recently i started a new job and im very commented to the person i am with but theres this guy at work i cant stop thinking of i mean he flirts with me all the time and i have to say no even though i dont want to yeah my "dude" cheats on me but i cant seem to leave him ive never cheated befor im always the one to be cheated on but i cant seem to stop thinking of this guy i mean we talk all the time hes like awesome we have so much in common what should i do?
2006-11-25 16:40:43 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well what do you want for the future? You really need to think about your future and this guy you are with. Is it going to work, can you handle him cheating on you? Maybe you guys can talk and see if you can both have an agreement to see others on the side? I say you should figure out what you are going to do in your relationship first, if it doesn't work out, then maybe go for it with your co-worker.
2006-11-25 16:45:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Being as though you are even asking, then something is wrong with your other relationship.
2 wrongs don't make a right, but it does make it even.
What would I do? Feel out my dude at home, and see how much I think he is cheating. I would then be friends with the guy at work, and inform him that he has to respect the fact that you have a boyfriend, but I would still hang out with him as a friend.
No matter what happens, you have one or the other and no one should get hurt. Now your boyfriend may feel some type of way if he finds out you hanging with a new guy, but hey as long as it's just hangin, he can't do anything but be mad
2006-11-26 00:45:15 · answer #2 · answered by Bright B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off....there is nothing wrong with you. This is perfectly normal. There is a saying and it is so true. Attraction is not a choice. You didn't see this guy and decide....hey you know I think I am going to be attracted to him. No it just happens.
You click with him because of the way he treats you.
You say your boyfriend cheats on you? Why are you still with him? He sure doesn't deserve you. So consider dropping him....you have plenty of reason......and start going with this other guy.
What ever you do don't do both. You may or may not get away with it but I can tell you the guilt will not let you do it long.
Have more integrity than you BF. Tell him you do not appreciate his cheating around on you and that you need to look for someone you can count on.
Of course you need to do this just for yourself not the other guy. If you leave your current bf and the other guy doesn't want to be steady then your back with no bf.
2006-11-26 00:56:38 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you should really work on your own issues before you worry about dating anyone. Your "dude" cheats on you??? And you're still with him????? You need to love yourself before you can love anyone else. If you need to use the excitement of this new guy to help you make the break, then do that. But, don't expect too much after that. Cut the ties with your current boyfriend. Try to heal yourself. And take your time with the new guy.
P.S. dipping your pen in the company ink is not the greatest idea either. but, a little rebound thing might help you out a little bit.
2006-11-26 00:47:29 · answer #4 · answered by *karasi* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey You! Don't Listen to Fool! Listen to your heart!
You never cheated! Good for YOU! You remained clean and proud!
They cheated! SHAME ON THEM! Who likes to be friend with Cheaters, except Cheaters...
NO! No! NO!
Always take proper action, one by one.
FIRST finals your relationship with this guy! Do You love him?
IF you don't love him FINISH IT!
Then you should NOT date anyone for at least six months.
IF, any guy loves you he can wait, and must wait for you!
After, six months, it is just like you born AGAIN, this time find someone that there be a real LOVE between you two!
Any how, I am very happy that still there are GOOD Girls out like you!
Last time I was with a girl, after sex she said that she had a boy friend. Believe me I felt very bad, and i never dated her again; and I can not meet any girl now!
We are human being; we must have respect for ourselves.
WE must have respect for "Other people relationship"
When, a person, knowingly, sleep with a woman/man that she/he has a serious relationship or husband/wife; this is a 'crime'.
In Iran, and many countries in the World the punishment is very serious, they may execute both of them!
I don't know why in Canada and US this serious crime become so ordinary that even they 'show' in TV...
2006-11-26 01:01:00 · answer #5 · answered by Iranian Amigo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God, first of all, if your guy is cheating on you, you need to leave him. If you don't want to cheat on him, but you really like this other guy, that's telling you something. You don't really love the guy you're with as much as you think you do. I know it's hard to leave because you're used to him, and it's comfortable, but you can't let him make a fool out of you. And who knows? If you leave him, tell the guy at work, and let him know you need some time. If he really likes you, he will wait. And that will show you if he tuly is interested in you. But, as much as you want to say "screw it, I wanna get back at him"...don't do it that way. Be the better person. You need to get away from someone who treats you that way. Then see how it goes with guy #2. Good luck.
2006-11-26 00:48:50 · answer #6 · answered by cheeseprincess10 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How about dump your boyfriend!!! This doesn't make sense read your question and then thing about how much it hurts to have your boy cheating on you all the time. the two of you are already over, please stop beating a dead horse and find someone else after dumping him...like the guy you have stuff in common with and like.
2006-11-26 00:44:07 · answer #7 · answered by espressoaddict22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone who cheats is not showing you respect. You need to explore other relationships so you know how you should be treated. Do not carry on with your co-worker if you do not break up with your boyfriend first. If you do you will be no better than he is at a relationship. If you have so much in common with your co-worker give it a shot, you won't be losing anything but a cheating boyfriend and you may gain a great relationship.
2006-11-26 00:48:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are wanting to be with this guy so bad then you are not 100% in love with your bf. On a bigger note...you are worth so much more than letting someone cheat on you~! If you are in a committed relationship then it goes both ways...he needs to be committed to you as well!! I hope all works out with you and there is NOTHING wrong with you!!
2006-11-26 00:43:08 · answer #9 · answered by AzMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is about evolution .
evolve, grow, learn and survive.
stay the same, and you dont survive.
your not going to survive if you keep repeating the same mistakes.
you want to stay where you are because you can predict the outcome, its accepable to you because your in your comfort zone.
go ahead, take a chance. life is to be lived and experienced.
get off the sidelines.
who knows you may actually like becoming an strong
independent women.
2006-11-26 00:49:04 · answer #10 · answered by 987654321abc 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋