My daughters 14 but isn't really ready for the touching & feeling that goes on in real dating. She's been to movies & dances but thinks she's abnormal because she's not ready for more. I was 15 when I had my first boyfriend. Is there a certain age where teens should be ready for more? If it were up to me she'd be this way for the next 3 years but she's not happy feeling this way so should I just leave it alone or push her? My nephew was 11 when he started french kissing girls but I think that was way too young. Any thoughts?
2006-11-25 15:59:18 · 26 answers · asked by gitsliveon24 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first of all, I think your daughter must be pretty mature: not only did she confide in you (not easy for a teenager..believe me), she basically admitted that she wouldn't know how to handle the situation if a guy tried to go too far. it's great that she can trust you.
I think she will find that it's more about finding the right guy than the right time. Coincidentally, the right guy always comes along at the right time- if he came before she was ready to date, he would of course be the wrong guy actually. She will know when she's ready. The right guy will change her mind around.
:D
2006-11-25 16:29:08 · answer #1 · answered by jammin 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
16
2006-11-25 16:16:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm dont think there is an EXACT age to start dating. It all depends on the child. If you trust your daughter then probably 14-15. But, if you have major trust issues then later. But personally, french kissing at 11 is gross.
2006-11-25 16:01:51 · answer #3 · answered by brieseptember 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right. 14 is too young to date. I guess i would say it depends on her maturity as to how old she should start dating. I would say 16 is a good place to start and you need to set her down and lay the rules on her, such as curfews,protection and just that you will be there for her if she needs a shoulder to cry on or somebody to talk to. The hardest thing to do is tell your kids No,isn't it? Your nephew needs his butt kicked..lol..yes..11 is way to young to french kiss..geesh...I have sons and I could at least keep them outta trouble until they started driving. You certainly cannot be with your kids 24/7 but you can do your best to talk to them and guide them in making the right decisions. Good Luck.
2006-11-25 16:13:36 · answer #4 · answered by Shortydeb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think 17-18 is the appropriate age, because think about it, a 14 or 15 year old can have 20 boyfriends just to call "boyfriends" but really, they dont know what it is like to have a real relationship. I see this with my friend's sister, who is like 13 and thinks she is in love with her "boyfriend." they need to be more mature when it comes to kissing, and all the other stuff. you know?
i wouldnt mind letting her go out with boys and stuff, but let her know that what she's feeling isnt real "love."
hope this helps!
2006-11-25 16:02:49 · answer #5 · answered by Kitty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right in not letting your daughter date. She is so young and innocent, she might get hurt! although your daughter doesn't realize it, she will thank you one day. Tell her that she is absolutely normal, that everyone matures at different paces, and 11 is too young for french kissing :P
i think that the appropriate age for dating would be 16. but if you don't feel she is mature enough, don't let her!
hope this helps ~MIaz
2006-11-25 16:02:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesn't matter what age, it just matters if your daughter thinks she's doing the right thing. if she thinks she's feeling abnormal, she's probably ready but she needs a little push. and when i mean little, i mean LITTLE. nobody likes to be pressured. give your daughter some time and encourage your daughter to tell herself that she's not abnormal. girls can be very self-concious that age so keep on encouraging and she'll do just fine. :)
2006-11-25 16:06:04 · answer #7 · answered by Holly♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the age, but the maturity that you should be looking at. She can begin double dating, but I wouldn't let date date until 15 or 16....
2006-11-25 16:01:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am with you on this one. I had to be 16 to date. But if I were you I would talk to her. I had a great relationship with my mom. If you don't talk to her she will talk to her friends and ask them for help. Tell her you love her and are looking out for her. Their are reasons why she has to wait. Ask her what the girls reputations are (the ones who are dating). If you do let her date make sure you give her change for a pay phone or let her have a cell phone. Tell her if she needs to call she can count on you. Boys can be very forceful but tell her she can call you and you will bail her out (with out embarrassing her). If it is a party and they are drinking pick her up down the street. Meet the boys she dates they are taking out the most important thing in your life.
2006-11-25 16:19:10 · answer #9 · answered by Erika B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i atarted dating when i was 16 and i no what guys tried ta do then and im sure things are alot worse now my daughter is 6 now and she wiil not b alowed ta go out with a boy untill she is 18 and no younger she can go wiht friends all she want but i will have numbers off all the kids parents and i will b making alot of calls i no what i did and i no what im gonna tryto prevent my daughter from doing
2006-11-25 16:05:15 · answer #10 · answered by jeannie k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋