I met a great guy. He's fat, but amazing. I don't want to feel embarrased later on..will I? Does love really conquer all? Can I stop being a superficial *****?
2006-11-25 17:42:19 · 17 answers · asked by Aqueous Transmission 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know when you love someone, you will probably not ever be embarrassed to be with them. Sounds to me like you are already sure of how you feel about this guy. If you love him....then that is all that matters. If he is the guy for you,how are you going to feel if you let him go because you were too worried about what other people thought of you??? Just because a person is fat does not mean that they have no value and are not worthy of love. They are not some alien from Planet Fat.
Say, someone fell in love with you, you get into a horrible accident and are disfigured, your face is completely destroyed and malformed??? Are you still worthy of love..unconditional love....or should the person who says they love you be more concerned with what other people will say if he chooses to stay with you???
Don't take beauty at face value...true beauty goes through and through.
Good Luck!!
2006-11-25 17:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wouldn't it be sad for you if you didn't attach yourself to this great personality of a character kinda guy - and years later you saw him - TRIM!
Do you think you'd be kicking yourself for not seeing PAST the superficial when you were just an immature vamp?
Think of you side-by-side with this great personality of a guy and he's TRIM and it was ...
BECAUSE of YOU!
Now... who would be more fantastic? You or him?
How about...
BOTH of YOU!
For each other!
Wouldn't that be a kick in the pants?
You fell in love with a fattie and got advice from lil ole me and through your love for him got him to lose weight and you lived happily ever after?
Would I feel great? I sure would - IF I KNEW!
PS-(I'd take care of that 'aqueous transmission' before you got married!)
2006-11-26 01:53:08 · answer #2 · answered by Number1son 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it's up to you.
Is this guy amazing enough that you can get over the weight thing. Can you encourage him to walk with you at night, or around the mall to get healthier.
You asked the ultimate question, can YOU get over it? Only you can know your heart. What I do know is that people will become more or less attractive to you over time based on their personalities. Who's to say he won't want to dump you for being superficial? Only time will tell, but it might just be worth delving in to it to find out.
2006-11-26 01:48:24 · answer #3 · answered by my-kids-mom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if you like someone what do looks matter? honestly the outside can change fast but the inside stays rotten forever. many may many girls have this perception that all guys look at is the outside they focus on that and wonder why guys leave them all the time. looks bring them in but a personality will make them stay.
2006-11-26 01:46:38 · answer #4 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you could see yourself falling inlove with him then what does it matter what everyone thinks...if he would treat you like a goddess and make you feel like the happiest woman on the face of the earth, does his weight really matter....plus, if you got close enough to each other, you would probably let him know that his weight makes you feel uncomfortable....not necessarily because hes fat..but because you worried about his health.......and since he loves you, dont you think hed be willing to lose some of it for you......yes, i do think its possible to fall for someone who isnt attractive.
2006-11-26 01:53:02 · answer #5 · answered by beb27 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only you know the answer to this. There are a lot of big men who are sexy. Think John Goodman, Jim Belushi, Jack Black, etc. Good men are hard to find. Think carefully before you turn your back on one.
2006-11-26 01:46:32 · answer #6 · answered by fancyname 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well. i think love can conquer all. if you like him. go for it. just cause hes fat doesnt mean anything. i went out with a guy a foot shorter than me. and i was bigger than him and he looked really pale, and skinny around me but we got over it cause we liked each other. so you will too.
2006-11-26 01:45:12 · answer #7 · answered by Jess 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My philosophy is always go for the personality!
Looks can always change..a drop dead gorgeous person can get fat; a chunky monkey can slim down.
However they look, they'd better be good fun & good company when you go through the tough times.
2006-11-26 01:48:26 · answer #8 · answered by Chencha 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
havent u ever thought with your heart and not with other ppls brain who cares what other ppl think about your bf its all about who and what you want give it a try and dont wonder about what if go for it oh and havent you ever hered of biger the better good luck
2006-11-26 01:59:18 · answer #9 · answered by Jeannie T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u got to be attracted to someone before you fall in love, truth be told
2006-11-26 02:06:26 · answer #10 · answered by JO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋