Whats wrong with my dads attitude?

Question

I always stay home and MOST teenagers in our city go out all the time to hang with friends etc. I spent the weekend at my families house in sacramento and when i came back my dad says "All you do is go out, youre never home all that youre interested in is going out and not being home". I have never ever went out through out my entire 16 years of life with friends to go out. I dont even have them come over! I dont even TALK ON THE PHONE WITH THEM! Hes always saying that i do this and that, but its always the opposite. He says i spend my money on dumb stuff, I usually some more than half so i can have money when i need it. He says something everyday that gets all of my brothers and sisters so angry but we dont say anything. Does he act like this because my mom isnt living with us anymore? Or because whenever we go out he never goes, he just stays home and watches t.v. My sister and brother are younger than me and we never talk to him. Just once or twice a day were not close AT ALL!

Sorry if we sound cruel our mom just takes us everywhere and my dad never has. He alianates himself!!! Now my mom is gone he has no one to talk to. Does this explain his attitude towards us. Getting his anger out on us?? He never really got to talk things out with my mom he just let her leave...

Answer 1

Dads depressed. Try talking to him or inviting him to a movie. My dad does almost the same thing. He gets upset and says I don't care about him if I don't go see him for a day. But he's 91 so he's really sick too.

Answer 2

You need to have an honest chat with him (maybe with your brothers & sisters also at the same time). Also, try to understand things from his view and maybe you can become closer. Include him more sometimes in things as a family. This might help alot, good luck..

Answer 3

your dad sounds exactly like my crazy father in law. he's now 60 something is isn't exactly the favorite member of the family. my father in law is currently making his mother cry (he lives with her). She's thinking she did a terrible job of raising him. Sometimes people are just permanently grumpy and take their frustrations out on the whole planet.

All these people do is alienate themselves from their family and friends. It's a shame. There's no possible way for anyone to help them. They'll just resent it, and take the helper down with them. They need to help themselves, and they usually don't want to change.

Answer 4

Maybe his afraid that you'll leave too. Or he could be upset that she left him with all the responsibility and his having a hard time dealing with it. Maybe if you guys all pitch in together and clean the house and cook dinner for him some and try to do all you can to help him his attitude would change for the better.

Answer 5

God sorry sounds like a father from hell, umm sneak out if you can to be with friends, my parents let me travel anywhere as long as i ts in our city and i hav a cell with me...ask him if you can go out if you call thim every half hor and say how ur doing i know it sounds lame but its the only idea i have to get you out there..and both hes depressed after ur mother left and jelious that he is bored and you guys arnt and that u wanna explore more.

Answer 6

it maybe even due his office pressure.As men grow older , their capacity to think and talk decreases and they shout for each and everything. i guess ur dad's above 40 , u know in tamil language there is a proverb which says that the older people(men) grow they keep shouting. try to calm down ur father and automatically evrything wouuld be alright.

Answer 7

He does not know the correct way to show love, that's all.