i dont want to get married because?

Question

i can't :
cook
have no money
dont want to have kids
have a lousy career.

ever worry for if u get married , yr husband will leave u coz u grow fat , can't cook dont want have kids.

thats what my father always told me .. my husband will leave me because of this..
thats why i find men of my race a bit demanding. ..
what do u think

Answer 1

Just have the sex! Works for me.

Answer 2

Im not sure what to think. I know that men in general can be demanding but don't let that stop you. I can't cook or have money either and my man and I get along just fine. My sugestion to you is find someone on the same things your on. Cooking and money will not be an issue. Also work on yourself as a person to have more money and a better career.

Answer 3

Hi,
you will probably get married to someone who shares your views,
right?
I thing there are men who do not want children.
Why should you become fat???
If you exercise and take care of what you eat, there should be no problem.
And cooking;
many people cannot cook.
So you can buy a good recipe book.
It is not that difficult.
Maybe you find a man who likes cooking, so you can prepare meals together.
There is a solution to almost every problem
Do not let people take you down.
See things positively.

You are strong. If you want something, work for it.
You can do it.

Answer 4

okay.
when you meet a man:
talk to him.
have a long conversation.
then say i have no money, i can't cook, i don't want to have any kids, and my career is fairly bad, do you still love me.......?
if the man says no, move on.
if the man says yes, then try it.
if it ends up going bad try to fix what you did wrong next time.
you can't just go on never trying a serious relationship.
or if you don't like that idea at least you could try harder to get a better career because if you do that you won't have to worry about being broke.
and a lot of people don't want kids but someday you will want them if you think deeply.
and cooking is easy too.

Answer 5

What race are you exactly? & your dad is right partially, those are some of the qualities that us men look for in a woman. Don't sweat it 4 all you know you could suck in the kitchen but be a vixen in the bedroom & the weight issue well i guess that's up to you & your future hubby to talk about, if any man leaves you because of your weight then he just was'nt meant 4 you coz in LOVE we take flaws & all that's what real LOVE is.

Answer 6

Wow, that's about as messed up as I used to feel about it.
There are both major and minor reasons in your description, but trying to make sense of them alongside you is not going to help if deep down you don't feel good about yourself.
You should make sure you get some help, someone male, if possible, because it sounds like your father has given you the creeps about female-male love, and encouraged you to reject your own self!
Don't know about the race thing, I've heard of things like this, though.
Take care of yourself, honey. Love yourself. Find out who you are, even if that's a woman who doesn't cook and has no interest in raising kids. There are far too many people in this world anyway. Sounds harsh, but really now. People should be so bold as to say what they mean instead of forcing themselves to fit into some mold!
Take your own side!
Then, worry about finding love.
I bet you wouldn't even be asking if you were so sure...
Luck, Love, and Peace!

Answer 7

I think you worry too much,just relax.
When someone falls in love with you he won't care about things you listed above.He will love you because of you!And the same thing will probably happen to you too.And a couple can always have an agreement like not having children etc.
You're father was too harsh on you if you ask me.
You really shouldn't worry about that.

Answer 8

You can be whatever you want. You can learn to cook, watch your wieight and kids are a wonderful blessing!

I don't know what race you are, but I think it's about the individual. Take your time and find the RIGHT ONE FOR YOU, and that's not necessarily the right one for someone else. Know what I mean?

Don't let fear rule your life or relationships. Embrace life and love!

Best Wishes,

Sue

Answer 9

You don't want to get married becuase your not ready for it. Lets stop beating around the bush. You need to take your list and make some of those items such as your career a goal that you want to better for YOUR OWN SELF. In the meantime screw a husband- you need to get yourself together

Answer 10

So how do you eat, pay your bills now? You don't need a husband just to be able to all that...you can be self reliant. The problem is not the race of your men, whatever it is...the problem is you sound lazy and unmotivated.

Answer 11

that's not right; if you marry a person that you love and respect you might want to do many things for him; i mean you are not a maid; but you will love to cook together; eat together; wake up to work together; and you might want to have your children from him, that's how life goes; you don't have to think of these things; and if you want to marry a person just because he wants you to cook and do these things you better not to; unless you find a person who wants you for you; and don't be fat; it is always nice to have nice body :)