This girl I like a lot, and she knows it, recently came back into my life. She said she was lonley and looking for someone and invited me to come hang out with her(she lives in a diffrent town). When I went to visit her she was friendly but woulndt sleep with me. Then I asked her If we should start a steady relationship and then she said we live in two diffrent towns and it wouldnt work. When I would go to kiss her before I left she seemed to pull away and sort of be disgusted. Whats up with this?
2006-11-25 17:28:07 · 19 answers · asked by kindaworried 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hate to say it, but it sounds like she's not really interested in a relationship. To be fair to you, she really should just come out and say that, and stop leading you on, so to speak. I would take her hints, though, and just leave it alone. I'm sure you'll find someone who's really interested.
2006-11-25 17:33:10 · answer #1 · answered by MaknMeCrzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She felt uneasy because she likes you and invited you over. You did go over and I'm sure she was happy. But you apparently wanted sex and she then felt that was the only reason you came over. When she said you live in different towns, maybe she was looking for you to say that wouldn't be a problem.....that you would be very willing to go to her town because you like her NOT just for sex! Sure she was willing to sometimes go to your town too. Bet she wasn't disgusted because you wanted to kiss her! Maybe she is shy or you made the attempt after proposing or hinting at sex? Don't know. Try again if you want but make sure she knows you like her as a person too.
2006-11-26 01:35:57 · answer #2 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's up is you failed the man test. YOU got in the car to see her miles away, YOU spent time with her without a second thought to your previous plans, YOU asked all the relationship questions, YOU had the script flipped on you and she doesn't like pushovers. You want her? leave that girl alone...really alone. Find a beautiful girl to date, take to the movies, intro to friends, and so on...when lovergirl comes back (cause she will) make her do all the work or leave her in the cold (if you want your new girl instead). Just be honest with your new girl...she'll work harder for you in the long run. Win Win situation for you.
2006-11-26 01:35:26 · answer #3 · answered by BELLE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she played you for the evening. Yes, she was lonely, she wanted to hang and she knew that you would jump for her. Listen to her, a relationship with her will not work, not because you live in different towns, but, because SHE DOESN'T WANT IT TO. Next time she calls, bite your lip and tell her that you have plans for the next millennium.
2006-11-26 01:31:44 · answer #4 · answered by yodeladyhoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it right there - "she said she was lonely and looking for someone to hang out with." Why would you try to sleep with her or kiss her?
She didnt say that she was looking for a relationship, a boyfriend or a good time. She was looking for someone to hang out with.
Hang out a while - if something happens - if something evolves - then let it.
But dont get upset - she didnt mislead you anywhere !
~mol
2006-11-26 01:31:32 · answer #5 · answered by mollylollypop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she likes you and if she just recently came back into your life, then maybe she wants to take things slow and not get as drastic as sleeping with each other...it may be a big step for her. same as kissing, because a kiss can mean soo much more to some people.
2006-11-26 01:34:16 · answer #6 · answered by kai_winchester 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your moving too fast. Don't force it, or you'll drive her away. Just talk and get to know her better for a start, until she feels that she is ready to take the next step. Just slow down a bit, she'll be ready when she feels shes comfortable enough with you.
2006-11-26 01:32:14 · answer #7 · answered by exxohh<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have probably come on too strong and scared her away. I would be slightly edgy around this kind of impulsive/irrational behavior too. Just take it slow, apologize for the mistakes you've made and stay 'just friends' for awhile
2006-11-26 01:44:18 · answer #8 · answered by Pandoooo;. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she was just lonely and wanted a friend to hang out with. the only way to know for sure is to talk to her about what happened.
2006-11-26 01:31:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was just lonely that day and wanted your company as a friend. Let it go for now and see what happens.
2006-11-26 01:32:16 · answer #10 · answered by jrsygrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋