2006-11-25 19:07:00 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am sure u will. After all u only admit that it is "crap".
2006-11-25 21:42:24 · answer #1 · answered by surendra s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kind of know what you mean. I just recently found out that my dad had cheated on my mom when I was little. When I found that out, I had just left a relationship I had for 3 years because I found out the guy had cheated on me with at least 12 girls when we were together. Obviously I was blinded. lol Anyway, when I learned of this secret of my dad's, I had moved on to another boyfriend. We've been together for 4 years now. It was really hard on me to jump into another relationship because to be honest I was stunned that I never knew about my boyfriend's infidelity or my dad's...so I was hit in the face twice. I was very very uneasy, suspecting every little thing he did. I always checked his email, worried when he left the house without me, etc.. After 3 years, I didn't feel that way anymore. He's been so supportive and stays with me every second he can. I really couldn't ask for more. So yes, you will get over this it will take time. You shouldn't just say that you don't trust guys because then you might go into a relationship constantly suspicious & wondering how long it'll take before he slips up. Guys are trustworthy until they prove you wrong. There are always signs of when a relationship is in trouble, you just have to be able to catch it and end it before getting too attached... If you're already too attached, it'll hurt but at least you can get yourself out of there. You don't have to stay with the losers, and a better guy always comes along. In relationships there is always a risk, you're putting your heart on the line. Ask yourself, do you think a relationship would work if the two involved didn't trust each other? Never go into a relationship already convicting the person...you'll never stay with anyone if you do that. Hope this helped!! :)
2006-11-25 20:23:55 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Because you don't want to. Guys cheat. Not all, but too many to pretend that it CAN'T happen. If your self esteem depends on the fidelity of others you're in for a rough ride. Just lighten up and enjoy the positives in your relationships with guys and hope for the best. There are some decent guys out there who live up to the hopes of decent women. Still, pretending bad things don't happen isn't very realistic, but not moving forward because of them is destructive behavior. Good luck.
2006-11-25 19:15:46 · answer #3 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can stop punishing every guy you meet for what your dad did. And get a copy of the book "Bad Childhood, Good Life" so you can stop living in the past.
2006-11-25 19:12:57 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men cheat. But if there is one wonderful man out there for you who sweeps you off your feet...... would you pass on him because of your parents?
2006-11-25 19:42:10 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't compare all men to him its not fair to the guys who don't cheat
2006-11-27 10:15:05 · answer #6 · answered by bmwickline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that was a problem in their marriage. he is your dad, not your husband. therefore, it was not your fault, or your problem. you shouldn't let yourself become entangled in your parents relationship because a marriage involves 2 people, not three. 3 people create stupid triangles that help no one. therefore, get counseling and get on w your life. that is not your problem!
2006-11-25 19:19:49 · answer #7 · answered by prettyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look there a lot of good guys in this world , u just have to follow your heart and see beyond your eyes
2006-11-25 19:31:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not every one are the same look to your fingers if they are the same , no , so not every one like another one so u only give any one the chance to have ur trust
2006-11-25 19:17:34 · answer #9 · answered by lover boy 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not, but you know what you'll be less niave. (a positive note). Trust is like respect- it's earned not given.
2006-11-25 19:09:03 · answer #10 · answered by Miss 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋