How do i deal with being single (and never having any romantic relationship in my life)?

Question

I've never had a boyfriend or a romantic love, though i've wanted to. any insight is greatly appreciated.

Answer 1

This is probably not what you want to hear, but, God is holding on to someone special for you. My friend Joanna was like that. She really wanted to be with someone, but she had never had one. She wanted it sooo bad. (I'm only 20 years old, so this was 3 yrs ago). This past Sept, she married her first and last. It was beautiful. God waited until she was ready and gave her the greatest man she will ever come across.

Answer 2

We all want to find romantic love and most of us will at one time or another so don't give up the thought of that happening for you too. In the meantime, I would say to deal with being single look at all the good things that go along with it. You have tremendous freedom and don't have a lot of drama in your life that comes from romantic relationships. So I would say appreciate the positive parts of being single. In some ways it is a gift.

As far as finding a boyfriend I would suggest doing volunteer work in something you're interested in, playing coed sports (volley ball, softball, etc.) and doing what you can to meet more people (and maybe a potential bf).

Don't look at your married friends and think their life is perfect. I have a married friend that to the outside world it looks like her marriage and husband are perfect but the reality is much different.

Answer 3

I'm 29 and I don't date. I am totally content being single, but I do want to get married, I do want to have a romance. I am content because I can look around me and see the destruction and devastation left in the wake of the dating world. I have no desire to be a part of that world. I believe that Mr. Right will come into my life at some point, and until that happens, I am ok being single.

I can use this time to pursue activities that I could never do if I was attached and had kids. When you're single you can travel, you can just drop everything and go somewhere new! You don't have to be tied to anything right now. Enjoy it. Once you have a family, everything changes, you're responsible for others, you have to run your life around other schedules.... Use this time to grow as a person. Learn as much as you can so that you have something more to offer a man. Get involved, run towards a goal. At some point you will look next to you and that perfect guy will be running along side you. Pursuit of a goal, working together, common interests.....

Answer 4

First of all, know that you are not alone! I have never had that either! I've had a couple offers over the years, but turned them down. I need a STRONG (emotionally spiritually, etc) man and so far I've not met him yet! I am a Christian, so what helps me is to trust God that he has someone amazing for me waiting for the right time. Also, I find many things to interest me: dancing, spending time with family and friends, playing my cello and singing at church, enjoying nature etc. Those are just what I like to do. You may have other interests. Do them! It is hard sometimes, I know, but another good way to spend this time before you have that kind of relationship is to know your heart and to grow....meaning....use this time to know for you what is important in a man, what can you work on that will make you a better partner when the time comes, do you have a realistic expectation of marriage and do you have some insights in how to make one work? Find those out! Learn and do fun things that bring you joy! Live your life and live expectantly knowing that at the right time, a wonderful man will come when you are ready for him!

Answer 5

You know, you shouldn't feel so bad about single. I mean being single has its great advantages. You're more flexible. You can do anything you want because you don't have to worry about your husband or kids. Also, you have plenty of time to minister to people (which is a great plus btw).

If focus your whole life on trying to have a romantic relationship, you'll fail miserably in life. Don't worry, you'll find a great person you can be compatiable with :). If not, you can have great non-romantic relationships w/ other people. If you're positive & if you serve others, you can impact people & you're most likely gonna be happy.

Answer 6

Two different questions here.
How to deal with being single?
Well, you can be grateful for not having the things that drive couples crazy: your house stays as clean as you make it, you can decorate exactly how you like, you have all the solitude you want, the toilet paper & toothpaste are used exactly how you prefer, you can spend disposable income on whatever you want, you can have as many pets as you like . . .
I love my realtionship, but those are some the things I miss from being single.
How to find a romantic love?
I think happiness & self-confidence are some of the most attractive qualities. This part is going to sound dumb, but if you don't exercise, you could start. Only because it gets the happy chemicals in one's brain going, and helps one to feel strong & confident about one's body -- regardless of size or shape, moving makes you *feel* good, physically & mentally.
Next you need to meet lots of guys. Go into it knowing that most of them won't be nearly good enough for you, but it's still an interesting way to pass the time. Maybe sign up for match.com or some such & go through the crappy dates, it'll help you practice your social skills & define what you're looking for, even if all the guys end up being duds. At the same time, pursue your interests. One of my friends met her boyfriend through our city's Mini Cooper club, she wasn't looking, she just loved her new Mini & wanted to meet others who understood her passion. You may or may not meet anyone, but you'll still be having fun.
Basically, make yourself happy & find ways to meet lots of people.
Best of luck!

Answer 7

Well it's like this......dating/romance is like a drug....once you get a taste of it.....you want more. It's best to just wait to find someone you really care about, unless you're just looking to try it out which can be good or bad. Becareful and don't let yourself get caught up in the hussle and bustle of the scene of things...find someone you really can get along with and if you think you're ready for it, then flirt with them. I can tell you being single gets old quickly, but it's for the good a lot of times. It gives you a chance to clear your head and become self sufficient. I'm 26 and have been divorced for a year now and was single the whole year. I'm getting back into dating, but I despise it now...I hate the bar scene and I'm looking to find a needle in the haystack that I really like and that's hard to do in this day and age. Good luck though!

Answer 8

well i deal with being single by having ladies night with my friends like 3 times a week and its really fun you forget about boyfriends .but i was single for a long time and i was like i really want a boyfriend now that i have one , i miss the single life where i was care free and i did'nt have too worry a bf plus he likes too try too control me and im not use too that but hope this gives you a little insight=)

Answer 9

Well, there has to be a reason why you are staying single. So my best bet is to pick up a hobby like excersize or pick up a sport. Maybe talk to a friend and make them promise to keep you in their life so you won't get lonely.

Answer 10

You never had a boyfriend thats just sad. The only person to blame is yourself so stop crying about and get out there and meet someone or buy a dog.