I was troubled to hear that she had sex with one of her close workers at the place she is currently working at in the past. It sickens me to think they are still friends and I feel I may be losing her due to her past sexual activity. What do you think is my problem in realizing this and what should I do to avoid having to leave her?
2006-11-25 19:23:05 · 14 answers · asked by seaking 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know exactly what this is about. I had sex with one of my coworkers and see him everyday. I do not think of sex when I see him, we had a bad break up and the sight of him actually makes me sick. If your girlfriend wanted him still she would be with him. You cannot judge her by her past. The problem is you not her, if you dont trust her you cant be with her. If you cannot get over this you can't be together. Have a little more self esteem, you should look at it as if he was all that she wouldn't be with you. good luck
2006-11-25 19:29:48 · answer #1 · answered by summertime 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she with you and not with him but at work then you shouldn't be worried about it. And who she had sex with in the past is just that in the pasted so stop worring because if that is all your think of then you will make her want to leave because she will feel like you don't trust her. If you can't then get out now
2006-11-25 19:30:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 15, ANY guy going with her is exposing themselves to prosecution. that is jailbait terratory. ok, it occurs ok, she has finished what all younsters prepared and inquisitive about sex ought to need to do (and presently commonly do, do) yet legally, fantastically once one in all them (you) receives previous adequate, and over 18. sorry, way too risky. and that is in the previous we get onto your human being own insecurities. As for that all of us ought to study from someone ! do you want that to be a newbie or someone with some journey and information. (do you recognize a instructor/prepare who had no longer been experienced and basically suggested that they had examine something in a e book "once" ?) in case you detect someone with journey, be at liberty, be proud that they want to percentage that with you. (and also comprehend, that no 2 reviews/ 2 couples are ever a similar - so it really is continually 'taking off new' with each new couple - that consists of journey, so relax)
2016-10-16 10:33:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem but its with me the problem is with.. He obsesses over it and it's not fair.. My past (unless your a hooker) has NOTHING to do with him.. Its done and over with, I'm with him now, I love him.. Those things in the past are gone ! Im sure you've done plenty sexual things yourself.. You can judge someone for something when you have done the same.. Just let it go and be happy.. She isnt thinking about the women youve banged and obsessing over that.. Shes with YOU nobody else... Give her a chance !
2006-11-25 19:40:29 · answer #4 · answered by BrideofTyr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not meant to be harsh but I think you should grow up.You gf...just like you did not start life when you met each other. Your not being able to handle this shows a lack of maturity. You are hardly going to find true love with someone who is "pure" so to speak. Even if you do...there is no guarantee that the relationship will last ...or that you will measure up to their expectations.
Come on...be a man. Judge her on how she acts with you...not on her past.
2006-11-25 19:34:05 · answer #5 · answered by Robere 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of her past becuase it has nothing to do with you. I understand how you feel but you have to trust her it's not like she did this while in a relationship with you. I'm certain you have things about your sexual past that she doen't know or would like if you told her. Give your relationship a chance to grow and that won't happen if you continue to live in HER past.
2006-11-25 19:28:25 · answer #6 · answered by D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it bothers you, leave her. Otherwise you'll feel sick all the time and start punishing her for it. If you want a woman with a clean past, you're entitled to find one. But you're not entitled to make her life miserable if you feel sickened.
2006-11-25 19:26:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just get over it... Is she with you or is she with him... who does she go home to every night??? If you answered you to both questions and you trust her then let that go and don't ruin the relationships over your own insecurities... don't you have a sexual past to... the past is not what's important for your relationship, it's the now that is...
2006-11-25 19:29:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont trust her so i suggest u leave before it gets any deeper.. to prevent both parties being hurt in the long run
2006-11-25 19:28:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure you have a past too. Talk to her about it and tell her how you feel. I am sure she can reassure you.
2006-11-25 19:26:05 · answer #10 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋