i met this guy over the net. i got attracted to him because he seem to be very nice and very innocent. i never told him the real me, i show him pics of a pretty girl and pretended im an aussie. everyday we talked on the phone for 2-3 hours, and for 2 months of constant chat and calls, i have fallen in love with him as he is with me. my problem started when he decided to give our love a try, he purchased a ticket for sidney australia. i was about to tell him the truth but i couldnt afford it. what will i do?
2006-11-25 20:48:55 · 20 answers · asked by lynn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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Happy the eyes that can close.
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2006-11-25 20:55:16 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're best bet in your situation is to get on the phone with the guy and tell him the whole truth. Tell him you lied and ask for forgiveness. It's the best you can do, if in the end he did have feelings for you he will co thru after a little while. He'll need his space after you confession. Give him space. Only he could decide after your confession if he's willing to forgive everything.
Also, just a friendly advice: Talk to him on the phone about all this, it will make the apology more sincere and not leave any room for him to consider that you might be lieing again, because emotions are better noticed on the phone rather than the internet. Good luck.
2006-11-25 20:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is it that you couldn't afford?? You didn't let him fly there and just not be there did you. I hope not. That is worse than any thing you could have said to him. if he hasn't jetted off yet , you need to step up now,That's the right thing to do.
You know chatting over the net, is suppose to be fun, everyone makes up stuff and shows pictures that are not of them , never to say their age for real, and how do you know he hasn't done some of those himself. (any thing goes for what i hear). So if he hasn't jet off and you really find him to be of great interest, then I might suggest , start with you have a few confessions to tell, before you can go any further and if he needs to confess a thing or two, now it the time, making you both on the same page.
good luck and i do wish you the best
2006-11-25 21:15:50 · answer #3 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you're not dating, you two are just talking about on the phone. Have you discuss a possible relationship, if not, she can talk to whomever she wants. Secondly, she's on the rebound and you're her rebound and since you both have a history, she feels she can confide in you because of that history. Thirdly, unless you're both dating you have no rights here. Demanding that she call off her relationship with this other guy is not your call, its hers. You can tell her that you don't want to hear about it, but ultimately in the end, it is HER call. Fourthly, you have no right to say anything to anyone and should mind your beeswax, again, this is her history with this guy, obviously the break up for her was hurtful, which is why she keeps bringing him up. So don't tell him anything, if you really want this relationship and friendship, let them work it out on their own. She's not ready to move on, she's needs to be on her own, with no relationships in order to heal. If you continue this relationship with her, you're the one who is going to lose, mark my words. She's not ready.
2016-03-29 09:19:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! You are the worst kind of freak I've ever heard of. He is spending thousands to come see you and its not even you. You are the reason on line dating has a bad name. Tell him NOW You will probably hurt him no matter what you do now, all you can do is come clean and hope he doesn't hate you too much. I don't' know how you can live with yourself. You should have told him long ago...
2006-11-25 21:53:04 · answer #5 · answered by Jim V 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is the internet alot of people make themselves sound better than they are. l met someone on the net we talked for 3 years before we met. she was totally differant than l expected she even lied sbout alot of things. lt's been over a year since l've last seen her but we still talk and write letter's at least now we know the trueth about each other we may even get back together soon.
2006-11-25 20:59:28 · answer #6 · answered by catsclaw 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you played the fool and fell in love .Tell him the truth .If you want to go further on this relationship that is the best thing to do.Consequences might be bitter but its all the chance you have got.If he really loves you ,which he obviously does he will stick to you
2006-11-25 20:54:39 · answer #7 · answered by Shahzadi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You at least owe him the truth seeing as how he just spent a substantial sum on plane tickets. Supposing it were me you played that way I would dump you. He doesn't love you, I'd say he loves your lie. Depending on how close you are to your lie, he might be able to love you, but if he is smart he will not stick around to find out.
2006-11-25 20:52:31 · answer #8 · answered by DJL2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow, all you can do is tell him the truth about who you really are and show him the real you. If he still loves you then YaY but if not the only person you can blame is yourself for misleading him in such a way.
2006-11-25 20:53:11 · answer #9 · answered by Ash 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
O what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to decieve. There is nothing for it but to tell him the truth, apologize and learn a very painful lesson.
2006-11-25 20:53:27 · answer #10 · answered by Isis 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋