We already know that women are influenced by the amount of money a guy has; generally speaking, ladies will be more attracted to the average rich guy and the the above average poor guy. But when it comes to dating, is it always the case that guys have to pay? I was reading a personals profile today and a woman said "It's time someone took me on a date".
Ladies, are you out there dating just so someone will take you out for a free dinner and drinks?! Or answer this question: when was the last time you asked/offered to take a guy out?
2006-11-25 16:44:00 · 14 answers · asked by Michael JB 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm in the Los Angeles area. lots of ladies here have good jobs, their own money, cars, houses, etc....yet many of them still have the old school mentality of guys footing the bill ALL the time. no dutch, no treating the guy.
2006-11-25 16:51:47 · update #1
no not bitter! just reflecting on a personals ad.
2006-11-25 17:07:43 · update #2
I think the way to impress a girl and show your interest on a first date is to pay for it. Once you start dating, the girl should offer to pay sometimes. I think it also depends on who makes more money. I make more, so I often pay for dates and it doesn't bother me. I am generous though and am not looking for a man to support me. I don't care at all if my guy even works, as long as he treats me well and is happy with his life.
As far as the woman who wrote that profile, I'd avoid her! She sounds really entitled and a little bitter. Why in the world would you put that in your profile? She will not attract a good guy with that comment.
Here is a true story though, which might make you think about casual dating. This woman joined a dating site with the goal of having a guy buy her dinner every night for one year, then she wrote about it. She succeeded, she said, because she could always count on the men she met online to pay.
Anyway, this was too long. Good luck with dating online! It worked for me : )
2006-11-25 16:50:49 · answer #1 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you would really be surprised first of all by how many women actually love working men. ( not rich at all) You would also be surprised at how many women are willing to take their working man on a date. Some women and men are old fashion and it is customarily that men have asked women on dates. As result everyone does not want to be as modern as you are in your expectation that you should be taken on a date. It sounds more like you are bitter by some encounter you have had, or some expectations you think you should receive.. Most women are working today and are very independent. The sad truth is that it is just as many men looking for a free ride. as women in this day in age. So what is it you think some woman should be giving you? I have friends where the women may pay the rent and the man pay utilities: and by food. In others words they share in all financial matters whether at home or going out.
2006-11-25 16:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by VLEEKS47 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I absolutely do not think that the guy should pay all the time..but...when the guy asks the girl out the first time I think he should pay..it's just sort of chivalrous..after they have gone on the first date and continue to date I would certainly pay especially if its my idea to go out..if you are out at a club then take turns buying drinks etc...the amount that each person should pay should also depend on the amount they make..its only fair that if one of the couple makes more than the other and likes to go out a lot then maybe they could pay a little more as its harder for the other person to match their income and paying ability.
2006-11-25 16:50:19 · answer #3 · answered by .*^+Holly+^*. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i completely disagree with "We already know that women are influenced by the amount of money a guy has"
i think that is 100% stereotyping. i dont judge a guys by how much money he has, if i find him attractive and has a great personality, i dont give a crap who pays, as long as we spend time together
mostly, if u ask a person out, you pay for them, but u really dont have to, i dont find that offensive when a guys doesnt pay for me, i have a job and work my *** off, just like the guys does, im not a gold digger
but what pisses me off is when guys take advantage of the money the lady has, now thats lower than low
2006-11-25 16:56:34 · answer #4 · answered by Mooshak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating is a pain, and I personally would way rathar stay home with a tv dinner than go out on a first date, however I do hear a lot of women saying "well it was a free dinner and movie", but I doubt many would continue that with someone that didnt interest them. And yes, they guy pays, perhaps it isn't fair but who told you life was fair?? Thats a pain of being a guy, girls have some whoppers too, its not fair on either side, but in this life not much is.
2006-11-25 16:49:39 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not ask guys out. i am old school. 45 yrs old and not a desperate (divorced) housewife. that's why i love foreign guys, they know how to treat a lady when they take her out. they are not counting every cent and they dont expect sex for payment like some American guys do.
i forgot to add, there are tons of independent women guys can choose from who will pay their own way etc, saving the guys a lot of money. I just happened to like the old fashioned ways, but i will help pay when i am serious about a guy. Chivalry is dead.
2006-11-25 16:48:05 · answer #6 · answered by nowisthetime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy asks me out and offers to pay, I would accept because I would not want the guy to think that I'm not appreciative . (Btw, I'm not dating only for free drinks and dinner... I date b/c I want to have a good time and I want to know that person better) If I asked a guy out, of course I would pay... but if he wanted to pay some of it.. I wouldn't mind :).
2006-11-25 16:53:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. Some girls are like that. Possibly MOST girls are like that depending on where you live. But personally, I feel bad making a guy pay for me. I try to split the cost as often as possible. And if he does pay, I go out of my way to make him feel special for taking care of me.
I offer to take my boyfriend out all the time. He deserves it.
2006-11-25 16:47:27 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. Dana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...Well at least i dont, if i like the guy then i will go out with him, the last time i went out was Like 3 weeks ago or 4
2006-11-25 16:46:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most woman would like to pay and do offer but it's more polite for the guy to pay expecially if he's the one who asked you out. if u didn't want to pay don't take the girl out. that's all i'm saying
2006-11-25 16:47:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋