Is it just me or do all you guys can't stand a girl who says.."let's be friends" or "We're just friends"...so when I hear that I just MOVE ON and those girls all freak out. I tell them, "look , I don't think we make good friends, if I wanted a friend I would ask BOB, LARRY, or STEVE" but these girls cry and beg me to be their friends. I think it's IMPOSSIPLE for me because I want to "DO" more than what NORMAL friends do. SO I would feel heck of alot better if you GUYS can agree with me on this...DO YOU AGREE with me??? why or why not??
2006-11-25 21:53:18 · 22 answers · asked by chaseki 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
TRUST ME i am reading every answer on here! high 5 to the MEN (no women yet) who KNOW what IM saying and AGREE
2006-11-25 22:03:54 · update #1
If I have feelings for a female that she doesn't return the LAST thing I want to do is torture myself by hanging out with her day in and day out knowing that our relationship will probably never go any further. Having to hear about her dates with guys who actually have a shot at what you've been trying to get. Being so close and yet so far...like waving a glass of water just out of reach of a man dying of thirst. Cruel.
As for staying friends with a chick you've just broken up with, Hell no. Want to remember the good times? Keep the bond alive? Sounds like clinging to something that's dead and gone. Forget it. I have no contact with any ex of mine nor do I want any.
2006-11-25 23:04:19 · answer #1 · answered by Dark 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I kind of agree with you..
I mean I'll accept the friendship to be nice and end it clean instead of messy like sobs and tears and hitting.. etc..
But I totally agree that you can't be friends after you just broke up unless you were friends before, I mean you could still be friends but you'll totally forget about each other and all.. Whats the point of saying that beside being nice tho?
2006-11-25 21:57:58 · answer #2 · answered by Shadowfox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to move on. When a woman says she just wants to be friends, it means she doesn't want to date you, but doesn't want to hurt your feelings, either. That's why the girls freak out when you do choose to move on - they feel that they've wounded you mortally and don't want to be held morally responsible for your inevitable suicide. Of course, girls who think like this have an overinflated opinion of themselves, and don't realize that most rational people would rather have a simple, starightforward break than to have things drawn out either as "friends" who have no real basis for friendship in the first place.
Of course, there is a male equivalent to this: rather than wanting to be friends with a woman he doesn't like enough to date seriously, a man will just continue sleeping with a woman (if she lets him in the first place) until somebody better comes along. Also not exactly charming, guys!
There's a simple solution: if you're not good enough for somebody in the beginning, you won't ever be good enough for them. Recognize it early and move on.
2006-11-26 00:16:09 · answer #3 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are brave! Asking women to agree with you! LOL. I have a lot of male friends who are just friends, in fact most of my closest friends are men. There are also those who I would have wanted as just friends but they wanted more when I didn't and the "just friends" thing didn't work out so I lost contact with them.
I don't know you or those women who just want you as friend but don't you think it might be possible that they are just not interested in you and that this is their way of telling you, trying not to hurt your fellings?
2006-11-25 21:58:25 · answer #4 · answered by IC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah I agree. My GF of 7 years cheated on me and now calls me, and e-mails me saying that she still wants to be friends. Screw her the lets just be friends line is a load of crap. I think the only reason a woman would want to be friends after a relationship is so she can have the satisfaction of seeing if you are better off without her.
2006-11-25 21:58:52 · answer #5 · answered by jmethod81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see exactly what your saying you like them as more then just friends sometimes and they just want to be friends. I'm guessing you have plenty of friends already and dont need to many more and since they arent intrested in a realtionship. Then they become kind of bland and dont suit you anymore since your looking for more and they cant seem to come to terms with. How you can want to date them but not be "Friends" with them. The are two answers to this first is there is a big difference between a realtionship and a friendship. But the one im going to have to go with is you cant please every one man. Sometimes you just got to put your foot down if you down want their friendship you dont want it.
2006-11-25 22:01:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. I think it can get kind of sticky when people go to talking about just being friends. If two people are going to be just friends then they shouldn't be touchy and try to feel around.. That does not work in "just a friendship".
2006-11-25 22:08:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we ask you guys to be "just friends", we wanted to keep the bond and the good times we've spent together, because normally, when a relationship ends, its the bond that still brings 2 people back together,and that's important..but I know that you guys just dont wanna be "friends"..why?
2006-11-25 22:03:47 · answer #8 · answered by black r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will only be friend if the girl want to be "Friends with benefit"
I agree with you 100% because I can not control my hormone with girl who just want to be friend.
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2016-10-13 03:27:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋