If u have a child with a girlfriend & she don't like the ur children from previou relationship. What do u do?

Question

My girlfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half and we have been living together ever sense. We have one child together who is almost 6 month old. I have two children from another relationship who I have visitations with on the weekends. My girlfriend use to love and adore my kids at first but lately within the last few months she has shown and said that she dislikes them but not hate them. The two kids that I have from another relationship are a 2 yr old and a 6 yr old. My 6 year old just got a cell phone from their mother and is on the phone every 10 mins while she is over my house. My girlfriend and I think it is disrespectful and an invasion of privacy. My girlfriend always says that she wishes it was just the three of us...Meaning her, I and our daughter that we have together. She says that she wishes that they were not in the picture. I am a Prince to my girlfriend & I always make her feel special so it is not that she is insecure with our relationship. Help!

Answer 1

Anyone that states that they, "dislike but not hate", a two yr old is an idiot.

Answer 2

This question would be easier to answer if the two of you didn't have children. To state the obvious you rushed into things with this woman to quickly. You need to sit her down and let her know that just like the child you have together your other children will ALWAYS be in your life, she should love the fact that you are a dedicated father. Deal with it now because soon your older children will know the resent she has toward them. Also its your home so if you dont like your six year old to have a cell phone dont allow her to talk on it while she is there. What kind of 6yr old has a cell phone anyway, who could she be calling! So talk to her now about this and take the phone away while she is at your home. Good luck and be strong for your children.

Answer 3

Well it is a bit disrespectful of your 6 year old to be on the phone every 10 minutes. When she's there make her cut it off and spend quality time with you. As for the rest. I think you need to get a new girlfriend. What would you tell your best female friend or your sister to do in this situation?? Your kids are a part of you. Your girlfriend should love them for that alone.

Answer 4

Be careful. If she does not like your children, she cannot possibly love you. I cannot see how a 2 year old and a six year old cannot be liked. Do you yourself love your children? If yes, then you are better off looking for someone who will love all your children including the one with your present girlfriend.

Your present girlfriend seems to be in a dreamworld. Even without the children from your previous relationship, she seems the type that would attempt to exclude everyone including friends and family, leaving just the two of you to face the world both physically, spiritually and emotionally... a situation which is neither natural nor sustainable.

Answer 5

i'd communicate with this baby and clarify why it became a mistake the first time. Then i'd have the youngster clarify it decrease back to me. Then i'd tell the youngster that this became a severe adequate mistake to warrant punishment and why, and that i'd impose the punishment. i'd have the youngster re-clarify the completed sequence and promise now to not do it again. on the right, i'd say that IF it got here about again, the 2d time the punishment will be better and clarify why, because now the youngster knew that it became incorrect, and that i'd be prepared to carry this out. i do no longer remember on corporal punishment, so the punishment would might want to in high quality condition the infraction and be intently worked out to be perfect in degree. Too many children are abused, even although we do not pick our youthful ones to be out of control.

Answer 6

Whew! Is it at all possible that she was "pretending" to like your children until she got you where she wants you? If so then shame on her. You should advise your ex that your 6 year old is to leave his/her cell phone at home when visiting your house. If she disagrees then you take the phone, turn it off, while he/she is in your home. I have to wonder why she feels a 6 year old needs a phone? Perhaps she knows your new girlfriend "dislikes" her children and she wants to know what's going on every minute. You know us mother's are that way. For her to even say that she wishes your children were not in the picture, is "highly disturbing". Your girlfriend is immature! She knew the situation she was getting into when she started dating you, she made an informed decision. She wasn't tricked into it. She walked into it. She made her bed, now she must lay in it. Never get put in the position where you are forced to choose between a woman and your children. They are your blood! Children have memories like elephants, they are easily hurt and have feelings. Don't destroy who they are for someone who has bigger issues than she is willing to admit. Get rid of her before she hurts your children. Good Luck!

Answer 7

Sounds like you need to put your foot down with the six-year-old and tell him/her that you're not running a social service. If it's the mother not leaving the kids alone when they're with you, that's another matter entirely and yes, is very disrespectful. As for your girlfriend not liking your two kids from the previous relationship ----- eh, you may want to re-evaluate your current relationship if that is the case. You can't abandon your kids (well, in my opinion), but you can't make your girlfriend like them. I think all involved parties need to sit down and discuss some things. Tough situation. I wish you the best.

Answer 8

Well it's great that you always make her feel special, but honestly how can you say that you dislike a two year old and a six year old, i just don't understand that. She must be jealous that she has to share you with your other children. Just because you have a child together now doesn't mean that ya'll can just forget about the other two. You need to talk to her and tell you how you feel. she shouldn't try to push you away from your own children.

Answer 9

Your girlfriends knew about your two children from the previous relationship when you and her got together right? Also, what made her start not liking them? Sounds to me like she is jealous. Has she either straight out, or in a round-about way asked you to choose either her and the child you have with her, or your other two children? If she has (or ever does) break up with her as soon as possible. You deserve someone who will love you for who you are and accept your other children

Answer 10

Her true feelings are coming out, ideally, and in a perfect world this should be a very happy family situation. Your girlfriend should accept your other children as she would want her child accepted should you and she not make it. If you keep having children by every woman you hook up with you are going to have a very hectic life. Yes in a perfect world this would work, but in this day and age it rarely does. I think your girlfriend is being childish because she should realize by now it is not just your immediate family but that you do have ties elsewhere, meaning not to your other babies' mother but to your other children. No matter what goes down, you still be a "FATHER" to your children. God Bless.

Answer 11

I would talk to your ex and tell her that it is causing problems that your 6 yr old is constantly on the phone and you would appreciate it . If you could take it from her and that it only be called unless for emergencies.Your gf has to accept your kids if she wants to be with you. As long as she treats her fairly you can't really expect her to like your kids if she doesn't. But to me your ex is the real problem giving a 6 yr old a cell phone thats way to young for one and she shouldn't be on it all the time. Haven't she heard of the brain tumor thing(not that i think its that risky)