Here is my situation, I am 2 months in a new relationship that is long distance with a guy I really like. We get along very well, great conversation, we laugh, we discuss we debate, all is well. The only thing is that when he gets busy, ie family or friends visiting, he doesn't make the time to call me. If I don't call him we can go two days with out talking. It really upsets me, and I feel that he is being inconsiderate of my feelings. What should I do?
2006-11-25 14:57:04 · 13 answers · asked by Bran 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like a young love problem. Long distance relationships are always tough. If he is away doing things with his family and other friends it would be very not to call. This does not at all mean he does not like, or even not love you. He just needs his own time, and sometimes talking on the phone for hours every day can be too much of a strain on his life. As you get older you will see that just because you dont talk to someone for a few days doesn't mean that the love is gone. You have to have security in your relationship and trust him. You are also young and need to live your own lives first. GOOD LUCK!
2006-11-25 15:02:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off calm down. You are placing yourself in the unenviable position of craving him. Now craving sensually is always a good thing, so long as your craving doesn't meet up with his aloof air.
View this from a friend's eye. Take your heart & your loins out of the picture for a few days. Gain a perspective that governs your activities with him & your lusting as if you were advising a best friend. He may be the only man on earth for you, though I doubt it, still if he's not all juiced up like you, you'll spend a lot of your time wearing yourself thin worrying & wondering why.
Remember before you met this God, you used to notice other guys. Do this again, NOW!!! Unless you think he has a plan which aligns itself perfectly with you, relax & enjoy the other beautiful men on earth. Find anything other than punching his number on your cell keypad. See if it takes more than 7 days for him to call. If it does, your God will become a mortal again.
Love you & wish you comfort.
2006-11-25 15:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by takeitez2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Red flag, is this a defined relationship where you guys are comitted if not frequent calls are not expected. I was in a long distance relationship it was not defined due to him saying "when it was defined things went wrong". If you feel he is not being considerate then its best to state it save yourself the heart ache and dont assume he knows this because most of the time you think they know and it should be common sense but its not so
2006-11-25 15:03:15 · answer #3 · answered by zizi4me22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him some time but dont donate so much time that it takes your day away. Also he should be calling you alot more often especially if he really cares about you. Me and my fiance are in a long distance relationship and we talk for hours every day even if were both busy with school or work.
2006-11-25 15:00:49 · answer #4 · answered by mona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a big problem and it will not change you need to make up your mind if this is what you really want because the only way it will work is that you need to be okay with this . Why I say this is I just broke up with girl that is the same way but to make matters worst she couldn't express her feeling and couldn't talk to me with any of her family around because she is being control by them and just maybe he is like this too. I would get out of it. You Watch as soon as he is close to you he will act different to you. Find someone that is like you.
2006-11-25 15:04:31 · answer #5 · answered by isitreal1963 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only 2 days?? I would give him some space. If it was 2 weeks, thats a different story. He has to have a life to and so should you!!! Dont spend most of your time hanging around talking with the boy. They cant possibly miss you if you are always there. Just dont call, let him call you!
2006-11-25 15:02:18 · answer #6 · answered by bluestar_dreamsx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys have their own time. Two days is not a big deal for them. I would not get upset about it. I think that you're reading way too much in to this. Relax, and don't worry about it.
2006-11-25 15:00:46 · answer #7 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him. When my bf disses me like that, I let him know and we get on equal levels.
I know what you're going through, long distance relationship and all...
It kills you to not be talking to them cuz you have no clue to what they're up to or what's going on...drives me nuts! @_@
Just be patient too, try to understand that people get busy and such, their whole world doesn't truly revolve around you...(It better once there's marriage involved though! XD)
Keep in touch with me. ^_^ I wanna know how you do.
Good luck!
<3 Jazzy
2006-11-25 15:01:35 · answer #8 · answered by La Reina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need a side boyfriend to fill that time of calling is that important to you....short distance i would suggest
2006-11-25 15:02:34 · answer #9 · answered by chromegrill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to him becuase a long distance relationship is mainly on the phone so yuo reall yneed to be honest with him and let him know that this is really bothering you
2006-11-25 15:00:17 · answer #10 · answered by labonitameli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋