hi, i'm a christian guy who wants to know why christian groups and youth pastors and stuff say its wrong to have sex before you get married. Besides obvious reasons of getting the girl pregnant and stds. I"m with one girl and I have only been with this one girl. I plan on marrying her and I juyst want to know if the Bible says anything about pre-marital sex, saying that it is wrong. thanks, intelligent answers only please.
2006-11-25 15:46:18 · 22 answers · asked by Superman 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Along with all other kinds of sexual immorality, sex before marriage / premarital sex is repeatedly condemned in Scripture (Acts 15:20; Romans 1:29; 1 Corinthians 5:1; 6:13,18; 7:2; 10:8; 2 Corinthians 12:21; Galatians 5:19; Ephesians 5:3; Colossians 3:5; 1 Thessalonians 4:3; Jude 7). The Bible promotes abstinence before marriage. Sex before marriage is just as wrong as adultery and other forms of sexual immorality, because they all involve having sex with someone you are not married to. Sex between a husband and his wife is the only form of sexual relations that God approves of (Hebrews 13:4).
Sex before marriage has become so common for many reasons. Far too often we focus on the “recreation” aspect of sex without recognizing the “re-creation” aspect. Yes, sex is pleasurable. God designed it that way. He wants men and women to enjoy sexual activity (within the confines of marriage). However, the primary purpose of sex is not pleasure, but rather reproduction. God does not outlaw sex before marriage to rob us of pleasure, but to protect us from unwanted pregnancies and children born to parents who do not want them or are not prepared for them. Imagine how much better our world would be if God’s pattern for sex was followed: fewer sexually transmitted diseases, fewer un-wed mothers, fewer unwanted pregnancies, fewer abortions, etc. Abstinence is God’s only policy when it comes to sex before marriage. Abstinence saves lives, protects babies, gives sexual relations the proper value, and most importantly honors God
2006-11-25 15:51:14 · answer #1 · answered by Yeshua 2 · 6⤊ 3⤋
"Thou shalt not commit adultery." Adultery is having sex with a woman whom not your wife. Even with the best intentions, your girlfriend in not your wife.
I am maried right now, but my wife is not the first woman that I wanted to mary. I had planned to mary a different woman, but she changed her mind. Who is to say that either of you won'change your mind
You say you are a christian, but you want to break God's rules; can you be trusted? If she lets you have your way, can she be trusted?
Your relationship with God should be an xample of the marriage relationship. When you take that step of engaging in sex, you will give that woman a part of yourself that you can never get back. If you really love and respect her, then wait until after the wedding, and you and your wife will appreciate it even more.
I have experienced this from both sides and the one that we waited was the best relationship. (The sex is great too.)
You don't have to practice, and you don't have to sample before you buy; you don't take a bite out of an apple before you decide to buy it or reject it.
The best thing that I can tell you is to get to know her very well and make sure that she doesn't have any habits that will irritate you. Make sure that she is the one that God wants you to mary. (Having premarital sex and then saying that you have to get married doesn't count.) Pray about it very seriously, and God will guid you.
2006-11-25 16:16:21 · answer #2 · answered by Marty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the Bible does say something about it. "Fornication" includes premarital sex. It's a no-no.
Now, let's see why this is a no-no:
*Pregnancy, as you noted.
*STD's, as you noted.
*There's the element of two people becoming one during sex. This oneness is part of the oneness of marriage and is why you'll notice in Old Testament passages that when a man 'bedded' a woman (or whatever other choice of words was used during the translation), they were automatically married.
*When you wait until after marriage, there is a guarantee of no past guilt of having slept with somebody you were sure you were going to be with forever. I knew one young woman who was going to wait until marriage. She then found the man she thought she was going to be with forever. They broke up. She discovered she was pregnant, and out of fear, she ended up having an abortion. So, by not waiting until her marriage, she has a sexual relationship she regrets as well as an abortion, things she will carry around with her for a lifetime. And then some.
*Having sex premaritally is all about the hormones and the physical desires--if it weren't, you'd have no problem waiting. If it's going to be an expression of your love, your commitment to her and the oneness you want to have with her, marry her first.
*As someone who waited until marriage (to someone who also waited until marriage), let me tell you that to have that first time be with your spouse is truly very special. There are no regrets.
2006-11-25 16:05:52 · answer #3 · answered by glurpy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because it's not allowed and Jesus even said so.
To keep from being a fornicator (one who has sex outside of marraige) one should marry.
Do you marry the GIRL or the SEX OBJECT
Thing about that one!
One day your wife MAY decided sex is only for making babies you the two of you aren't making them now, so NO SEX, can you LIVE in that marriage for 20 or 30 years!
Tell me, if you don't "like" her, you going to call the marriage off!
2006-11-25 16:35:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the regulations in accordance to the bible are that intercourse with everyone different than your husband/spouse is Adultery. so as that consists of pre marital intercourse. in my opinion i think of this is all clap catch. Marriage substitute into initially designed very very nearly as a "property transaction" (i'm speaking Western international) and has in basic terms been imbued with "romantic love" thought at present. i think of you could completely believe that the guy you're with at any time is the "one" and not using fairly paper and the ceremony. you could believe the time is right and that's for no one else to pick yet you. there isn't something incorrect with intercourse, it somewhat is a healthful difficulty that all and sundry human beings (and confident even the only ones do). Having pronounced all that it is your decision to hold off or not, no one else. Use protection in case you do pick to have intercourse.
2016-10-13 03:12:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is premarital sex is okay if you love each other and/or plan to get married? Do you think that adultery is just an "affair" or is it a terrible sin against God? Whatever your opinions are is what reveals what you are inside: biblical, worldly, or a little bit of both. Ultimately, though, you must examine yourself to see if you are in the faith. Basically, if you agree with the Bible, you're fine. If you do not, then you are wrong.
Here are some questions meant to get you to think and examine yourself to help you see what kind of a Christian you are, maybe to see if you really are one. The Holy Spirit can prompt you. He can let you know about sin and righteousness (John 16:8). Lovingly and humbly submit yourself to Him.
Examine yourself:
Do you believe the essentials of the Christian faith: Trinity, Jesus is God in flesh, salvation by grace through faith, Jesus rose from the dead physically?
Do you confess that you are a sinner before a holy God? (Rom. 3:23)
Do you confess that you cannot please God through your own efforts? (Isa. 64:6)
Do you acknowledge that Jesus is the only way to salvation? (John 14:6; Acts 4:7-12)
Do you acknowledge that there is only one God in all the universe? (Isaiah 43:10; 44:6,8)
Do you seek to do the will of the Lord? (Matt. 7:21)
Do you know that God loves you and desires your relationship with Jesus? (1 Cor. 1:9).
Do you acknowledge that sin causes a separation between you and God? (Isaiah 59:2)
Do you approve of social agendas in the church? (Rom. 12:12)
Do you believe that morals are relative? (Exodus 20:1-17)
Do you suspect that reincarnation might be true? (Heb. 9:26).
Do you casually look at the Bible as a guide book, not the rule of truth and faith? (2 Tim. 3:16)
Do you believe that feelings are as valid as scripture to find truth? (Jer. 17:9)
Do you believe that those who reject Christ will go to hell forever? (Matt. 25:46)
Do you pray only when something is wrong in your life? (Phil. 4:6)
Do you go to church only on special occasions? (Heb. 10:25)
Do you use the Lord's name in vain? (Exodus 20:7)
Do you regularly watch things on TV and in the movies that you shouldn't? (Phil. 4:8)
Are we basically good in nature or bad? (Eph. 2:3; Psalm 51)
Is the devil a real being? (Rev. 20:1)
Is dust collecting on your Bible?
If you have the Son in you, the Holy Spirit will bear witness of the truth of your life in Him. Jesus said, "My sheep hear My voice, and I know them, and they follow Me; 28and I give eternal life to them, and they shall never perish; and no one shall snatch them out of My hand," (John 10:27-28).
2006-11-25 15:59:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you were a christian guy you would know that pre-marital sex is a sign of lack of control, not following rules set down.
If you plan to marry the girl anyway, why not just wait? You will feel better about it too and it is a good start to your spiriual life together.
2006-11-25 15:52:30 · answer #7 · answered by julie 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Yes it is wrong. Sex is intended for marriage. You say you are having sex and "planning" on marrying her. Well...that doesn't matter. God asks that a young man, or woman, remain chaste until they are indeed married. Anything can happen between now and if or when you ever marry this girl. How is it you are Christian and are asking this question on a website? Don't you study the bible? And I don't mean to be unkind in asking that.....this is a serious thing and you should stop doing it.
2006-11-25 15:49:33 · answer #8 · answered by Esther 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
The Bible does mention premarital sex and it labels it as fornication. You have to understand God's purpose for sex. He created it for mankind. The only time that sexual pleasure is talked about in the word of God is in the marriage context. You see man, it is great that you wish to marry this girl and God bless you and this girl in your marriage regarding your sex life. but always keep in mind that until you are married to that person she does not own your body and you do not own hers. Once you are married, then you can let loose. UNtil then God says to hold off because that is something that He invented for those who get married. I cannot state the references on the top of my head but it does say to abstain from fornication and he who does commit fornication sins against his own body.
2006-11-25 15:53:00 · answer #9 · answered by ben_ukraine19 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well Mr. Superman:
If unwanted pregnancy and std is not enough, then as a christian you know fornication is unacceptable.
What is fornication?
For any society to succeed, no one can think in terms of "its O.K. for me."
Guidelines must be made for the group and all should want to co-operate, even if individually it seems unnecessary.
2006-11-25 15:52:38 · answer #10 · answered by Uncle Thesis 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋