I had made a profile on this network called "ORKUT" like 6 months back..and many random ppl started adding and writing me testimonials n stuff..like mainly guys...i didnt tell my BF this bcoz i dint want him to feel insecure after seeing al that...and so i hid it..and i wudnt reply to all of them..just to some..on a freindly basis..and i wud chat with some of them...but not anything dirty at all...and recently my BF found out about my PRofile and he got really really upset and mad...IS HE MAKING TOO BIG A DeAL OF IT? Or is it totally my fault for hiding it from him coz i didnt want him to get jealous n upset...??? I was gona cancel the account soon anways....HE is sooo upset and shocked and lost all his trust for me..what do i do...I already deletd the account ..but he has lost all his trust for me and is realy upset..what DO I DOOO PLEASE HELP ME!!!!
2006-11-25 17:30:29 · 12 answers · asked by Har S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he says he dusnt wanna hang out with me or have any association with a dishonst person like me..he says...WHAT SHUD I DO? is he making this too big a deal? HEs my Best friend..and he said i cheated him...SHud i just let him go and free him from my bad self?? n leave him alone? i feel really bad..pls advise me..
2006-11-25 17:31:36 · update #1
You were wrong, girl. Own up to it and apologize. Let him know you want to earn his trust again. If he is just hurt and still cares for you he will need some time to get over this. You will have to be patient and show him you mean it. If he truly has made up his mind you are not to be trusted you will have to abide by his wishes and move on.
2006-11-25 17:35:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize to him and help him see that you truly are sorry. What you did essentially added up to saying "yeah I'm involved with someone, but I'm not all that involved." What your boyfriend wants is devotion, through and through. But you just showed him that you aren't going to commit to being with him and only him.
If you do want to give him true fidelity, then tell him so and prove it to him. But don't expect things to be fixed overnight. No words will magically heal this situation, and it is possible that none ever will even if given time. It could be too late. If it isn't, then you are very lucky to have found such a forgiving person. Earn his trust back and never do anything like that to betray him again. If it is, then let him go. Let him know you are truly sorry, but do not hold him back. Think more wisely in the future and good luck!
2006-11-25 17:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he's over-reacting a bit, but I think you're the only one who can answer your question. What was your motivation for your interractions online? Why did you hide the fact that you were on the site? If you were hiding it because you were fishing to see if you could find a better catch than your BF, then perhaps you should break up with your BF. If you were hiding the fact that you had the site because of your fear of your BF over-reacting even though your interactions were simply on a friendly level, then you have to evaluate whether your BF's insecurity is something you can live with. If so, then you either need to give up the websites or live with the risk that he may catch you and react. Either way, it's up to you. There is no right or wrong answer, here. It's simply a matter of your intention and what your boundaries are (what you're willing to risk and put up with). Hope this helps! Good luck!
2006-11-25 17:39:25 · answer #3 · answered by waywrdsun 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok...first off you F'ed up...to fix the situation you need to talk to him about what bothers him most about the whole situation. Afterall, this is like keeping a secret from him. I get a bit upset when my lady meets new guys as friends and doesnt introduce us or tell me about it...your situation holds the same concept. He has no clue whats going on between you and your "friends" and there is no way to prove anything to him considering the "friends" are all third party sources now...the best thing to do is not worry about the setback in trust, only time will take care of that. just talk to him and try to explore his feelings about the situation so that you can learn to avoid a similar situation in the future
2006-11-25 17:38:19 · answer #4 · answered by MrMeT00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey since you have no chances of marriage, atleast proceed with this.... No right or wrong.... If u both have the desire then go on... If you are already then continue with it... you both might feel guilty with this relationship and might not enjoy to its fulness.... I had the same experience.... DOnt feel guilty n all... Just enjoy a lot to how mch ever u can... throw ur guilt feeling....If you look after rite or wrong then notihng wil happen in this world.... Just be careful abt ur dates safety measures etc..... also when u part dont feel bad...enjoy until the last moment....
2016-05-23 03:18:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's over-reacting if you've never given him any reason to cheat on you. He may just not be that into you and this was his easy way out of the relationship. You may be better off.
2006-11-25 17:50:08 · answer #6 · answered by Hpnotiq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys have macho problems.. just tell him that hes the only one for you and if he really has that big of a problem then you decide if he is worth not getting on that site again and tell him what you choose... make him watch you delete your account
2006-11-25 17:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think he is overreacting. You're aloud to have guy friends, and if he gets upset with that than he is wayyyy wrong. You made it before you were dating, you really didn't talk to anyone and it was just as friends. I could understand if you were making racy comments or something, but i don't think you were.
I think hes soooo overreacting
2006-11-25 17:33:29 · answer #8 · answered by T <3 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you have to realize that u r in a relationship now and you have 2 think about u n ur bf. think of all the things that he likes and don't like
2006-11-25 17:42:41 · answer #9 · answered by ~*Godz_ANGEL*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to him what you just did here, tell him that you love him and you did nothing that would jeopardize your relationship, what ever you did was childish and totally harmless and just apologize.
2006-11-25 17:34:53 · answer #10 · answered by Ankit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋