you'll ever have to deal with. Maintaining your virginity until you find the one person you're going to spend your life with is the best thing you can do for yourself and your partner. It's also safer in the fact that you won't get pregnant, herpes, hiv, aids, syphilis, gonorrhea or any other nasty sexually transmitted diseases. Go ahead and be unique. The one they talk about because 'she won't put out'. If you stick to your guns and remain whole just maybe you'll find a guy who is also 'saving himself' for the right woman. Wouldn't that be a beautiful wedding gift to give one another? And don't kid yourself there are guys out there who are virgins too. Hang on. Don't be in a rush to do what everyone else is doing. That's why you think it's "just sex". It isn't special anymore because no one respects their bodies and their moral values anymore and it has become "just sex'. Good luck. Stick to you guns. Be the one who didn't give in and give it out just because everyone else did.
2006-11-25 23:21:33 · answer #6 · answered by valducci53 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't feel forced to do anything.
We live in a society that ostracises anyone who doesn't play by the money-making rules.
Sex is a massive part of society and the media; it is given inflated importance because it sells so easily. This is unfortunate if you take a moderate and pragmatic approach to sex as you do. Pressure to conform actually comes from the media and the cultural climate.
By choosing to remain a virgin (and be open about it) you're actually showing that you're strong and not swayed by society's coercive opinions.
Its not abnormal to be a virgin, whatever age. Supposedly we live in an age of tolerance, so why do people think virgins are abnormal? Everyone is different, but it takes someone special to have belief in yourself.
2006-11-25 22:41:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Its not a big deal to lose your virginity, honestly. The first times never going to be that great because youve never done it before. I lost mine at 13 and it was pretty crap, but i dont regret it, not for a second. Im rarely in a relationship with a virgin girl, but if i am i usually take their virginity...lol. But only because they think i would respect them more if they arent virgins. Which i supose i do.
2006-11-27 09:26:22 · answer #8 · answered by KaZ 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well as a matter of sparks i mean fact, it is advisable to enjoy your teenage years as what your age really does. Hanging out with your friends a lot, dating, and chatting. No serious committment at all. And don't go for something sexual if your mind and heart are not into it. It is not that you miss being one of your peers, it is how you deal with life and decision. You might regret it if you'll give it to someone whom you don't really love and you did it just for curiousity. I mean you can enjoy sex if the right guy comes and the best of it if he'll be your husband. Just don't rush for something if you're unsure with this. You can enjoy teenage life without it until you're ready for it.
2006-11-25 22:44:47 · answer #9 · answered by herzae 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
y do you even feel that stayin a virgin or not is a question in life? don't be so pragmatic & overly concerned about it becoz u wouldn't wish your future bf to be as concerned about whether you are.. the truth is chances the guy u loses your virgin to is going to be the last guy u shag or your forever hubby is .. 10% or lesser. get over it. You will lose it when you feel that special moment coming.
2006-11-25 22:48:36 · answer #10 · answered by alvineager 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋