I went into my boyfriends email account. We've been togethor for 5 years. I read some old emails with him contacting someone he used to chat with about a year and a half ago (the emails were almost 2 years old). They planned to meet up, but he kept backing out. My mind is telling me this is old. But I cannot stop thinking about this. First of all, am I wrong for hacking into his email?? Second, should I address this, or just let it slide?
2006-11-25 17:57:35 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok,
One, Naughty for hacking his email. Why did you do that? Has he done something to make you suspect him of infidelity?
Two, this was almost two years ago - and more importantly, he kept backing out. Sounds like he had the opportunity to cheat, and he chose not to - which implies he really loves you.
So no, don't let it slide - reward him (but don't reveal what you did) for his loyalty to you, and his love for you.
Most guys would have cheated, and he chose not to.
You should love him even more for that.
Just my .01
-dh
Eventually you might want to confess that you hacked his email though... just to assuage any guilt you might feel, and to be open and honest with him.
2006-11-25 18:02:21 · answer #1 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1: yes it was wrong to hack into his email, even if you're together for 5 years he has a right to his own privacy and 2: that thing is 2 years old and he did back out of it. 3: It would serve you right if he cheated on you since you obviously don't trust him. You get what you expect. You don't trust him why should he be trust worthy?
2006-11-25 18:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by Abtsolutely 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, yes you are wrong for hacking... but in my marriage, I've told my wife she can read anytime she wants as long as she tells me about it.
Second, this was 2 years ago... and it doesn't sound like he went through with it.. the only thing you'll do is start problems if you bring this up and want him to explain himself. Your insecurities are getting the best of you... he's already done the right thing, don't punish him for it by making him defend himself. You are the one that needs to get over it.
2006-11-25 18:01:00 · answer #3 · answered by Say it like it is 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't read someone else's email unless you are FULLY prepared to deal with what may or may not be there. You'll find that you only "read" more into what's actually there and you'll open the door for a lot of heartache for yourself, based on misconceptions. It's simply not worth it. Stay out of there for good, (because it WILL become an obsession), move on and seek healthy ways to openly communicate with your boyfriend.
2006-11-25 18:04:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it was immoral to hack into his email and its obviously a sign of mistrust. If i were you, I'd forget about this - its no big deal and years old, you should be proud of him for backing out. You sound like you have a great boyfriend :D
2006-11-25 18:03:50 · answer #5 · answered by Pandoooo;. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off,l you re terribly wrong for hacking into his e-mail.
Secondly, this is a few years ago and you should let it slide so he does not find out how devious you really are.
2006-11-25 17:59:29 · answer #6 · answered by jpbofohio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should address this by ending the relationship.
You obviously either have no ethics, or no trust in him. Either one means you should not be in this relationship.
Since you did invade his privacy, and you did find out that he could be trusted...which you know by the fact that he never went further than talking...what is the question?
2006-11-25 18:00:24 · answer #7 · answered by Star 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, how would you like someone to hack into your e-mail? I wouldn't and I'm sure your wouldn't either. 2 years old and he really didn't do anything, forget it, better things to worry about, like how's he gonna feel if he finds out your reading his e-mail.
2006-11-25 18:04:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why be all up in his stuff??? this tells me that you have insecurities and you don't trust him.... why be in the relationship if it's come to this??? early warning signs of a bad break up coming soon... your not gonna at this point forget nor let it go and it's going to come between yous... you have a choice here- leave it alone and keep out of his stuff or leave the relationship... either way, no good can come of it...
2006-11-25 18:08:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LET IT GO YOU WERE IN THE WRONG! Its a federal offence now..and for a reason.
It looks like he whas honorable to you so do the smae to him and forget it. Things like these in relationships are scabs dont pick them!
2006-11-25 18:05:48 · answer #10 · answered by Low 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋