ok, so there's this guy. i really, really like him. i cant stop thinking about him...but see, there's this problem, the guys like...really...big...like obese. and i dunno what to do! why do i like him?! i mean, if it had been anyone else, ill be like, eww. and i wouldnt give the guy a second chance...
2006-11-25 15:57:18 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oops, i meant, second look
2006-11-25 15:58:04 · update #1
maybe its not the looks your into with this guy maybe you like him cause he makes you laugh and he makes you feel secure and happy? It's not [all] about the looks girl ( but sometimes they help, =p )
2006-11-25 16:01:39 · answer #1 · answered by Girlnxtdoor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must have a really nice personality for you to see through the 'obesity'. No offence to obese people but it is unhealthy and when you are looking for a partner in life you subconciously see obese people as "eww" like you say as you want the best person to be with.
You do need attraction in a relationship, without that there will be no fire, so if you are attracted to him try spending some time with him before asking him out just to see if you still feel the same way.
I mean there are some really hot guys out there with really ugly personalities, so give it a shot.
2006-11-25 16:04:37 · answer #2 · answered by adnie25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks aren't everything. There's nothing wrong looking beyond his exterior. It's hard sometimes to not be shallow and worry about that sort of thing, but if you can- realize that perhaps he probably is good enough for you. A lot of times, people that would be considered physically unattractive by "society" often times work hard on thier personality and excel in other ways. Some of the most sexually appealing people thruout history have been considered down right "ugly" (physically). But both men and women being neither beautiful or young have been able to get whomever they wanted and kept their "lovers" wanting more. Perhaps, if this guy is really good to you, you'll get spoiled in a good way and make you feel special- now what's so unattractive about that?
2006-11-25 16:07:46 · answer #3 · answered by Emilia D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't give you a speech about how completely shallow you sound. I'll just put it like this, he can loose the baby fat, but if he's an amazing guy, he's more worth your time than a guy who is physically attractive and yet has an unattractive personality. Go on physically active dates. He may be over weight because of low self confidence
2006-11-25 16:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by Valerie1987 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your having trouble because of peer presure. Your friends all think its disgusting to be fat, or maybe that its weird. Most guys have a charm that girls cant resist. No matter how ugly or fat they are. I think, you should tell your friends to shut the hell up if they say anything and go for it. Give the kid a chance. And just remember, nothing is going to stop love.
2006-11-25 16:06:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are realizing looks are not everything, maybe he's a really good guy and you are felling that, just because someone looks good on the outside doesnt mean that they are good on the inside, maybe if you told him you liked him and started dating after time you could suggest exercising with him or ask him to start going on walks with you, then it's not really a date you are just an exercise buddy for a while and go from there
2006-11-25 16:05:30 · answer #6 · answered by tammy r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it shows you are not shallow. Good for you to be able to see past the obvious and see the person within. The world would be a better place if we all were like that.
2006-11-25 16:01:34 · answer #7 · answered by ssnbrphy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur looking at the personality then. thays happend to me before. its a good thing in a way. but when i liekd someone that was kinda big, i was thinking ew y wud i want to go around with someone that big. thats wat ur prolly thinking. so just keep liking him i guess. and if u really like hi then ask him out and dont be ashamed of his wieght its just a waste of time to think about. good luck
2006-11-25 16:01:55 · answer #8 · answered by jessicacd91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends:
-He can love for who you really are
-He makes you feel like a nice young lady
-He gives you more attention than most people
-He is really concerned about you and has a geniune interest in you and your hobbies.
2006-11-25 16:05:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are just looking for a shady spot to stand in?
2006-11-25 15:59:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋