i just need space and didn't know how to get it so i made the awful mistake of breaking of with my boyfriend whome i love. And i know im a ******* idiot i have been told by to many people on this damn site but i didn't know how much he meant to me till he was gone. I said something to one of his friends about the reasoning why we broke up and he got really mad. We are broken up right now and we were also broken up at the time. He knows i miss him so much and he knows how much i care and wouldn't try to hurt him ever on purpose but then he called me today and told me that he never wanted to speak to me or see me ever again because i told his friend something that was probably sopposed to be kept quite or between us but im in love with him! what do i do? i sent a text apoligizing but somehow dont think that will be enough should i give him space.
2006-11-25 20:21:49 · 19 answers · asked by snowballpoint 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You dont deserve him. Your one of those self serving women who could care less about him until you lose something.
2006-11-25 20:25:41 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Write a letter, once a week, by hand (NOT a text message and not an email).
Tell him about your week, about the times that you thought of him, and that you hope he's doing well. Write about three pages (600 words) each time. Tell him that you hope it's ok if you write for a while and that you understand if he doesn't write back. Do this for two months (8 letters).
1. If he asks you to stop after a letter or two. Stop. (but I think the week between letters will soften him up a bit)
2. If he still hasn't responded after two months. Move on. The pain will be a little numb by then.
3. If he writes back or calls. LISTEN. Don't talk more than necessary, and show remorse.
Good luck.
2006-11-26 04:31:43 · answer #2 · answered by ja3po 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i think you should give him some space first, because he is still coming to terms with the situation.
U shouldn't of told his friend anything.
With guys, real guys if they care about a girl they are never going to kiss and tell, they keep their private business between them and their girlfriends. and dat shows he had a lot of respect for u and u have just shatettered his trust and privacy.
men have egos and now to his friend he feels stupid because u didnt come to hi m to express what u needed 2 tell him.
dats why he's mad
dont call him, if u truly do care about him he will know.
and if it is meant to be and the love is dat tight then he will realize that your the one for him,a nd he will be able to see past this, but give him some space to breath.
2006-11-26 04:30:45 · answer #3 · answered by will's girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not what everybody says. Your not any of those things. You just made a bad mistake. The same thing happened to me 2 years ago and but it wasn't about the space thing. It was more of him not wanting me as much as I wanted him. The best thing right now is to write him a letter about what happend. Time heals all, but it is really up to him if he wants you back. If not, you must face the cold heartedness of it all and move on. Hurts but it's true.
2006-11-26 04:28:00 · answer #4 · answered by tika ukie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
one time a girl broke up with me and then she called me back. i thought wow, you just shot me in the heart and now you want to give me mouth to mouth. thanks, but no thanks. but she wore this really nice dress and it was sunny and you know guys are really just as romantic as you are. i told her i didn't want to get hurt again and she said ok. we've been friends for 30 years. we don't talk very often, but we are always happy to see each other. i only have a few friends like that. i think because she was willing to make the correction since she was the one to break it off i had a lot of respect for her. and i always had respect for her after that.
we had a great big hug and went home together when i got off of work that day. we made up and she decided not to do that again. she says she doesn't even remember why she did it. i was gun shy for sure after that though. but i loved her and still do
2006-11-26 04:38:15 · answer #5 · answered by just a carpenter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he wont talk to you even after to apologized. Then just move on for your sake. I had to break up with and ex that i loved but i did it because it was best for me and i wanted to die i didn't get over it for a year and half. But it was the best thing i ever did. In your case if he wont talk to you then dont waste time worrying about it go out to anywhere movies even by yourself,library etc. I know you love him but not every love can be saved or last forever. good luck you'll find love agian. There isn't much you can do if he doesn't want it .
2006-11-26 04:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give it time.If you two were meant to be together,he'll realize it and come back to you.In the meantime,DO NOT have any communication with him-no phone calls,no e mails and no text messages because that would piss him off and you don't want to come across like a stalker.Give it two or three weeks-time for it to blow over and,when you see him,go up to him and say "Hey-can we talk?" If he says no,then forget him.There;s no sense in beating a dead horse.What I can't understand is why you didn't tell him you needed your space in the first place instead of breaking up with him....
2006-11-26 04:30:04 · answer #7 · answered by the_silver_tin_man 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have succeeded in not only closing the lid on the coffin so to say but also driving in the nails to secure it...
You broke up for what ever reason , it doesn't matter, but if you both agreed to keep the issue between the two of you and you went and blabbed to his friend, in doing this you broke a confidence he had in you, so now he cant even trust you.
You know, now what not to do in your next relationship...because believe me when I tell you, that is what you should be focusing on ... This one is OVER............Period...
2006-11-26 04:38:17 · answer #8 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you love him, let him go. If he returns to you... etc.
The more you push for this, the angrier and more powerful he becomes.
And don't worry. Love is as much chemical as it is emotional. You're in withdrawal, and your body is fiending. Sounds ridiculous, but it's true.
Get some sun, some vitamins, some comedy movies, and plenty of water and music.
You'll be OK no matter what.
2006-11-26 04:25:29 · answer #9 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think its human who makes mistakes, so PLEASE don't call yourself names, it will hurt your selfestemm and confidence level, and this world is too little to get depressed.
i think you should appologizes to him, tell him how empty you feel after he was gone. Tell him it was a mistake and you regret it and want him back.
I want to tell you something when a girl ask a boy back he feels like she will again hurt him or is trying to use him. So please remember not to say something that maybe mistaken for that.
Try to convence him you love him and did all that in a unconcious way.
Better way is to say you were influenced by someone.
i think it will be hard but don't lose hope.
2006-11-26 04:40:15 · answer #10 · answered by Kite man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we have to face our MISTAKES FACE TO FACE. There are mistakes that help US learn and grow more mature. This is just one of the mistakes you must learn to accept and face it. This are the kind that we must learn to STAND UP AND MOVE ON. Maybe it still hurt now but time help us HEAL wounds. Try to remember a wound in your body that HURTS ALOT BEFORE. That wound will help you move forward.You still have a life ahead of you so MOVE ON
2006-11-26 04:40:06 · answer #11 · answered by d pogi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋