I love a girl and told her that aswell.But she just wants me as a friend.She's always to nice to me and I told her all I want is to see her happy and smiling for ever, even if shes with some one else (because she's seeing some one else).I do stupid things to make her feel special.I sent her flowers, made a special card for her telling her I love her smiles and wrote a poem for her.I txt her everyday and call her every now and then just to talk to her.I just love to make her feel special and that worries her alot that I'm not happy because she doesn't love me back.She's just too nice for a girl.I just dont know what to do because I can't get her out of my head.I'm 26 and I never ever told a girl before her that I have a crush on her. Is it worth spending my time telling her she's special ? I'm worried she might hate me someday eventually because instead of loving me because I'm too sticky.
2006-11-25 22:12:28 · 9 answers · asked by HotRodTechie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey, here's my advice, because I've been the GIRL in that situation before.. I don't think you should give up on her, I know that it's hard because she's dating someone.. but just stay by her side and continue being her friend. Because you never know what can happen in the future. And one main thing about relationships that ive learned.. they NEVER work out if you aren't friends first.. because you get too close too fast and then it all comes crashing down. And even though its hard for you right now, you and her are in a great position to build a friendship.. and when this guy shes with now cheats on her or breaks up with her or becomes an asshole.. she's gonna be running to you cause you've been a friend to her this whole time and have always been there. Just be her friend and wait for her to come to you with open arms. Maybe dont be so into the whole sending flowers and writing poems and all that stuff just yet.. even though thats really romantic! But just calm down with that stuff cause you don't want to risk her telling you to get lost.. cause it may confuse her while she's in a relationship with this other guy.. so just be her friend. Talk to her a lot, let her know you're there for her. I was in her spot once, and now I'm going out with the guy (you in your position). I was dating someone.. and he became an asshole, but I had another guy who was my best friend the entire time, and after i broke up with the jerk boyfriend, my best friend was there for me and it meant a lot to me.. and i realized how lucky I was to have had him the whole time.. even though i had a boyfriend! So I gave him a shot.. and everything was perfect cause we had already built that friendship.. so our relationship just took off from there. I've been dating him for a year a half now and I love him to death. So don't give up just yet.. just be her friend.. cause you never know what can happen :) good luck!
2006-11-25 22:33:40 · answer #1 · answered by Naomi F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny, i'm in this same predicament, except i'm 16. I know this girl whose the nicest person i've ever met. I have feelings for her, i've told her, and i always try my hardest to make sure she's happy, or i go out of my way to make her something special for her birthday or for a holiday.
It's hard to know what to do. But, what i'm thinking of doing, is trying to get another girl. Like, try to find another girl to focus on. I'm not saying use her to make the other girl jealous, but maybe it'll help you get over said girl. I know this sounds like a horrible romantic comedy movie plot, but it could work in your favor in two ways. Either you really connect with the girl you try to replace the girl you love with, or the girl you love will realize how much she misses all your presents and you making her feel special, and realizes she really does love you.
I hope that helps...
2006-11-25 22:25:50 · answer #2 · answered by Thew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 13:43:44 · answer #3 · answered by saleh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey...Love is just two way around. But for you.. its just one way around. The girl might so proud enough to have an admirer like you, she might boast it in front of her friends and will say.., 'I have a faithful admirer'. You know what? turn your interest to someone else..the thing there is how? Because you think that she's the only one for you, the only one you likes...but if you look at it inside..there's much more to explore than to just have one girl. Your still young..enjoy..Don't locked yourself for just one girl and no inerest on you. Give yourself a credit. Have a respect for yourself, don't be a slave over it. Have a little shame on yourself that she does not need you...It only takes time to focus and mind switching...It works...
2006-11-25 22:30:32 · answer #4 · answered by joan_kol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,you are right,chances are good that she may hate you for been sticky.Some dont understand how special they are despite of us doing all that we probably can to make them feel special.But,through my own experience i have learnt that its not worth our time,energy and emotions.If they dont acknowledge what we give,that is,lots of love,its better to give up on trying our best shots,coz no matter what we do,that shall not make any impact our dear ones.Instead,give all that love and care to someone who needs and values it.But at the same time,i suggest you to maintain friendship with her.I know it hurts when someone whom we love doesnt love us back.So if we still continue we are just wasting our valuable time by doing nothin for ourselves or to others.Dont worry,You have played a great role by proving your love.You have done it really well.You may have plenty of love to give,so give it to someone who truely appreciate and deserve and make them feel special coz they are truely special.
2006-11-25 22:30:39 · answer #5 · answered by Sheeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your intuition is correct, your attention is going to make her feel uncomfortable. Don't send her flowers, don't call/text her every day. She isn't interested in you, you have to accept that and move on. Seeing her too much will just become an open wound for you.
2006-11-25 22:18:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she's lucky,but if a girl doesnt like and just wants to be friends,she means it.but who knows?maybe she'd learn to love you too..u just have to patient though..but dont know till when..
2006-11-25 22:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by black r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if all she wants to be is friends then just be that you will never be anymore then that im afraid but if your always there for her then i would be her best friend . i would rather be friends with someone then have them hate me
2006-11-25 22:18:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well with me its same, i have done that.
it doesn't help.
2006-11-25 22:32:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋