What's the best way to get a man to marry you, without being pushy?

Answer 1

get him drunk bring the rings and go to vegas

Answer 2

You don't want to be or appear desperate. You don't get a man to marry you, you want a man to want to marry you. There is no other way. Relax, have fun, and let nature take it's course. If you are pushy now, you will be sorry later.

Answer 3

You can't get a man to do anything he doesn't want to do and not have to answer for it later! If you 2 are meant to be then it will happen, if not learn whatever lesson you can glean from the relationship & move on!

Answer 4

First, remove the phrase "get a man to marry you" from your vocabulary. If you're right for each other, and he's the marrying kind, then it'll happen. You could always propose to him, you know.

Answer 5

You never want to "get a man to marry you." That's just heartache waiting to happen. Marriage should not be taken lightly and should be done when BOTH sides are ready and willing. Take a look at the divorce rate in the US. I bet most of those men married to please their partner then made a mess of both of their lives. If he truly loves you, you won't have to "get" him to do anything.

Answer 6

You have to be patient with him. If it is meant to be, it will happen. Another very important thing is to let him be himself. Don't imprison him and make him feel like he is imprisoned. Men will run if they feel like we are being possessive. They have to have their guys nights and we need our girls nights as well.

Don't act as if you can't live without him. Show your own independence and encourage him to do the same. Smothering them is another way of imprisoning him. A little hard to get never hurt anyone.

Answer 7

it depends on the situation, but in general this would be my advice (which i've learned from my pastor and makes complete sense to me):

if u date someone for 1 1/2 years (exclusive/serious relationship), u should know by the end of that time frame whether or not u want to marry each other. if ONE or BOTH are not sure, then u should break it off: firstly, because u don't want to have a 3, 4, 5 year relationship w/ someone and still be Unsure.... ur just dragging out the break up. secondly, u prevent each other from getting to ATTACHED and comfortable w/ each other, so that when u do break up, it won't hurt as much. time does a LOT, and the longer u are with someone, the more u will feel u have wasted ur time.

so, at the end of the 1 1/2 years, and u bring up marriage, and lets say he's like "I don't know, or i'm not sure, or i'm not ready", then u need to be strong and say "ok, then i think we need to break up and meet new people". if he wants to stay w/ u, he needs to propose. if he is unsure, it's ok....but ur not gonna wait around. =T simple as that.

i know a lot of women don't like the idea of "pushing" a man to get married. but guess what: MEN, left to their own devices, would probably drag it out til forever if the woman didn't push him to make a decision. why should he marry a woman and make that full committment when she's fine and dandy and patiently waiting in the relationship??? it's like if u get the milk for free, why buy the cow?

it's really important to also understand the dynamics between a man VS woman: Men need someone to "help" them make positive changes in their life, because they are so visually, physically, and Career oriented it is hard for them to think Emotionally, Mentally and Spiritually. Women need someone to "help" them feel safe and secure, and be able to trust in their men in order to help them change for the Positive. so they both work together for the purpose of a Healthy family unit.

**now of course, women now are career oriented, but they are very capable of adding that to their Emotional, Mental and Physical instincts. but it's much easier to teach Education, Career, Monetary goals, than to teach Emotionaly Sensitivity and Intuition. which is why a man has to learn to take care of the woman and do what's Best for her SO THAT she can do her job, and a woman needs to learn to "submit" to her husband and support him mentally, physically, emotaionlly EVERYTHING so that he can continue the cycle of "taking care of her"....

hope that helps...

Answer 8

ask him what he wants out of a marriage when it happens, what is his fav time of year so you can marry at that time of year. Does he want a big todo or only the closest friends and family to make the day more personal.
If you know what he wants and expects it makes it easier to get married with bothy people happy and wanting it.find out if you two have the same ideas on how to pay for things raise kids and what are your ideas on going out for fun. for when married all these things need to be knowen or it could cause problems in a marriage to the point that it could make or break ther marriage if it happens.
if you get all these things out in the open it could help you get closer to the alter or help you two to see if you shhould staty together or just be friends

Answer 9

I suggest you talk with him about what you both want in life...expressing why marriage is important to you. This will also give you both the opportunity to clear the space and show your cards...because either you both have similar goals/direction or you don't. And then you both can make clear decisions on the future, especially marriage. This in my opinion is a more honest approach than ultimatums and pressure.
-Good luck!

Answer 10

4get it men 4got a long time ago how pressious a responsibility marrage is n in most cases its true why buy the cow when u can get the milk 4 free! Sorry 2 burst ur bubble but men just arnt real men any more its the 21st century commitment is the new dirty word. As 4 the romance of it all n the speacial close bond of marrage
"commitmen off !"

Answer 11

Interesting!? After he propose to you, the two of you should have set a date right away for the big day. Just sit down with him and have a nice talk about the wedding. Ask him, after so many years now together, why is he delay the wedding date? Tell him straight up not to blow you off about it. You take it from there. Good luck!