here's this guy who I dated for a few weeks, we had an amazing time! The connection and chemistry we had was incredible! But he is a restaurant manager and his hours are CRAZY. 14+hrs a day, at least 5 1/2 days a week.When he gets off at around 3-4am he's too tired to do anything with me.Or on his day off, he might rather hang with his guys, or so he claims.I am a clingy, attached likes to hang out with my man sort of girl. I do have my own friends, but in the beginning I want to see him, you know? At first he told me he "likes me a lot and he really just wants me to chill." But things just went down from there. We stopped talking for a week or more and everytime he will text me random things like "Happy Halloween" or "Happy Thanksgiving" or "How's it going?" I want to move on, but with him giving me "mixed signals" I don't know what to do!? Help! I do like him but I believe it's not going anywhere so I don't know what to do. What can I do? Just "date" and have fun? Go with the flow?
2006-11-25 18:52:31 · 8 answers · asked by Gina C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Can you say "booty call"? Dont give more in a relationship than you get. Maybe you're in a different place than him and you want a real relationship. If he wanted to invest in you his guy's nite out would be with you. Don't get hung up on someone who gives you nothing. If you knew how little he was thinking of you, you wouldnt be thinking of him so often. Find someone who deserves your time. Good luck babe
2006-11-25 19:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by summertime 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does like you, but...... His career is also important and right now he just doesn't have the time to properly be with like he knows you need or want. Yes you were too clingy which is why there is not much connection now. And yes you do need to move on. He likes you but you rank below his job, as all new relationships do, and he must put that first. You may get dates or more at times with him but not much more. He has so little time away from work that when he is off he feels like he cant handle the "job" (sorry to say it girls) of a relationship. Instead he needs to just relax and chill. Like he had said in the beginning.
2016-05-23 03:29:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he's telling you is to "chill"...and that he wants you for sex only and at his convenience. The point is if you are smart you will move on and tell him "no" from now on because he used you. Your self esteem should be higher than it is. His mixed signals mean only that he thinks of sex every three minutes like most normal men, and it has nothing at all to do with you, or you as a person, and it has absolutely nothing to do with feelings and he doesn't care about yours.
2006-11-25 19:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he's confused don't let him confuse you. You said you want to move on so, do it and stick to your ground. Let him know you're no longer interested and that you'd appreciate it if he'd stop texting you when he's bored and alone. If he continues to contact you after that just ignore him it shouldn't be too hard right? You'll be much to busy having moved on doing bigger and better things.
2006-11-25 19:00:05 · answer #4 · answered by Atypical 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think with mixed signals it easiest to ignore them & move on. However if you think that you like him enough to stick around, then talk to him about it & see where that goes.
However I think that you should talk to him first & see what he has to say about it. Hope this helps.
2006-11-25 19:04:24 · answer #5 · answered by Jarod R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fyi some guys like to play mind games. they think they are fun. my x did the same thing so i said i wanted to meet up with him then i told him off. he has left me alone ever since.
2006-11-25 18:59:17 · answer #6 · answered by monkey_frk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you why the mindgames: cuz guys get screwed over 90% of the time and they take it BADLY......now it's ur turn.
2006-11-25 19:01:34 · answer #7 · answered by bE_EAzY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him. Delete his texts. Move on.
2006-11-25 18:55:19 · answer #8 · answered by unicornfarie1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋