It's been 11 years now since I've been in any kind of relationship with a woman. I've got cancer and do not have much time left. I've been told everything under the sun from I'm not good looking enough to "I don't want to be with someone that is going to die soon." Everything has started to decline over the past few years and now that I've started losing teeth I fear that no one would ever want me. What can I do?
2006-11-25 21:17:17 · 15 answers · asked by Higurb M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I never knew you felt this way. It's hard to grasp hold of the fact that you passed away Sunday morning. I'm sorry you died sad and alone. If I only knew sooner.
2006-11-27 06:44:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anna M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its past 15 years for me and I dont have cancer. I have a wife tho. But dont tell them gals you going to die. Heck just keep looking and try them dating service sites. I am horny as heck and if I could get 1 yes on 100 no's I be happy. Maybe you are better looking than me and have some better odds.
2006-11-26 06:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by redacatfish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly everyone wants perfection these days. I got really bad depression and I mean really bad, ECT and hospitalised and wife of 19 years dumped me in hospital and divorced me. I went through what you went through but went out with lots of people and eventually got married to a wonderful lady this year so just keep trying, take the knocks and something will work out even if it is only a friendship. Personality is more important than looks.
2006-11-26 05:24:04 · answer #3 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, I'm sorry for your tragedy. While I don't know your situation, let me say hold out hope, and be determined. Doctors have been wrong about terminal patients before.
Second, let me cut right to the point. If you want sex, find an escort service in Nevada, and pay them for sex. Other than that, I suggest you rely of family and male friends for support. Women in the US aren't good emotional partners, period, they only want money, and don't really care about a guy beyond his paycheck or social influence. I could point out numerous proofs of this, but the one I will focus on for your benefit (and to shut up the tons of females and some men who will say I don't know what I'm talking about) is this: if women love such nice guys, why haven't you been with one for 11 years.
Most men get jerked around 40+ years trying to find a decent woman, to find out that women aren't really all that anyway. You don't have that time, so let me lay it all out for you now: American women suck, foreign women aren't much better, but their living conditions and upbringing keep them from being worse, if you get married here in the US you stand a 50% chance of being divorced or losing all your property, you stand a chance of losing all of that if you even cohabitate with a woman. Don't believe me, check out blowmeuptom.com, nomarriage.com, do some searches on Glenn Sacks, and check your US census figures. Once you're satisified that I'm not just making this stuff up, here's the rest of my advice: don't waste the rest of what time you have left looking for a special woman. If she bumps into you fine, but don't go looking, cause chances are she isn't out there, and you may not have the time to look. Live your life, find your brothers, and feel free to share your pain with friends and family who will help you out. But don't rely on a woman to complete you or give you solace, beyond sex, which you can pay for. Life is too short, regardless of your situation.
I'll keep you in my prayers. Best of fortune to you.
2006-11-26 05:39:14 · answer #4 · answered by Reckless Ronin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Join some cancer support groups. Do not live in fear, live with gusto, live life to the brim until the bitter end--that enthusiasm will sweep up others into your wake. I know it sounds like an empty platitude, but you do have to change your outlook and attitude if you want to get with someone. Good luck, you are brave to still search, you have to live your life to the fullest.
2006-11-26 05:21:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if your telling the truth there would be other things you should be worried about other than being with a girl. If that's your number one priority and you need to do it soon hire someone to be with you since that's all your concerned with.
I just think it's funny that you are in that situation and your thinking about that more then getting your life in right standing with God and those you love.
2006-11-26 05:22:10 · answer #6 · answered by calimexgirl!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that...damn, I don't know. I would say keep looking, but I know thats the last thing you want to hear. Well, just keep your head up, man. If it continues to be too difficult to find a woman, just chersih the other things in your life, such as your family and friends, and if you have them, your children. Women can be extremely shallow and pendatic, so it won't be easy to find one who had sympathy for your plight.
2006-11-26 05:22:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anthony R 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pray. Talk to Jesus. God has a reason for everything. Pray for your salvation, also. Just ask Him to forgive your sins. God loves you, and He may also reveal a human angel to love you through the rest of your days on earth.
2006-11-26 05:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's strange how no one lives like they're going to die until they really know it's going to happen soon. perhaps you shouldn't worry about finding a woman. perhaps you should concentrate more on finding yourself.
2006-11-26 05:21:47 · answer #9 · answered by chasing amy...? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been single and womanless for ten years and don't miss it. And, no I'm not gay. I'm content with myself and it's fun to have money all the time for whatever "I" want.
2006-11-26 05:23:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋