I have a problem tht probably no on has the solution too, but still here it is:
I am lonely.
I live with my parents(real) and I am 21. My parents always wants to fight with me for god knows what reason? and that extremely heavy fights, I mean shouting, abusive words, this is our home so go away etc.
I do not have any friends.
I dumped my girlfriend recently because she just wanted me to spend money on her and there was absolutely no love from her, so she used me.
I am extremely depressed, as I am lonely in this world and have absolutely no one even to talk.
I even feel suicidal as I had gone through enough, I cant handle this daily tension and loneliness for no fault of mine. Maybe I am paying the price for being peaceful by nature.
Please help, what to do? how to overcome this, I believe running away is not the solution to any problems, and also have tried too repair the problems but failed.
2006-11-25 18:14:47 · 20 answers · asked by Keith 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Keith, you are presenting with the symptoms of Depression. What you are going through is not your fault and there is help for you. I believe medication would be beneficial, but I also understand that going to a doctor right now may be more than you are able to manage. I urge you to call the suicide prevention hotline 1-800-273-TALK. I am truly concerned for you. You may also e-mail me through Yahoo Answers. Take care and let me know how you are doing.
Keith I wrote my response to you yesterday evening but I have heard nothing from you. Are you ok? Please give an update.
2006-11-25 18:29:48 · answer #1 · answered by Barb 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have gone through a lot of the same things you are. I have gotten past a lot of the problems, but many of them still remain. Very depressing sometimes because it feels like everything is building up and weighing you down. Parents dont always realize the effect they have on their kids, whether they are grown adults or not. I hate to say it, but like many people, often put themselves first. I am also peaceful by nature and often cannot understand why people can be so cruel! I honestly wish I could tell you what to do because when one problem goes away, here comes another. And loneliness it one more price we pay for just being human and being alive. The best (and if maybe only thing) to do is to just try and deal with one thing at a time, no matter how small a problem is, because trying to fix everything at once can slowly drive someone crazy and no one needs the extra burden of all that worrying in their life! Take care and email me if you want, Ima nice girl!
2006-11-26 02:23:38 · answer #2 · answered by catfight1980 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to escape this rut you should definitely take things in steps. As for your parents and you fighting thats probably just the tension for being in the same house-hold day after day.
Your an adult now so why not move out, you could always move house to someplace where no body knows you that way you can get a job there and make new friends, Another suggestion is to join a gym or some other hobby/ social event place where you can meet people with similar interests as you.
2006-11-26 02:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by Pandoooo;. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 21 years of age why are you still living with your parents. Move out you are to old to run away so that leave me to believe that you arent really 21. You had to have friends because you had a girlfriend. You are the one that push the only person that was there for you away. What wrong with your girl wanting you to take her out thats not using you. Do something with your free time get a second job or a job period. I am sure you can make friend when you have a job or start taking classes and you can meet people. No one wants to join a pity party. You can find something I am sure go on line make a few pen pals you dont have to be alone unless you want to.
2006-11-26 02:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to get away from your parents. They are abusing you emotionally so that you feel worthless. That's why you feel depressed and suicidal. Don't let them do this to you. You have to realize that you have a lot going for you -- you are young (oh to be 21 again!), and you aren't tied down by any obligations, so stirke out for new territories. There is a big, wonderful world out there. Don't waste your life being afraid to step out and take a chance. Save a little money and then go to another state and find a job, an apartment, and some friends. You can do it.
2006-11-26 02:25:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anniesgran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your parents are that hard on you and you have anyone else you can stay with or the means to support yourself and live alone, I would seriously recommend doing that. Also, there are suicide hotlines and therapists who's goal in life is to make people feel loved, so you should really talk to them. I am amazed at the number of caring people out there.
The great thing about loneliness is that it doesn't have to be a permanent problem. It's not like a terminal illness. The tough part is it's hard to fight the desire to want to stay at home and in bed and be sad. There are lots of people who want to help, but you have to let them know you need it. I'm sure you will get tons of other concerned responses, but you are welcome to talk to me further as well. I know a lot of this stuff sounds cheesy, but it's really true. I also rent TV shows with characters I root for and get attached to, so you can at least get lost watching them for a few hours.
2006-11-26 02:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by scumboot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have another family member you could stay with or use as a mediator between you and your parents, I would start there. At 21 you are an adult and should be able to make your own decisions, it may be time to move out. I would find a local church with a singles group to hang out with, believe it or not they do help.
If you are feeling suicidal by all means go see a doctor even your family doctor can point you in the right direction.
Good Luck, God bless!
2006-11-26 02:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is never easy period. We all have to face reality problems and life. I can kind of relate to how you feel because I’ve been in a similar spot like that before. It felt like my world was crashing down to billions of pieces like shattering glass and every time I tried to fix it, it would become worst and it kept shattering no matter how hard I tried to fix it. So I gave up on life and became seriously depressed, until a friend came and slapped me in the face. He told me that, if we all moped around because life wasn’t fair and it didn’t go the way we needed it to do, then society would be one huge depressing mob of nothing. He also said that feeling sorry for myself is ok, but don’t live in self-pity; get off on your butt and do something about it. Depression can’t help you get a better way of life. So I started so do little things to make my life better. For example, you’re 21 you can get a job and a life away from you parents. Of course, there’s going to be difficulties in that, but at least you’re doing something right? You’re trying right? For your friendless problem, there is always looking up friends you might had during childhood or meeting new ones at your job or online. One of your friends might end up being more than a friend to you and give you a restart to your love life with a genuine one.When life gets hard take a deep breathe and do something, like a hobby, to help you loosen the tensions and give you courage to continue. As Churchill once said: “Success is not final and failure is never fatal, it’s the courage it takes to continue that counts” :D
2006-11-26 02:34:12 · answer #8 · answered by bltmek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people tells you to move out because your parents are dragging you down. However you have to plan first before moving out. I am 28yrs old and still living with my parents...I have $7000 saved...It depends on your dream...where do you want to live by yourself? I want to live in California but the cost of living is expensive.
I used to be extremely depressed like you but hope keeps me alive. Keep on hoping that you can live free. You just need to plan steps by steps until you got everything down.
My advice is that you find a job so that you can save nest egg.
The nest egg is needed to move out.
On a side note: Pray to God for the strength, and patience.
If you are not religious, mediate daily to purge your negative thoughts.
2006-11-26 07:31:22 · answer #9 · answered by PS3 Fanatic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's something you're not telling us. Like, why don't you have a job and why aren't you out there getting money for yourself? Do your parents want you to leave because you're not contributing financially? It's time to get out on your own and spread your wings and get out of the nest!
Why are you 21 and still at home? Once you leave the house, you'll be more independent and you'll be able to find friends. Part of the problem is that you're acting like a victim and hoping people will come to you and love you......just because......if life was that easy, we'd all be sitting pretty!
Life doesn't work that way. You've got to earn the love, so get your butt out of the house and get on with your life!
2006-11-26 02:21:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋