My fiance does not have a close male friend or sibling to ask as a best man. At first I was relieved to not have to pick between my friends (I've been a bridesmaid in 4 weddings) but now I'm regretting having NO wedding party. I don't want him to feel bad- he moves around so much, it's hard to make lasting guy relationships. He has friends though-- how close do they have to be to ask to do best man? Any ideas for creative ways around this? I've considered just asking my best friend to attend but will that draw attention to the fact that he has no one? :(
2006-11-25 14:48:36 · 13 answers · asked by lifestooshort 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I have been to several weddings where the bridesmaid count and the groomsmen count wasn't equivalent. I think it is totally socially acceptable to have whatever you want as your bridal party. These are the people who are special to you--and especially for a bride, your bridesmaids will definitely help you make your special day smoother and less stressful.
Congrats!
2006-11-25 16:18:12 · answer #1 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don not have to have a groomsmen if he doesn't want any. My fiance also had a hard time due to financial situation his best friend dropped out. Have you thought of having him ask his father? My family also usually has a groomsman who is going to be new family to the groom for example one of the brides cousins. I would try to think of someone reliable because he will be nervous and the extra help will be appreciated. He also my like some sort of bachelor party (My uncle had a baseball tournament doesn't have to be stripper)The "groomsman" could be a female too just in a different colour dress or pant suit does he have a sister or close friend?
If there is no one feel free to have a bridesmaid there are no rules for weddings anymore.
If you can't think of anyone just use who ever is witnessing your marriage(signing the certificate)
2006-11-26 07:59:11 · answer #2 · answered by emmandal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he'll feel bad. If he doesn't why should he have to have someone stand up front with him?
The sides of the bridal party don't have to be even. In fact I've seen some good-sized wedding where there wasn't a party but just the bride & groom. And I just performed a small wedding where there were 4 bridesmaids, 2 groomsmen, 2 flower girls & 2 young boys, just because she wanted them in the wedding.
If you want a girlfriend to be in your wedding then ask her. And no, it won't draw attention to him not having someone.
Make your wedding truly your own.
2006-11-25 15:07:01 · answer #3 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The real purpose for a maid of honor and a best man is that they are the witnesses on the marriage certificate.
Does he have a cousin or female sibling that he could ask? How about the parents standing up on each side?
There should be no reason that you two would need any attendants in the wedding, though it would be nice for the groom to have someone to hold onto the ring for him and it would be nice for you to have someone to arrange your dress.
2006-11-25 14:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by Lizzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can totally have a bridesmaid. It is traditional for a groom to ask not only his brothers or close male cousins, but also to ask the brides brothers or close male cousins. If he feels uncomfortable he could ask someone from either family to stand with him, but it will be perfectly fine for him to have no one stand with him.
The question becomes why you feel you need to have someone stand beside you. If it is just to repay someone for offering a position within their wedding, I suggest you go with your gut instinct of wanting no bridesmaids. You should feel completely comfortable about your decision or don't do it. It is you day as a couple so do whatever makes the two of you happy.
Hope you have along and happy marriage.
2006-11-25 14:53:46 · answer #5 · answered by espressoaddict22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention his father, I'm sure his father would be honored to be his best man. If for some reason his father is not able to do the honors. Also, a best man doesn't have to be a man, my understanding is it's the one person in the world other than the person you are marrying that you want to stand w/you on that day who means a lot to you. I wouldnt' just ask anyone for the sake of feeling safe. He can even ask his mother! If he can find no one then you should have no one so that it will not stand out. Good Luck!
2006-11-28 18:42:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It's perfectly acceptable to have odd numbers of bride/groom attendents - and also for the 'groomsman' to be female. I was once a bridesmaid at a wedding with one other bridesmaid, while the "groomsman" was his sister! She wore a nice dark silver-grey dress, which complemented the groom's suit, while us bridesmaids were in green dresses.
2006-11-25 19:27:28 · answer #7 · answered by vestifarian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he doesn't' need groomsmen if you have a bridesmaid. But he can ask anyone. My sister was my bridesmaid and my husband's volleyball coach (who was married and is older than him) was his best man. But, make sure what he wants. Ask him if it will bother him if you have a bridesmaid.
2006-11-25 17:21:00 · answer #8 · answered by Juffrou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was in the same situation. We asked a cousin of mine to be the best man, and explained why, and he agreed. You do have to have two witnesses for the wedding, regardless.
2006-11-25 23:52:43 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anyone who he considers a mate can be best man even his dad and btw the male equivalent of a bridesmaid is a page boy
2006-11-25 14:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by mwah ha haha ha ha ha haaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋