i come from a culture that if yr not married by 25 yr considered an old maid.. most of the people around me are already married. i have no intention of settling down soon .. even my younger brother is calling me an old maid .. it hurts sometimes but they just dont understand my rational. its not about signing the cert etc .. its more deeper than dat. sometimes i feel like thay cant wait to sell me off..
and some of my girlfriends who are married are indirectly hinting about the wonders of marriage life etc.. i mean i dont need to hear that ..
what can i do .. why are these people all have this shallow way of thinking??
2006-11-25 19:25:53 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Kids these days want to grow up too fast without taking into account the consequences of supporting a family at an age where they aren't legally allowed to have a job due to their age. Your personal preferences of marriage should be respected by your fellow peers. If they have a problem with it, then don't let what they say about you spoil your mood for anything. I'm 22 not married, and also don't plan to for a LONG TIME....
Anyhow, um, if you are from a community where post-25 marriage is looked down upon, then make a stand and tell them that it's just not the time for you.
2006-11-25 19:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by Cold Fart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They're not really taking the time to know each other either for checkout the divorce rate, so anyone who tells you you're an old maid because you're not married at 25, I'd tell them to kiss off and kick rocks and take your time to get to know the person with whom you'll want to spend your life with, but don't... I repeat don't make the main factors based on what he can do in bed and how fat his wallet is for believe me it's not going to last after a while and you'll be another statistic, so take your time and enjoy life
2006-11-25 19:36:21 · answer #2 · answered by D_RazorSlinga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, if you don't care for marriage, well, I'm with you! No suicide pact for me, thank you. Secondly, you must live way the hell out somewhere if THAT'S your culture because the average marriage age in the US is 31-34. It doesn't make you an old maid... don't let it hurt or bother you! Why do you think NOT being married is so wrong and bad? It ROCKS! You're not tied down or anything! Single life beckons, sweetie... f*ck them. Think for yourself.
2006-11-25 19:33:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Theres really nothing you can do, Just take pride in your actions because they are very sensible ones. Wait until your certain the right man has come into your life until you get married and you will probably be happier in the long run then all these people you know who are getting married too hastily. Then you can always say 'I told you so'.
2006-11-25 19:30:24 · answer #4 · answered by Pandoooo;. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are capable of taking care of yourself, there is no need to get married. Consider just living with someone you love. That way you dont have to deal with a divorce if things dont work out, and you could end up being friends.
2006-11-25 19:29:09 · answer #5 · answered by iturnrocks 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its just the culture you live in. You have to accept that and accept your own view and detatch yourself emotionally from other peoples views. Just live with it without letting it get to you. Just say thankyou for your opinion, but I've got my own and Iam going to stick with it, and you will just have to accept that or get lost. Where I live it is opposite. If you get married before the age of 30, people try to talk you out of it. Where I live people dont start having babies until they are 35-40. Every culture is different and every person is different, the trick is to have your own believes and detatch yourself emotionally from the believes of the culture you find yourself in.
2006-11-25 19:36:02 · answer #6 · answered by sunline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its the way they have been brought up and what has been drilled into there minds. you seem to have a good head on your shoulders and don't follow the norm. I was actually watching a program yesteday and they said more couples particularly females are waiting longer to have children and marriage as many want to get a professional career going. there are pro's and cons to both. you want to be young enough to have kids and enjoy them by the same token you shouldn't just rush and be sold off to anyone if your not ready.
take your time my dear and when your ready your ready. its your body your mind . and you can't be sold like a cow.
good luck
2006-11-25 19:32:20 · answer #7 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
they are stupid; you will get married when it is the right time and the right person; am sure many of your married friends aren't really happy with there partners as much as their idea that they are married; which is not good; don't let them push you for this; being with a person you love and respect is much better than being with someone to satisfy others requests; so don't worry and just enjoy being single;
2006-11-25 19:33:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
generations change the cultures , so who care and if you have some one you care about and you like him go for it ,and why people get married so soon 1. because it is beatiful and 2.because it is better than doing a wrong thing ... you know what i mean
2006-11-25 19:36:52 · answer #9 · answered by bluecavyrider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. Have fun while you are young, there is plenty of time to settle down later. I would recommend that no one get married until they are 30 at least.
2006-11-25 19:28:05 · answer #10 · answered by lesliejay63 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋