I went on a really good date. He even told a mutual friend it was good. I don't see him often and am not into him anymore. I just want to know this info. for future dates. Be honest...
We went out and had an awesome conversation. It was never dull or anything. It was the best convo ever. We had a lot in common. Anyways I didn't really look him in the eyes because I didn't want to put myself out there so I wouldn't get hurt or fall too fast. Anyways we hugged goodbye and he hugged me really tight. Since I didn't make much eye contact, do you think he thought I wasn't interested and decided to blow me off? Or by not creating any eye contact I got put into the friend category and since we went on a date he was scared to pursue a friendship. I tried to make contact so we could be buddies but he never responded.
Thanks a Ton!
2006-11-25 14:53:39 · 8 answers · asked by coolchick 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let's say I wanted to pursue it. would u drop him a note a month later? I did try to make contact up to two weeks after the date. I dropped him two notes on msn
2006-11-25 14:58:34 · update #1
I don't think he consciously looked for body language to tell if you were interested or not. BUT...if there were times like he was TALKING and you didn't make eye contact, or you were looking off into the distance while he was talking.....THAT can be a sure sign of disinterest. Because then you look like you're ignoring him. Yea he probably figured out you weren't interested, and i'd do the same thing, i'd move on. It's one thing to like someone and not like you back....but to be friends with them? That's a stab in the kidney every time you have an intimate moment. Most sensitive or hell just anyone with compassion doesn't like that kind of torture. Some can deal with that and blow it off...some can't. IN his case i'm assuming he can't. So yea as far as friend wise he'd probably avoid it....that's too much like being led on for nothing.
OR....just could be miscommunication, maybe HE just lost interest based on that wonderful date, yea it may have been great, but sometimes for the sake of being a gentleman he ended up not being interested and just made the best out of the date and then moved on. Course i doubt this is the case.
Now as far as the question, i would if the conversation and date was worth it, if you showed GENUINE interest then yea why not? But if you were ignoring me, seemed like it...even though we were talking....and/or just gave off signs of disinterest...which are hard but sometimes people can make it blatantly obvious....then i'd just do like him and just move on.
2006-11-25 15:06:08 · answer #1 · answered by Dennis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would, If for nothing else, but to see if it went any where. Also I personally would try a friendship with her because, if the first date went as well as said, then a friendship should work. And we all need all the friends we can get.
2006-11-25 23:04:00 · answer #2 · answered by Hotrod 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes- If I were him I would definitely want to go out with you again, sounds like he loved your conversations. I am the type who loves to listen but don't say much. but it seem you both have a lot in common. Give it another try. If you run into him again, say, I loved our conversation and if you have some free time, i would love to sit around and get to know you better. It worked for me many moons ago, and the young lady became my wife.
2006-11-25 23:15:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your body language was a bit stand-offish, which you admit to... He probably figured out that you weren't all that into him and didn't want to waste any more time trying to make something out of nothing. Just be glad you had a nice date and move on.
2006-11-25 22:56:56 · answer #4 · answered by Stretchy McSlapNuts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thought you were rude and not into him you did not make eye contact what else would he think if you were talking to someone and they did not make eye contact with you what would you think????
2006-11-25 23:01:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didnt think you were interested....no eye contact is a bad sign
2006-11-25 22:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by keith j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he could think your shy. I would apologize if it creates problems, but I would tell how you felt that day and go from there. Good Luck Baby
2006-11-25 22:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not make any sense it was good but i didnt make eye contact bla bla bla bla bla. What is your problem? He is not interested in you because you just like every other chick out there completely goofy and insane! Duh!!! You are a weirdo!!!
Who said you were cool?
Cool chick I think not how about cold, lost, dont know what you want, out in right feild chick. When ever you have to label yourself something your not (cool) it is a red flag.
2006-11-25 22:58:45 · answer #8 · answered by ditzhitz 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋