If you are to spend your life with someone, raise kids with them.... how much does one's personal beliefs play into that?? What are you thoughts on this issue?? Could you still go through with it knowing that these differences could potentially cause conflicts throughout the marriage?
2006-11-25 17:21:31 · 11 answers · asked by BaseballGrrl 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO I would not go through with it.
I went through that personally.
I married a guy who was one religion, and I was another.
Sure, we were so certain we wouldn't let that come between us,
but guess what! IT DID..
We were married for 15 years, the last two of which were like a living hell. Neither of us could stand to be with the other any more.
It was our difference of oppinion (based on our beliefs) that caused misery. I could not sway him and he could not sway me
from what we believed.
Please reconsider your future, because if you marry it will NOT
work, then kids always suffer too.
2006-11-25 17:32:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a matter of surviving conflict - that is part of the commitment in my opinion... but religious beliefs are one of the things that many people will not compromise on.
I've know folks who've managed to successfully combine a Jewish with Christian in a marriage.
I've also known Christians of the same exact sect to fail in their marriage.
Its all about the discussion and decisions made before the marriage. And a willingness to compromise.
Having kids becomes the biggest issue in my experience. The question being - how will the children be raised?
If that is addressed prior to the wedding vows, things should go smoothly and issues with differing religious beliefs shouldn't make a difference.
Just my .01
-dh
2006-11-26 01:27:18 · answer #2 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Differences in religious belief must be solved before marriage. You are right in stating that it can cause conflicts throughout the marriage. If the differences are minor, such as just attending different Christian based churches, they can be ironed out fairly easily. But if it is like one is a Catholic and one a Mormon it could be a disaster.
2006-11-26 01:26:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i personally dont think religious beliefs should be a major factor. the only way it would be is if the person believed in killing and murder and sin, etc... in others, bad influence, especially to ur children
as long as their beliefs are in the right place and u are devoted to each other, than religion shouldnt be a big issue
2006-11-26 01:30:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you both respect the others religious beliefs and come to some kind of agreement as far as the raising of your future children, I think it should be cool.
2006-11-26 01:24:11 · answer #5 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how radical the differences are, when it comes to raiseing kids this could be huge issue. Wether I would go through with it depends on how much he is willing to listen and discuss issues. Very shakey ground.
2006-11-26 01:30:12 · answer #6 · answered by krissy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents have different religions and are happily married, but i grew to find that my dads religion was my true religion...so for your question about raising kids with diff. religious beliefs in their parents, its really their choice, although some conflicts such as activeness in church may be an issue.
2006-11-26 01:29:01 · answer #7 · answered by kai_winchester 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how devout they are.
If religion rules their life, then it will not work. They must be open enough to allow the children to choose whatever religion they like, evenif if it's not a religion of either of the parents.
Being spiritual is very different to being religious.
2006-11-26 01:32:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you respect each other's beliefs you can actually make it work . my friend married someone who is devout to her religion and really follows their ways so what he does is he just go along with it out of respect to his wife's beliefs because he says there;s not harm being done . with regards to their children they both made a compromise to open up their children to both religion and let them choose which they want when they get old . they don't make it a competition .
2006-11-26 01:26:28 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They don't really matter to me unless they are an extremist of some sort..
2006-11-26 01:24:15 · answer #10 · answered by pwnz7321 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋