Please help me i want a boyfriend but i been hurt so many times to where i dont trust some guys now and just only got guy friends but i want him to be more than that but i scared of getting hurt again. What should i do yall cause i relyy really do like this guy a whole lot.
2006-11-25 14:49:37 · 19 answers · asked by Dyanna M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DO NOT. be scared. if ur gonna be scared fo getting hurt again everytime u like someone then ur not getting anywhere at all. so just take a deep breeathe and trust as many guys as u can even if it seems wrong in the end.
2006-11-25 14:52:02 · answer #1 · answered by jessicacd91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I cant really trust guys too. But, mines for a whole other reason. I really really like this guy too. I want to be more than just friends also. But, I was with his sister one day and he was home. We were on the trampoline and we were talking. Well, i decided to give it a shot and trust him. Guess what it worked. He kept all the secrets i told and we've come a lot closer. People are even starting to say we should go out. All my friends keep saying he looks at me a lot. I love it. It makes my day. I was at his house one day and his friend and his sister was telling us we should make-out. We almost did but i was scared. So take my advice and give it a shot. You never know what will happen unless you give it a shot.
2006-11-25 22:59:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound just like me on the trust issue. Life is all about living, loving, learning, sometimes getting hurt, sometimes hurting someone else. Unless you want to close yourself in a box you have to get out there, take your chances with all the rest of us and hope for the best. You know what they say, you fall off your bike, get up and get right back on. Don't let the bumps and scrapes that we all suffer from in life keep you from hoping and dreaming for the things you want.
2006-11-25 22:56:31 · answer #3 · answered by cookiefactory4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hurt makes it difficult to trust yourself. When you get hurt it's easy to feel like you have let yourself down, that you have made bad decisions that got you hurt. Learn to trust yourself again.
Learning from past mistakes is the first step. Learn to recognize those things that are good and bad for you. Then know that you can say "no" to the things that hurt you and "yes" to those that don't. Once you begin making those good decisions again your trust in yourself will begin to be built up again.
It can be a long process. Take small steps; go slow. You will find what you want when you are ready for it. :-)
2006-11-25 22:54:21 · answer #4 · answered by lyf4ce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is going to sound old fashion but it works. Look at how treats his family. If it turns into true love down the road you get married you want him to treat you, your friends and family not good but GREAT. My husband and I met when I was 15. you have got to meet half way. Don't play games but just watch and how he treats other people. Don't go for a guy that is mean to animals. Another thing where are you meeting the guys? if you are bring home a wanna b gangster don't get your hopes up.
2006-11-25 23:18:44 · answer #5 · answered by Erika B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be one , reformed and better-suited this time round.Yet you got to try learning. how much hurt is good enough- enjoying lying down and when to getting driven up till a threshold , where things start scaring awfully , leaving you cheated there on .Remember all ( did well to forget everything and learn even so ) for now you want him a whole lot to ( Again ... ? ) be more than just a ... as you wanted them all be this far .....
2006-11-25 23:33:54 · answer #6 · answered by akshay s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean!! It does suck to get hurt and of course no one wants it to happen again. But, you have to be happy and you have to live your life!! Don't stand in the shadows hoping that if you avoid the feeling, that is obviously very strong, that your heart will be safe. If you don't take a chance then he is going to find someone that will. If he breaks your heart it will mend, but you may find a good thing. He may be the one the love of your life don't be scared to take the chance!!
2006-11-25 22:55:35 · answer #7 · answered by jennikay32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard, but you are just going to have to keep trying. Dating is a trial-and-error process until you find that one guy who either sweeps you off your feet, or someone you can just deal with the rest of your life, either way, you have to find a way to be happy and it might take some time and some hurting to get there. Like they say, Life Ain't Easy.
2006-11-25 22:58:08 · answer #8 · answered by bbhoosier04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take things slow cause no-one likes feeling hurt. Slowly show interest and see if it is being reciprocated how you would like to see it. Trust me, I know, guys that are genuine, will move heaven and earth for a woman.
2006-11-25 22:52:28 · answer #9 · answered by Dudders 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey was up I'm princess i understand how you feel because i was heart bad you just have to get the courge i start dating and don't open your heart to fast open up a little at a time it will help you can party all you want if you see a cute guy than talk to him but dont put all you past and feelings on the table at once it will help trust me
2006-11-25 22:54:24 · answer #10 · answered by princess10289@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋