this is for christians people only... help?

Question

ok so i've been a christian for six months now, but i just don't feel comfortable hanging out with these christians people from church. they said i'm really quiet but that's just because i have no idea what to talk about when i'm with them. it's crazy. i can't relate to any of them.
oh and bytheway when i'm with non-christian people i feel soooo freeee. of course the sex talk, prostitutes jokes piss me off but i can still cope being with those guys rather than christians. why?? i'm trying to be good. but it just doesn't feel right. i thought i found my self identity. i belonged in a band. now that they told me rock n roll is the devil's music, i've got nothing. i don't know where i belong. i'm not supposed to hang with non christians cos they said they'll be bad influence and i can't hang with christians cos they make me feel really really uncomfortable. what now?

Answer 1

Perhaps you're in the wrong....oops, incompatible...group of Christians.
Some churches, The Vineyard just for one, play worship music with what probably pass for rock music instruments.
Find a new group of Christians - I'm thinking you want to be with those who build you up, not tear you down, who encourage you, not discourage you. You want to be prepared to live IN the world, without being OF the world. Of relating to all people without relating to all that they do.
They're out there. I've found them!

Answer 2

Sounds to me that 1) You are a young Christian( 6 months is not long), need some time to develop your faith.

2) There are many Christian Rock Bands out there, great ones. Go to your Christian "Book & Gift store. Listen to the music. You not not have to give it up, just change the music focus. What are the songs about? Just read the words you'll see if they are playing up the seamier side of life. Then you need to decide what you want for your new fresh life. Big choices happening.

3) You are FREE through Christ. The illusion of freedom with your non-Christian friends will lead back into bondage. It is always more comfortable to stay with the old than delve into the new. This has been a very dramatic shift.

4) Satan wants you to feel this way. He will do anything to keep you from going forward with your new life. Be Brave hang in there.
I will pray for you. Blessed be

Answer 3

First off, if you love music, and it sounds like you do, put together a band.

Some role models and there are many more.
Mercy Me
Chris White
Rebecca St. James
Third day

Or if you are attending a larger church, join the musical part of the ministry.

It seems that you are trying to give up what you love in order to be a child of God, and this is not truely how it works.
Yes, give up the things that keep you away for God, or pull you away from him, but music was created by God. We can use it against him or for him (another good band- For Him)

The more you read Gods word and the closer and closer you get to him, the more comfortable you will feel around other Christians. I have been where you are at right now, and I look back now and see that most of it had to do with the fact that I knew that I was lacking in knowledge of how I was supposed to live and act and was afraid of doing something wrong in front of other Christians, as if they would judge me on every word I uttered or didnt utter. This feeling of being uncomfortable was very strong and yes, I was much more comfortable away from people whom I saw as "perfect".

I am here today, to tell you that although I am no longer uncomfortable around Christians, I am far from perfect and so are they. I actually enjoy all fellowship in my church now and cannot see my life without all of them.

SO, in a nutshell, do not give up your love of music and a band, just turn that love into music for God. Do not allow yourself to think that everyone at your church is so much better a Christian than you are, they are not, and the really mature ones know this and would never look down on you for a slip up.

May God bless you and keep you as you travel on his narrow pathway and find the joy that you are seeking in life.

Answer 4

When u say ur a Christian...i presume that ur a regenerated person. Well! The consequences of regeneration is separation from the world, in simple words, you have turned away from things that u did earlier, and this should be the attitude though. Being just six months in the faith, nobody expects you have changed completely, bu then a drastic change in you is something that one should find.

What u are going thru is something genuine kind of a situation and the tendency to go back to the world is even more at this juncture. Your feeling of being 'free' is understood but as you get on to be stronger in ur convictions for the Lord, u will over come all feelings and then for sure u will have ur priorities set.

Try and get in touch with someone in your church who has a reputation of being strong in the Lord, age should not be a factor though. Relate to this person what ur feelings are and then get the prayer support of this person. Confide in the person from whom u seek help to uplift u in the faith. As an 'infant' or rather 'baby' in the Lord ur craving for the 'milk' should be manifested. Growing up in the Lord is a process, so, relax and lean on Him and He will see u thru.

Answer 5

The reason you feel out of place with Christians, and free with non believers is that you are still used to your old life, and not yet familiar with the new.

I suggest you find a group of Christians to hang out with that have similar interests. You are a musician, there are a lot of Christian bands out there. Do not listen to those stuffed shirts that say "rock and roll is the devils music". They said the same thing back in the 70's and 80's about the Christian music that I listen to. Go to www.theprodigalradio.com and see what used to be called the devils music and was banned from stores and churches alike, to days Christian music has its roots in this music.
There are Christian alternatives to any music genre out there today. email me if you would like a chart comparing secular and Christian bands.

Answer 6

It takes practice to become a Christian ... and you are at the very beginning of the process.

Just hang in there and give it time.

Christianity is also a very big "tent" with many different types of Christian beliefs and practices.

I don't remember seeing any prohibition against rock music in the bible, but there are a number of things in scripture which prohibit profane and offensive behavior.

You may need to find some good Christian artists to hook up with, and see where that takes you.

And it may well be that you never come to fully appreciate the benefits of certain Christian practices.

That's why we have to accept certain things on faith.

Just keep working on it and keep praying. God can help you with all the rest.

Answer 7

Maybe your not in the right church for YOU. I'm not one to advocate "church hopping" on a whim, but it's possible that the Lord would have you to be at a church more geared towards people of your own age group. Ever think about starting up a Christian band as a church ministry? It could maybe also be that you just haven't found your niche in your church yet. But start off with prayer to see if the Lord would rather you be elsewhere worshiping Him.

Answer 8

My advice would be to trust in the Lord, ask Him what to do. Just because a person says they're a christian doesn't necessarily mean they are living a holy/righteous life. A christian is a follower of Christ, not other christians. Tell ya what: why not ask yourself this question: if Jesus were beside you, from what you know of Him from the bible, would He approve or disapprove of whatever is troubling you? and ask the Lord to help you discern the answer. This way it's not some person's opinion, it's not even your own, it's the Lord's. And He is perfect.

Answer 9

you are still a new Christian. A baby Christian. It will take time to feel like you fit in. Try to pick out someone your age you can relate and have conversations with. I promise it will get better. Hang in there. You are doing the right thing. It might help to talk to your pastor about this.

Answer 10

Find a set of Christians who you feel comfortable with. There are Christians that do NOT feel that rock and roll is the devil's music, and who don't try and tell you who to hang with. Praising God and going to church is not supposed to make anyone feel bad, sad, or out of place. Find a different place to worship.