My kkid is 11 year old and he really bad. He watch porn movie and talk about sex in school. I don't know what to do , i can not use time out, take away his stuff or anything like that ( no spanking).what method should i use?
2006-11-25 21:37:53 · 16 answers · asked by ghgh 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If you limit your options out of the gate, you have a problem. Smack the crap out of him and take away all his stuff.
2006-11-25 21:39:46 · answer #1 · answered by icynici 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well, you could keep the television and computer in a common room such as a living room or family room for better supervision. Go through his room and check for any inappropriate materials and get rid of them. You are going to also want to sit down and have talk with him about it. Maybe you could make an appointment with the school guidance counselor to further discuss the situation and possibly the school could help with some more suggestions.
Being that he is 11 I am guessing he is in 4th or 5th grade. This is about the time they start having the sex ed classes in school so I am guessing this is a normal part of growing up and your son is fine. Just make sure he is well aware of any consequences that may occur if he decides he's interested. Once he hears them hopefully he will be deterred from considering it.
2006-11-26 09:04:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all deal with the real issues.Did he ever see u having sex or at least talking about it.If not it is bad influence or it is a stage he is going through maybe puberty.To solve this ,maybe call his father,a friend or call a man he respects to talk to him.Change him from that school.Find out who he used to discuss this with .Then monitor what he watches.If u give him pocket monthly ,he should tell u what he does or did with the money.Also tell him that after geting married that he can have sex whenever he wants to.I know that as an 11 child he wouldnt want u to read him stories so you can buy him good books to read,and threaten him that if he ever watches porn movies or talk about sex that u will ground him and he will loose his pocket money for 2 months.You will see that he will change,if he doesn't send me a mail at my website which is data4life11@yahoo.com ,trust me ,it always works.
2006-11-26 06:19:15 · answer #3 · answered by D girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is he getting the porn and what is the school doing about the way he talks..
And YES, you CAN take away his stuff. You bought it and you can take it away.
Thinking and doing a little talking about sex at 11 is very normal but if you think he is going over the top then maybe the family needs counsling.
2006-11-26 08:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have to accept that your kid is not bad. He needs your time. Give him enough time at home, play with him, talk with him, say good stories at bed time and during story telling you have to put your good thoughts in the form of story. Above all you have to do self counseling as children may not listen to us but they do imitate us. If possible find the source and the friends to whom he does all the things and try to limit all.If problem persists send him to another school. One thing you have to keep in mind that you have to devote enough time for him you cannot escape by saying that I can not spare time. Make a spiritual atmosphere at home watch spiritual channels most of the time in TV till you child gets in the conscience age.
2006-11-26 05:59:11 · answer #5 · answered by bihariraja 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be practical and logical and always use the power of knowledge. teach him the right way to be. teach him every thing he should know of the medical and physiological areas, as well as the fact that he is not bad. just maybe intense. be there for him as a parent but don't forget to use your imagination. maybe spend more time outside join some sort of soccer or the like. most of all don't forget in what you believe as a person.
2006-11-26 05:44:59 · answer #6 · answered by purplemonkey6662000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a kid, kids do anything to rebel... All kids talk about sex, but looking at porn that young is strange, you seriously have to take away his porn, or atleast ask where the hell he is getting it from so young...
2006-11-26 05:41:24 · answer #7 · answered by Amethyst 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he seems to have a hard time going through puberty, is all. dont take it so seriously, but be aware; he needs to have a serious talk with an adult, perhaps, i would say a male, because he would not be able to cope with a female at this stage, and you dont count, you are his mother, in his eyes, you have no sex.
2006-11-26 05:41:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try positive discipline.That really works.There are books about it - the main title is "Positive Discipline" by Jane Nelson.There are such books for preschoolers, teenagers, single parents,etc.
2006-11-26 08:31:47 · answer #9 · answered by Livia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't have a kid but have younger brother, already a grown up and married. he went thru this stage also, one factor was being involved with wrong circle of friends, bad influence. talk to your kid but if he is uncomfortable talking to a mother, does he has a father?, you know man to man talk. or any uncle will do.
2006-11-26 05:43:02 · answer #10 · answered by ladyhawke 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So no time out no taking stuff no spanking huh?!! so did you leave anything for uas to say???
2006-11-26 07:51:59 · answer #11 · answered by Maro's mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋