I've met this man he's so sweet we spend every chance we get together, but I have a real big problem because I get mad for just about anything. I can't control this feeling. I know I'm driving him away and I really like him. I need help channeling my anger someplace else. I get mad at him (no not just mad furious) and when he tries to talk to me and ask why I'm mad; I get angrier because I don't know why.PLEASE HELP women we all know really good men are hard to come by I dont want to lose mine.
serious answers please
2006-11-25 18:13:28 · 12 answers · asked by ~Irresistable~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe you need to evaluate yourself... You could possible be carrying some baggage from past relationships or you could be insecure with yourself, which normally causes self destruction. I use to be that way, but now that im secure, I ask questions first, tell them how I feel calmly and that works a lot better than screaming and getting angry over everything. You probably get angry because you do not know how to express yourself properly when angry??? That was my issue, so instead of talking it out I would get pissed and storm off and feel guilty later for blowing up at him. That was my problem... Im cured now... If you wanna know how I did it e-mail me.
2006-11-25 18:24:20 · answer #1 · answered by lachocolatreine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be the same exact way. I used to get so mad at my boyfriend for the stupidest reasons or no reason at all and I didn't realize how much I did it until he left me. Eventually we got back together and we had a long talk about problems we had and that was one of them. Now, we're happier because I have tried really hard to just let things go and not get so mad. That is the only advice I can give you. You could go see a counselor or a psychiatrist, but I think that's a waste of money. Try to control this problem yourself. When your about to get angry, just try to calm down and remember that you are probably getting mad for no reason. If it's really that hard, then try to distance yourself from him when you get this urge to get mad. If this doesn't help, there are school counselors you can talk to for free at a local college. I hope this helps. Good luck! If you ever need to talk, just e-mail me because I know what your going through.
2006-11-25 18:49:07 · answer #2 · answered by Damon ♥ Elena 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take this the wrong way, but you should get professional help.
Let your man know you realize you have a problem, and he may be willing to help you get the help you need. If you let him know then chances are he will be understanding as well.
Your anger issues will drive him away if you don't do something about it right away.
2006-11-25 18:19:09 · answer #3 · answered by khanofali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of peoples feelings that they dont know where they come from stem from something early on, meaning maybe your strained relationship with your father is a root cause. Some things you can do to help is to express your anger in the right ways and if he wont listen to you discuss them he isnt all that great
2006-11-25 18:19:47 · answer #4 · answered by kindaworried 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me I m too at the receiving end of my wife's such behavior.
Hear it first hand - U r in real danger of loosing ur man. He must be already thinking about - its not a question about if he is going to leave u? but - when he is going to leave u?
He doesn't have to take such behaviour from u - he can one day pack his bag & just leave.
GET HELP SOON - from a doctor. May be ur hormone levels are changing. Get some tablets to balance it - they are available.
One thing I m glad is that u know the worth of ur man - a thing my wife doesn't understand.
I m going to drop my ***** soon I dont know about urs.
2006-11-25 18:23:10 · answer #5 · answered by jack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand the way you're feeling good now yet you rather ought to easily enable him attempt this on his own time. you're his spouse, not his mom. in certain situations the further we nag, the further they retaliate so the proper ingredient to do is in simple terms to shop quiet and do not say "I informed you so" at the same time as he's having a not difficulty-free time searching a job. he will comprehend you've been good, you gained't ought to point it. next time, he will have realized this helpful lesson and could be extra prepared contained in the shape he loses his job back. contained in the interim, imagine constructive. perhaps the probability to his job isn't as undesirable as you imagine. He is conventional with his job extra powerful than you do. Seniority, branch, ect all have an impact at the same time as a corporation starts laying people off. My husbands corporation used to position people off each and every October and that i ought to easily issue about it, yet he under no circumstances did...he knew he became secure even although that he continually informed me there turned right into a mild threat he ought to get his papers. He became under no circumstances even low adequate on the list to get his hours decreased! have self belief your husband.
2016-11-26 22:32:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of what is important, then talk to him about your problem and how you feel about him. If you tell him about this he will probably understand and probably help you with this problem. It sounds like you two are good for each other, but you are basically screwing it up. Good luck.
2006-11-25 18:18:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to talk to him and tell him that u get mad for no reason sometimes and u just can't help it, also try ur hardest to try to control ur anger
good luck! :D
2006-11-25 18:16:55 · answer #8 · answered by bria m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is needed. Take the focus off him. Let him know it is not him, your just dealing with things within yourself.
2006-11-25 18:17:47 · answer #9 · answered by bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, you admit it and that is a HUGE step. Tell him that you are willing to see someone about it because you love him
2006-11-25 18:16:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋