So there's this dude and he's 17 and i'm 14, he likes me and i like him but i'm not sure if i should be his girlfriend because i'm not sure if he just wants to go out with me for, ya know "sexual reasons", but he says that it doesn't matter if i'm 14 he doesn't want to do anything like that with me and i don't want to do anything like that either, but i'm not sure if i should beleive him or not??
2006-11-25 14:53:03 · 12 answers · asked by Smile :) 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would find someone younger then him, more around your age. Three years doesn't seem like that much of a difference, but in mind-sets it is.. he thinks way different then you do, and no matter how much he says he doesn't want to do any of those sexual things, it doesn't mean he doesn't think about it.
and, anyway, if you did go out with him he's graduating before you and your parents probably wouldn't trust you/him enough to let you go anywhere with him. It'd be better if you found someone younger.
But, don't let my words tell you how to live your life, go with your heart.
2006-11-25 15:03:45 · answer #1 · answered by StarChild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go with someone your own age.
While 3 years isnt that big of a deal the difference between a 14 year old and a 17 year old is a big deal.
I think you would be better to find someone your own age.
Good for you, sex can wait! Just think about having a baby at 14.
2006-11-25 22:55:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Later for boys it takes too much time and energy to figure out wether they are sincere or not. You are at school to get an education always keep the focus on that and not boys i know its hard i have been there before but trust me you will be glad you put all your energy into education instead of some boy. He is too old for you anyway, what could he possibly want with soneone your age besides sex.
2006-11-25 22:58:14 · answer #3 · answered by mdboomskwad.mc4u 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is it an issue? The two of you can begin dating within group settings and go to public events when your on solo dates to begin with so that you can "feel out" his intentions. Being sexual or not is totally up to you. Dating older guys doesn't mean you have to be sexual. Just be who you are. If he can't handle that he isn't worth it.
2006-11-25 22:56:02 · answer #4 · answered by espressoaddict22 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
in most states, when he turns 18, he will be committing a crime if anything happens between the 2 of you. and if a 17 year old male tells you he isn't after sex, he's full of sh*t!!
2006-11-25 22:57:18 · answer #5 · answered by flyby47909 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey iv been there i understand you like this guy but here's my opinion go out with him if you feel strong but most of the time they just want the sex that's what happened in my case and its not worth getting heart be carfull
2006-11-25 22:58:19 · answer #6 · answered by princess10289@sbcglobal.net 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, this guy has to be really careful, because if your parents dont approve he could be legally charged with statuatory rape. Whether you consent or not. If your parents approve I would take him at his word. :You know how to say no. Good luck.
2006-11-25 22:57:17 · answer #7 · answered by janine b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's the easy way out. Look!
Keep him, believe him, and then...
Get rid of him if he ever proposes sex.
2006-11-25 23:01:10 · answer #8 · answered by printsmart102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run!
Then look him back up when you are 18!
2006-11-25 22:56:41 · answer #9 · answered by mypfsman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you wont ever trust him because you're already doubting him and without complete trust in such a relationship it can go up but it always come down harder
2006-11-25 22:55:06 · answer #10 · answered by joey 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋