My sons room is a dream room for any little boy, he has down blankets and 300 dollar sheets, a very expensive silk rug and ralph lauren paint on the walls in the design of a forest, plus he has a very large walk in closet...then the other we went to my husbands friends house and they have a child the same age as mine and his room was pretty basic...I felt weird and didnt want to invite them over our house because I was embarrassed that I spent to much on my kids room...has anyone else gone over board on their kids room???
2006-11-25 16:36:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Silk rug? Ralph Lauren paint? You need to ask yourself: Can my son honestly appreciate this stuff at his age? I think most people don't spend that kind of money on small kids because their tastes change constantly, and more importantly little ones tend to be very messy and break things to and fro. You may think he has a "dream room", but that's coming from an adult's point of view with already developed, sophisticated tastes in decor. Kids are kids and haven't developed a REAL sense of taste yet. Talk to your son and ask him about what changes he would make if he could redo his room...whether that's dinosaurs, Disney characters, or whatever. I think you'll see pretty quickly that his decorative sense is far different from your own. Maybe you're afraid of a room in your house looking "tacky". Don't be. You could get him involved and find fun and creative ways to thriftily put his stamp on the room. This is a good thing for him to learn now.
Ridiculously expensive things will give your child an unfounded sense of entitlement. He'll grow up expecting every last thing he wants. It also discourages creativity and the ability to compromise and economize.
2006-11-26 13:34:21 · answer #1 · answered by snapessxy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does a small child need $300 sheets or a silk rug? It sounds to me like your priorities are in the wrong place. Don't get me wrong. I'm all about having a nice house and decorating. But it can be done on a budget and made to look very nice. I get compliments on my children's rooms all the time and I've never bought them $300 sheets. I'm sorry but that is money that could be better spent. I wonder who it is you are trying to impress. If you don't even want people to come over then why even bother decorating at all? What is the point in spending that kind of money. I suspect that you only feel worth when you buy name brand and spend a fortune. That is really sad. And what is worse is that your child is going to learn that from you. So, his only sense of self worth is going to come from the amount of money he can spend and what his material possesions are worth. Is that really what you want for him? I bet you that child with the "basic" room is a very happy child and will grow up with a great sense of self worth because it isn't tied up in material things. So, which child really has the best of things?
2006-11-25 19:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by Amelia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should do what makes you and your family feel comfortable. However, you should also bear in mind that little boys do not always value 300 dollar sheets and silk rugs. I don't know how old your son is, but you're liable to end up with urine on the sheets and all sorts of things on the rug. As long as you recognize these realities--and can afford the luxuries--then you should buy what you want.
2006-11-25 16:50:54 · answer #3 · answered by J&Tmommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to over do it alittle. But $300 sheets, silk rug and Ralph Lauren stuff is a bit too much. And you may end up teaching him that money is everything. And that is mostly what's wrong with kids these days. ipods and Playstation 3 may be nice to have, but nothing compairs to compassion and love within the family.
2006-11-25 17:23:30 · answer #4 · answered by impala_girl_64 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, does your son NEED $300 dollar sheets? Can't that money be used for something else? Spoiling your son now,will set precedent that he needs to be spoiled later in life. He will think it, and sadly, you might think that way too. I say stop buying him so much while you still can. I mean buying nice things is good, but make sure he still understand the value of a dollar, and that things won't just come to him in life. Maybe help him earn the best, instead of giving it to him. He might appreciate them more.
2006-11-25 16:49:47 · answer #5 · answered by Scalder 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but I wouldn't go that overboard on my son. Life isn't about "stuff or things" it's about love- or whatever you make it to be. If you let your son grow up with all these expensive "things" he won't respect anything, but instead expect it as he gets older. Unless you are teaching him you have to work hard for everything you buy, then that might help, but you'd also have to make him work for things he wants too when he gets of age. So honestly, you are molding him now... into wanting all these expensive things.
My mom buys my family and my younger brothers lot's of things as well... the love part with her isn't always there, and she will use the things she buys as a form of love- which I don't like or agree with. Money can't buy love, and neither can things. So keep all of that in mind too.
2006-11-25 16:50:13 · answer #6 · answered by m930 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You're treating your son like a very expensive pet. I think your son would be better served with heaps of love and attention rather than down comforters and silk sheets.
2006-11-25 21:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by pepper 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to be careful and teach your son to appreciate what he has or he is going to turn into a materialistic spoiled brat.
if he wants an extra toy or whatever then say okay but you have to do the dishes tonight. teach him that money doesnt just fall out of the air, you have to work for it, or he will live in a superficial hollywood world with a false sense of entitilement or when it comes time to grow up and start his own life he will fail.
2006-11-25 16:52:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't be embarrassed... Maybe you should sponcer a child for christmas... I'm not really excatly how this works, but you can shop for one child or a whole family for Christmas presents... All the malls in your local area should have info about this...
2006-11-25 16:42:25 · answer #9 · answered by Tina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DON'T SPOIL YOUR KID!!!
If he gets a bunch of stuff handed over to him like that, then he will never learn to do anything for himself and later on in life, whenever he does realize he actually has to work for things in life, he is going to whine like a little baby.
2006-11-25 16:46:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋