Which direction do i head in?

Question

.My daughter was going thru a difficult pregancy and my soul mate about to start dialysis all on the same day, both emergency surgeries, well, thru misfortune, my grandson survived, so did my daughter, but my soul mate of eighteen years passed, within two hours of each other. His funeral is scheduled for sunday and my daughter is due to being the baby home sunday, both live out of state from me. holidays made plane sched impossible, no flights leaving at all to where i needed to go, because i'm wheelchair bound i need special reservations and can't just up and fly like anyone else, so driving i don't do and connections were out of the question, my daughter felt i should come to her and his mother thought it was it right time now for me to show up for her, after all she did care for him during all of his illness in the past 7 years, where do i head first or what do i do/ only sensitive answers please. i'm full. i lost my baby sister in feb of 06, a good mentor 11/06 and my best neig

each one live on different coast, one west coast and one east coast.

Answer 1

I would go to the funeral first, and the go to see your daughters baby.

Answer 2

I am so sorry to har of your lost, and Im happy to hear of your new grandson and daughter, Tough question. I don't think there is an answer anyone can give you, Your daughter and grandson are important however the funeral is a one time thing besides the Memorial services they sometimes have. Your heart will give you the answer, no one can go against what their heart is telling them. you already have the answer its within you. eithier side will understand if your totally honest about your feelings. you could always have your own memorial service and memories of him where ever you go and you could always go see your daughter a week later as long as you do go see them and it depends on how close your relationships are or what you want them to be. good luck I will say a prayer for you and yours.

Answer 3

Obey your heart. Either you choose is the right choice. If it were me I would go to the funeral and then later to be with my daughter. You have her here for more days. You don't have any time other than the funeral to spend with soul mate. God bless you and be strong. This too shall pass.

Answer 4

Go to the funeral and say your good byes. The daughter should understand. Tell her you want the opportunity to enjoy your grandchild... AFTER you put some things behind you. Tell her the grandchild is your future and you will come to see them as soon as you possibly can.

Answer 5

I say that you go to see your daughter. Life and death are very different things. Even though he was your soul mate you can say goodbye to him in the privacy of your own home. Your daughter is alive and needs you to be there to support her and her newborn child. And I am sure your soulmate will understand since he is up in heaven now.

Answer 6

I'm going to assume that you were with your daughter during her pregnancey...your soul mate just passed....and even though it might be important for you to be with her right now, you WILL NOT get another chance to go to his funeral. Explaint hat to her, tell her that you need to go to him first, if she relly cares, she'll understand

Answer 7

I would say that you should do whatever your heart is telling you that you want to do.....all others opinions aside. Where do you feel that you need to be?.....This should be about you .....you cant be all things to all people at all times ....at a time like this you need to first be true to yourself....Others want you to be there for them...but who's there for you????......Give yourself a break and be selfish this one time......I feel for you and wish you Good Luck....Congrats on the grandson.....Heartfelt sympathies for loss of your soulmate.