One of my best friends, who happens to be a guy, really likes me. I have a group of friends, and he told everyone in the group except me and it eventually came around to me. My friend Andrea told me about it, and I kind of laughed and said "That's sick." Because honestly, I can't think of him as anything more than a friend. We're in the ninth grade by the way. Anyway, word got around to him that I find the thought of going out with him disgusting. So now, he pretty much hates me and will barely look at me when I try to talk to him. I feel so bad about everything, and I just want everything to go back to normal. He told my friends that he's going to "be a jerk" to me from now on.
what's the best advice you can give me in this situation? will we ever be able to be friends again?
2006-11-25 15:23:08 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He may not stop and listen to you talk to him...Write him a letter and you hand it to him...Explain what it is you said and how it got mixed up going threw person to person...Apologies for the miscommunication....Make sure you hand him the letter...
2006-11-25 15:31:15 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. I think while he may be hurt, he's acting really immature.
2. You need to make the effort to talk to him if you want to keep the friendship. Tell him that while you do not want to date him (if that is the case) that you think he is an awesome person and that you wouldn.t be his friend if you honestly thought he was 'sick'.
Just tell him that you just want everything back to the way it was and that you were reacting poorly to an unexpected confrontation.
2006-11-25 15:28:18 · answer #2 · answered by sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try telling him the comment was taken out of context. What you meant was that is was sick, only because you think of him more like a brother than anything else. Then apologize if anything you said hurt him in any way.
2006-11-25 15:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It comes down how bad you want save the friendship and how much it will effect your group of friends. It is clear from his reaction he probably not be someone you would want to date. So either you apologize to him for the sake of your friendship and your group and hope he accepts or you go on with your life without him.
2006-11-25 15:36:22 · answer #4 · answered by Wyleeguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell him that you didn't mean it but that you only want to be friends. If it doesn't work just give him some time maybe he'll come around. If not don't worry things have away of working themselves out.
2006-11-25 15:26:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you see him not only as your best guy friend but also as a brother. Let him know that you didn't mean that he was disgusting but the thought of you dating your brother is!
Good luck.
2006-11-25 15:27:25 · answer #6 · answered by Ash Anne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will get over it once he finds someone else to like now tht he knows how you feel bout him,,cant blame him though..shouldnt have said anything like that..if you wanted to tell him you werent interested you should have told him yourself when all your friends werent involved..because things like these hurt and are more embarassing then sahying he likes you..
2006-11-25 15:27:14 · answer #7 · answered by sinful vampyra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant have you friends or his friends talk to him anymore you have to talk to him now and tell him that you never asked for this and the only reason that you said ewwww was because your such good friends, your like brother and sister and that it had nothing to do with his looks or personality if you talk to him yourself, then all will be well and tell him that you just want things the way they were FRIENDS!!!! good luck
2006-11-25 15:27:12 · answer #8 · answered by enochsangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately I think your friendship is done. I think he thought of your friendship as a way to possibly be your boyfriend..And you just basically said no way to that. So unless you are completly closed to the idea of boyfriend girlfriend...he is gone
2006-11-25 15:29:27 · answer #9 · answered by chris f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it a year or 2 and you'll prolly laugh about it when your a junior or senior. Saying "That's Sick" was pretty mean though. He should probably be mean to you you stuck up hussy.
2006-11-25 15:27:26 · answer #10 · answered by travis R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋