do i give in to my gf too much. how much is too much.?

Question

me and my gf have been gonig out for about 5 or 6 months. i always tell her i love her when were done talking and i say i miss her when were apart for any extended length of time. i recnetly got her a necklace for her b-day. but when she thinks im not paying attention to her she gets somehwat mad and lets me know til i apologize. i always tell her how much i apreciate her and am glad were together. is this too much? do i give in too easily? she says she loves me more than anything and am the best bf she could ask her but im not sure if she wants something else from me or wants me to change at all

Answer 1

You have to look deep inside yourself...When you tell her that you love her and miss her, do you truly mean it? Love=Commitment=Sacrifice...
There will be sacrifices in all relationships, no doubt. In the end, for a relationship to last, both of you have to understand each others needs and wants. You can't confuse those two.

Sometimes, you may WANT to hang out with your friends. But if your girlfriend NEEDS you, that's a sacrifice that has to be made for a relationship to last.

It's not all bad though, because this goes both ways. Your girlfriend has to understand your NEEDS also. She can't have everything her way, even if that's what she WANTS. Let's face it, no one can.

Both of you need to come to a mutual understanding. If you spend time together everyday of the week...that's bad. You're not married. Set a day, maybe even two, that you can just do what you want to do.

Basically, when it comes to "giving in", you have to know when to say no. Because if you don't, you'll create a dependency. You don't want that.

Answer 2

I'll let you in on something now, women don't like guys to be that mushy all the time. If you tell her all the time that you love her and that you appreciate her, it'll have her wandering and looking for something new. Women like it when guys act like a guy, a bit of a rough neck. You can tell her that you love her but not all the time and don't smother her som much either. I have no doubt that she loves you too but try taking it down a notch. Another little FYI, as wrong as it may sound girls are going to be mad until men apologize and it has nothing to do with you or anybody else. We like to get our points across and will stay mad until we basically get our way so you kind of have to get used to apologizing to her a lot. Now if it's something you feel strongly about or something that you know 100% to be true then stick to your guns but other than that it probably is smarter (or at least less stressful) to just say sorry.

Answer 3

Sounds like a typical woman, and the problems that go along with love. Whatever will be, will be. If you feel you are giving in to easily, then learn to say no, or to not give in-wait longer & see what happens. What you're doing is what most guys do anyways, except for a few of the selfish, egotistical ones lol....

You shouldn't change for anybody-everybody needs to compromise to some extent, but don't bend over backwards.
I hope you're not being played. I hate it when a conceded woman ruins a genuinely caring guy.....

Answer 4

She sounds clingy. A person who doesn't know that you and she need some individual space even while in a relationship isn't healthy. You sound very attentive and she should be satisfied with it. There needs to be a healthy balance.

Also, she may be counting on you to be responsible for her happiness.... entertaining her, etc. That's a bad thing. No one can make another person happy. It comes from within.

You should discuss this with her and find a way for her to also have a life of her own once in a while.... not be so clingy.

Best Wishes,

Sue

Answer 5

It sounds like your being too much of a nice guy. It could be a bad thing because it will make you look like a wuss. Dont apologize to her so much, if you know you really love her and she really loves you, you dont have to explain how much you care about her when she gets mad at you. Dont give in too easily

Answer 6

u will know when its too much. cause only u know your limits. u dont give in too easily because she obviously likes u this way and if u want to keep her then u doing what u can to make her happy. if u feel like some boundaries need to be set let her know how u feel and if she understands then u got yourself someone who u might want to stick around for a while but if she doesnt then its not really meant to be.

Answer 7

Good question! How much is too much?

Its never enough. To please a girl you would probably need to do more than just buying her a necklace on her bday. Common...youve been dating her for five or six months..WAIT..your not sure how long you guys have been together?? I always make a point to remind my bf how long we have been together and i appriciate him in every way..(course, ive been w/ my sweetheart for over a yr..*and still counting*) o-Good luck-o

Answer 8

I do this with my man, except I don't get angry at him. He sees my mood change, and then I get on my own case for being too needy. You need to keep your compassion, but set some limits. Go out together with other people who will give her attention and ease up the one-on-one tension between you.
Good luck!

Answer 9

Dont be so willing and so giving all the time. Females (if you let them) will run you to the ground, have you going insane. do not fall for this...do not allow her to run over you because thats how it sounds.....you are apologizing for everything, constantly telling her how you miss her, .......u dont have to let her know that all time

Answer 10

see what happens if u try and put ur iloveu's and imissu's down a notch. it will make her think and try to re-evaluate ur relationship...she might wake up if she will be in the verge of losing you. inasmuch that u dont want to play games, sometimes, thats the only way to find out..u have to remember some girls are so stupid that when they think u love them so much, they get bored....