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Question

My fiancee is VERY sick. For the past 3 days he's been throwing up blood. When we brought him to the doctors, we found out that he has cirrhosis of the liver. He may need a TRANSPLANT if it gets any worse. At this point I'm DEVISTATED. We're waiting for results from the doctor, and he's so sick, I just don't know what to do... I'm a full time manager of a large portion of a company, I am 7 months pregnant and I am having issues with this myself. He doesn't work, he's a stay at home, but I just don't know what to do about my job... I'm so stressed out that I'm starting to lose my hair. My fiancee's health is so bad, that when I talk about it I cry.. and I rarely ever cry... I'm just so TIRED. And for any questions, no he doesn't have hepetitis and rarely drinks but a glass of wine on occasion, so that's not why he has the cirrhosis. It's genetic. His father had it. I'm so stressed out that I've been having panic attacks, how do I handle this?? I'm just not used to so much happening...

Answer 1

Hon, I am so sorry you are going through this, and I am really sorry if this sounds harsh, but you need more help than Yahoo! Answers can give you.
The first thing you need to do it talk to your doc. The stress you are under is not good for the baby, and wouldn't it just add to the tragedy if something happened to the baby at this point?
You need to talk to your OB/GYN ASAP.
As for the job, FMLA, since you are a manager you should be familliar with that, tho since he is only a fiance there might be a problem with getting it. Talk to HR and if there is, you can always get a minister to come into your home and marry you (depending on where you live of course).
My cousin nearly died from complications of chirrosis last year, so I know the terror you are feeling right now. Please take care of yourself, provide what love and comfort you can and leave the rest to whatever higher power you believe in. Do not give up the fight. Good luck.

Answer 2

Let me start off by saying that I am so sorry that you and your fiancee are going through this.

The first thing that I can say is to calm down or you'll put yourself into early labor! With my first pregnancy, I had so many issues and was stressed out all the time and I had a lot of complications during the pregnancy but the birth came out fine (except she had a little fever). The problems that you are having are serious but being pregnant and so emotional from it is not helping.

Pray a lot for your fiancee and think positively, negative thoughts will bring on negative things so as long as you guys will think that everything is going to be okay, it will. Now do you have some time off available? I know that it's for the upcoming birth but if you have some time off from work, it may calm you down more and also give you some much needed time with your man. Ask for a leave of absence and be there for him and let him be there for you.

You should also let your obgyn know of what's going on and also tell him about your panic attacks, he may have some exercises that you can take to stop the attacks. Good luck to you!

Answer 3

I feel very bad for you. Cirrhosis and other liver diseases are so horrible. My husband died of cirrhosis due to hepatitis B&C. They only discovered he had it about a year and half before he died.
I'm just very surprised with your fiance's history the doctors wouldn't have taken tests....
And also wasn't he having any other symptoms before the throughing up of blood.......
It seems like he would have had pain, weight loss, constipation, low blood plattlett levels, swelling of the abdomen; ascites, and just general ill feeling...... unless he wasn't getting medical attention.....I would look into the doctors.
I know they have things like milk thistle, B Vitamins, and magnesium that help.
I wish you all the best, and I am sure because it is hereditary and not caused by misuse of drugs or alcohol I beleive he should be near the top of the list for transplants.

Answer 4

First of all, I am so sorry to hear the bad news, second, take a few deep, slow breaths, try to calm down. Panic won't help with anything. Now, my question is, does your health insurance cover him? if so, is it through your work? if so, see if you can take an FMLA, also known as a family medical leave of absence,, this federal law allows you up to 12 weeks off to care for a relative and still keep your job and I believe your benefits, but check to make sure that your benefits are still paid by the company if you take the FMLA. If they don't, or if you are not elegible for FMLA yet, or if you have insurance with this job and bills to pay like all of us, then keep the job but make arrangements with some family friends or relatives to sit with your fiancee while you are at work. do some reseach online and see if there are any remedies whether natural, or doctor prescribed to help him with pain or the disease itself, after all, knowledge is power. I do believe that there are natural remedies out there to treat a lot of illnesses, I used them when I was sixteen. A lot of doctors don't believe in natural or herbal medicine, but I worked in a pharmacy for three years and know for a fact that a lot of natural remedies actually work just as good if not better than prescribed medicine, (as well as that some remedies don't work as good) but that's just me. With some thing of this nature you need to weigh all the options. whenever you start to get stressed, take a few deep slow breathes and repeat to your self, relax, relax, relax. or everything will be allright, etc. Just say whatever helps you to relax. Focus on positive things, like the good times you had had in the past and think of the good times you will have in the future. BE POSITIVE, This one thing may just help your fiancee more than anything, because if he sees that you have faith that he's gonna get better then he will believe so even more and that may just be what triggers him to get better, The human mind is a very powerful thing. Once again, I am sorry to hear the bad news but just try my advice and see what happens. It may work for you because it DID work for me. Whatever happens, take care of the baby. You and the baby are just as important. Best of luck to you and yours, and you are both in my thoughts. - James

Answer 5

Hey gal, i'm sorry to hear about this...

I would say, calling up Help Lines, arrange a meeting. There are Social Workers, are very friendly, all have passion for helping and advicing.

At this time, talking to someone that can understand, giving you a good advice, who are smart and understanding to see things from your views and giving you suggestions is veryy important.

I'm not a psychatrist, I might not give you the best pat on the shoulder, so...all the best to your calls.

Hope your fiance and you all the best i could hope for.

Answer 6

You have every right to cry and be stressed. You're in a terrible situation. It's my your job to fix your fianee. That's the doctor's job to treat and cure. You need to go to your OB and discuss what's happening in your home life because you need to think about the health of your baby. I would suggest couples counseling for the both of you. Do the both of you have friends and family that can help support you right now?

It's going to be okay.

Answer 7

I am sorry to hear about your fiancee. Please cry because you deserve it. After you have cried it will give you the strength that you need. God only gives us what we can handle. By all means cry and don't worry that "little muffin in the oven" will be fine and I am so glad he doesn't have hepititis i had that and i was oranger than a carrot. Also you can talk to that "little muffin in the oven".
By all means cry and cry and cry.
You will not be a baby because that is not you.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

I agree with STAR totally.

You need immediate help from your doctor or your fiancees' doctor.
For your sake and your baby's don't try to handle this alone my
sister, it's just too much. Talk to your employer so they know what
you need and ask Human Resource person to help you find it.

Call any emergency hotline in your phone book and talk to someone whenever you need to. They have many professionals and agencies to refer you to for any kind of help. Don't be hesitant about it. That's why they're there.

Please take care of yourself first.

Answer 10

First things first take a deep breath when you feel stressed. Try to open a special bank account for medical bills. And i really hope your friend gets better.